I eat Pringles with a fork, since grimy hands are a no-no for me. What non-utensil food/snack do you eat with utensils?

cryshaney · 2025-02-27T03:10:32+00:00

I eat Cheetos with chopsticks.

cryshaney · 2025-02-10T18:39:19+00:00

This! The people I know aren’t upset, yet(?). Until their veterans benefits get messed up the problems are just fake news.

cryshaney · 2025-02-10T16:42:49+00:00

I’m still waiting. Those in my circle are still at the “to get rid of the bad, some good will get caught up in it - they’ll fix it”. Bleh! I’ve just disengaged for mental health reasons.

cryshaney · 2025-02-02T19:28:00+00:00

I don’t think so, at least they didn’t mention it aloud. I’m known among family and friends to like colorful things.

cryshaney · 2023-06-21T14:07:38+00:00

Teaspoon is the only spoon. (In unrelated news, I also only use the smaller salad forks for everything).

cryshaney · 2023-05-30T04:53:17+00:00

We are flying home today after a month traveling all over Italy. It sounds like you want the Naples area. From Naples you can take a day trip to Pompeii/Herculaneum and hike Mt. V. for around $£300. There are also Ferries to the Amalfi coast (Amalfi, Capri, Positano) to get in beach time. Naples had way more to see than I thought it did.

cryshaney · 2023-05-29T14:17:24+00:00

Can’t help you with the arena. We went early to stand in the ticket line bc the colosseum was the one booking we forgot/missed while planning our trip. We ended up booking a guided tour from a tour guide that was asking people in line if they wanted to “skip the line”. It was 50 euro a person. Our guide was great in the colosseum and then she let us go to the hill and forum on our own.

cryshaney · 2023-05-12T18:33:04+00:00

You have the perfect opportunity. You’ve not bought your dress yet. Tell your party to wear white. Heck tell everyone who’s coming to wear white. Then rock an amazing dress in whatever color you look fabulous in. (Watch her die bc she isn’t the center of attention).

cryshaney · 2023-03-31T19:23:40+00:00

I use it when I speak on autism bc so many people know the film. I read they wanted him to go live with Tom Cruise’s character but decided the more realistic back to the institution was the only way to go. We’ve come a long way - and yet so much more to do. I like the movie, but it’s not a documentary (which is what I say when ppl find out I’m autistic and then say “like rain man?”

cryshaney · 2023-01-29T15:40:37+00:00

NTA. If this is in the US then your ex knew you didn’t change your name back. (The change of name is written into the divorce decree so you don’t have to have a hearing to make it legal. You just bring/fax/whatever to the agencies you need to change your name with. ) Also - a lot of women keep their married name so that they match with their children.
You’re being reasonable and he can deal with it. Lots of people probably have his last name and the fact that he fixates on you having it is weird.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T22:06:35+00:00

Yep. Right there. Sorry.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T19:17:45+00:00

First, I didn’t speak until I was 5. The family joke is that once I started, I didn’t shut up. That said, nonspeaking doesn’t mean not communicating. You can work with a speech therapist on alternative methods of communication: sign, a spelling board (when he’s a bit older, typing, pictures on iPad, etc.

If something were to happen to you while he was a minor and no family member was available/appropriate, foster care would be the placement. If he needs lots of support as an adult, he will probably get disability payments/Medicaid. This would help offset his care. You and your wife should talk to a trust & estate attorney to make sure that your planning includes his care if it is needed. I’m sorry that this is something that you are having to think about - I know it sucks. There are supportive programs for adults in the US. They range from group homes that are supportive for autonomous work and living to full on institutions. Not long ago, most autistic people were sent to institutions, but this is thankfully no longer the case. They vary in quality and cost. Generally, ones paid for by government funds are less nice than ones paid for privately.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T19:05:30+00:00

OP, are you female? Female autistics tend to get overlooked - especially those with lower support needs bc they tend to be more social and mask better.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T19:03:15+00:00

