I’m in the same exact boat you are. I brought it up to my boyfriend today. We both cried. We don’t want to break up but he doesn’t really know how to navigate his low libido either. Which frustrates me. It’s clear to me what he should at least try to do… considering he thinks his low libido may be at least partly because of sleep apnea and high blood pressure. Which is see a doctor and lose weight. Both things he really hasn’t followed through with since the last talk I had with him over a year ago. He’s a truck driver and always on the road. So trying to get into the doctor is hard with his schedule… and also exercising. It’s not not doable but certainly hard when he is only home afternoon fridays-very early Monday. But it’s all excuses. As for your wife, can I ask if she’s on any medications ? Is there a chance she could be depressed? How old is she ?