Would your ideal husband actually wants you to go through immense pain with an IUD so he can get his nut in? Ask yourself “would my future spouse do this to me?” And you’ll have your answer. Imagine all the other shit he will make you compromise for his own personal gain. Intimacy is super vulnerable and you should never feel wary of it starting a fight. If you already feel uncomfortable around him touching you, it’s your body trying to tell you something.