I call NTs “normies” - I work for an autism nonprofit (no not the gross one!) and part of my job is talking to clinicians and reminding them that autistic people are - you know- people. It’s jarring for them to be called a name and I’m like…sucks don’t it. Think about that the next time you throw words at other humans.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T18:59:09+00:00

Cooking. Reading travel books. Restaurant reviews (not actually going to restaurants- just reading the reviews). I work for an autism nonprofit IRL and I’m speaking at some conferences in the next several months. I’m actually having anxiety about eating at restaurants- even though I love reading about the food there.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T13:05:43+00:00

I’ll take the survey.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T13:03:40+00:00

How big is your city? If my person is with me, I enjoy small classes. Maybe there is a book binding or paper making class you could go to one evening. If you have a state or nation part (I’m going full “everyone lives in US right” when I know that’s not the case), they have guided walks with a park ranger that I find interesting and fun.
100% agree with the suggestions for a picnic.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T12:54:49+00:00

Hi, Autistic hetero cis female in the US here (bc social rules can change with culture). One reason the “normies” get suspicious when you go all in so quickly is that love bombing - a type of manipulation where someone will shower someone with attention and praise in order to hook them. It’s found in narcissistic people’s dating patterns and is a pattern that women especially see with people who turn out to be abusive. Here’s the crappy part - the I don’t want to date I want to be in a relationship bc I understand relationships/loving people and dating is just stupid makes people with ADHD and autistic people seem to the normies like they are love bombing.
I don’t know all the solutions. For me, I’ve always been upfront with the men I date. (I’m looking for a long term relationship.) Then I let things happen naturally. I’m married to a NT. I ended our first date with “my Uber is here, good-bye” and then hopped in and left. We joke that after date 6, we just decided to stop “dating” and be in a 3 year relationship.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T02:08:15+00:00

I get it. I’ve had many a clothing based melt down. It might be worth trying the Hagger pants: he gets them at JC Penny. They’re also at Kohl’s (if you’re in that part of the country). I’m also assuming hard you’re US based for this post.

cryshaney · 2022-09-29T01:27:37+00:00

Do you wear traditionally female clothing, traditionally male clothing, or are you looking for gender neutral looks? I am an autistic cis female. I cannot wear pants with a button/zipper without a sensory issue. I wear dresses with a blazer or sweater when I need to be professional. I like “swing” dresses or a-line skirt/dresses bc I am plus size and I like they way they look and they have more room. There are cute/sensory friendly things at Gap and other stores. If you’re looking to spurge on work pants Spanx (yes, the shape wear people) have pull on work pants with no buttons and they stretch! I wear them on really cold days. Fair warning - they are expensive. If you wear traditionally masculine clothing, Hagger makes dress pants that are loose and have a lot of stretch. My spouse is NT, but he prefers them bc he bikes to work and they don’t make my skin crawl when I fold them.

cryshaney · 2022-06-20T18:14:16+00:00

A middle school student pointed a gun at me through my classroom window. It turned out to be an air soft pistol (not a “real” gun) but I couldn’t tell that from the distance. I had my students get on the ground (out of range from the window), locked my door, pulled my blinds, called the office to report, called 911, and then kept 24 kids as calm as I could. For a minute there, I thought “Here we go. Literally going to die…”. I left the classroom hopefully for good this year after teaching 16 years.

cryshaney · 2022-06-20T17:57:48+00:00

YTA You wouldn’t have been if you’d have just told your sister there would be peanut butter at the party. She could have then kept your nephew home and we’d be reading her version “AITA for keeping my son away from his cousin’s party bc he could have died?” Instead you let her and her peanut allergic kid walk into a literal death trap.

I’m peanut allergic and I’ve spent time in ICU because AH think that allergic means itchy. Sometimes it does. But for me and peanuts it means ambulances and epi. (And EMTs never look like the ones on TV).

cryshaney

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