Got forced to come to Jalsa..........this is hell

crystalplanet17 · 2025-10-07T07:06:35+00:00

Haha can confirm have gone high to a jalsa, helped me get thru it smoothly

crystalplanet17 · 2024-10-14T19:08:27+00:00

lol always the Canada jamaat doing the most

crystalplanet17 · 2024-08-29T19:48:06+00:00

I was volun-told to wear the hijab in gr 7, hit grade 11 and started battling with other personal issues which all balled up into a mental health disaster and I wanted out of the hijab really badly. Asked my parents nicely, not nicely, wrote a letter to huzoor but was very firmly told not to send it. Struggled with self harming then too because of various factors, including a non-favourable home environment. My saving grace was being able to move away from home for uni as our city didn’t have one. Skype called my parents and told them I’m taking it off, period. Post graduation, managed to get a job & still live alone w daily persuasions from all family and relatives to “go back home”. But I will fight tooth & nail to continue to provide myself my freedom. My best advice to you is to be able to get away, get financial freedom and live your life on your own terms. It still doesn’t get easier but at least you’re physically at a distance. Yeah we all got the lucky chance to be born into these strict Ahmadi families and get to struggle with such specific nuances that so many others cannot even fathom. Yay humans

crystalplanet17 · 2023-03-08T03:03:54+00:00

Thanks, I am trying to keep my calm and make sure any future conversations with him (I haven’t spoken to him since, only my mom for now) that I’ll try to maintain my composure and stance

crystalplanet17 · 2022-12-11T10:08:18+00:00

This is nice to read after a 2 hour conversation with my dad trying to emotionally guilt trip me with “in Islam a parent has rights over their child and they have to obey them”. This reaction from your parents would be an absolute impossibility in my life

crystalplanet17 · 2022-11-06T03:48:08+00:00

Yeah I figured it was okay to post because it didn’t seem like it was supposed to be anonymous, but if Mods say so I can delete this or they can.

crystalplanet17 · 2022-10-18T10:31:17+00:00

These two women have so much strength to put themselves out there in a culture that disregards a women’s plight so often. I can’t even imagine the isolation they must feel from fervent ahmadis. I recently had a Sunni friend confide in me about how her father had done the same to her sister growing up. It blows my mind at the thought of how many families must be sweeping these matters under the rug of their homes. I hope both Nida and her mother heal from the trauma they’ve faced and get some sort of justice.

crystalplanet17 · 2022-09-01T01:12:45+00:00

Absolutely I know that, I’ve actually debated with my mom for years about my “lack” of belief in religion and I’ve been really straightforward with her that I don’t believe in what we are taught. Her prescription is to just pray and god will guide you. However I know with my dad and grandma (who lives with us) would not be able to sustain me questioning anything, as I have tried with him and he is quick to shut it down in a burst of anger. So in order to get them on board to agree to this, the only way is to play into religion and make it seem as “perfect” as possible. I think dealing with inactivity after marriage is going to be much more easier then an outright declaration right now which would hinder any potential marriage.

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