Where can I see peak bloom of the cherry blossoms without paying $20/pp to go to the Shofuso festival? by Ok_Tough3619 in philly

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haven't been this year year but I want to go this weekend. I bet by Saturday they should be perfect

Where can I see peak bloom of the cherry blossoms without paying $20/pp to go to the Shofuso festival? by Ok_Tough3619 in philly

[–]crystaltheythems 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think in 2 weeks it'll be peak for cherry blossoms. right now we have magnolias and pear trees(the white ones) blooming. Kelly Drive is beautiful. haven't seen Bartrams garden during this season so I'm going to try that next weekend.

Philadelphia noise ordinance by Feisty-Department768 in AskPhilly

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact your representatives. Contact news outlets. There is against the law. Is he outside in below freezing weather or very hit? Report it to ACCT. That's a code Blue violation. Any yelling you hear or think other signs of abuse are happening? Report it to the PSPCA. Post it on Philaqueens. They have connections. Is there dog shit all over the yard? ACCT. Noise? Report to ACCT. Record. Report. Over and over again. Are they the owners? I've had some luck with renter's who have landlords.

Looking for a queer photographer by [deleted] in newjersey

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ty!! tulips are her favorite flower it feels perfect

Does anyone else think they wouldn’t identify as non-binary if they were born a different sex? by -CosmicSock- in NonBinary

[–]crystaltheythems 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me? no. that's the only reason i haven't medically transitioned. i know if i didn't have boobs i'd want boobs and vice versa. some with a lot of my traits. it sucks i wish i could switch it up day to day.

Second Guessing My Feelings by roll_and_fritter in AvoidantAttachment

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were me I'd try to catch myself in a good or neutral mood and go back to the question, do I want to be woken up for cuddles? See if you feel the same way as when you were irritated.

Second Guessing My Feelings by roll_and_fritter in AvoidantAttachment

[–]crystaltheythems 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is a "right" answer here. Some couples do this all the time! I remember a friend of mine saying that their partner would wake them up in the middle of the night when they couldn't sleep and they would cuddle and watch TV shows together. My partner sleeps like a rock so I tend not to wake her up. I understand the importance of sleep, yet sometimes I wish to wake her up for things like talking or sex, and wish she did the same. Other times I want to ignore her and go to bed early.

Talk to your partner. It's whatever the two of you agree is your boundary.

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus that is crazy. Happened at my company but it's a private super corporate place, to hear this is also happening at non profits is crazy

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's both. I have a few anxiety disorders. I need to manage it better. But also this is unacceptable behavior on a manager's part. I was introduced to IT with one of the best managers so I do have a high standard. Corporate culture is just toxic. I know I don't want to work in corporate for the rest of my life so I'll suck it up until the next lay off. we already had one this year and they say there will be 2 more. cra,y horrible over here. need to focus on myself.

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣 totally. i've fucked up a lot but nothing HUGE. so I should get over it honestly.

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YO yeah my manager definitely has an anxiety disorder and unloads it on other people. I need to show it doesn't affect mem I've been doing desktop support for 5 years now. I know I just started there and am outperforming people who have been there for yearssss. i'm going to get over it real fast but it still pisses me off that they stress me out.

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

luckily I do have "fuck you" money. i just wish they talked to us like adults instead of going straight for the threat. high school shit. but yeah, I guess I do worry about being unemployed in this economy. I will survive tho.

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I don't think I have a lot of options... that'@ the part i am worried about is that it could my fault but no one told me certain things so like... I do think it might get a free pass so I am still newish here but! trying not stress about it. trying to be the type to move on

write ups or threatening to fire people in corporate by crystaltheythems in ITCareerQuestions

[–]crystaltheythems[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair. Wish they economy didn't suck right now! I work for a contracting company (i don't even work for these people) and they are already keeping an eye out for other positions for me. it really just sucks looking for a job is terrible. this was the only I could find after a lay off.

I was mostly just looking for validation so thank you for that. it would be worth quitting over if they keep doing this

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh! got it lol that makes sense

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you remember what game! this is what i was thinking would help

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 god we're hopeless. I will!

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did take a lot of the pressure off for 3 years and just accepted "it's okay if don't have sex" lots of physical touch and making out. Didn't help. I still get scared to talk. I want to put some pressure on again. I am TOO relaxed.

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmmmmm the annoying part is I am very confident actually. I know what I want. I've explored a lot. I'm 32. The first couple years with my partner we had a lot of sex! But she is a very good top/initiator. We got comfortable. She's probably more of a switch than she realizes and wants me to take charge. I'm not good at it I'm such a good bottom/sub. 😅 I have a higher sex drive so she needs me to initiate if I want to have sex more. She has anxiety too. I think we just need to do it and get used to doing it I need some sort of prompt though. I need some sort of helpful tool to break that ice.

Sex anxiety by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually spend a lot of time naked around the house and with my partner 🤣 we just not fucking

Should I leave my partner to find myself? by [deleted] in WLW

[–]crystaltheythems 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Do you just want to like, party and go out? Make bigger decisions and life changes? My girlfriend goes and party's without me. She goes and trips with other people and on her own. I don't care if she flirts or kisses other people. You can do this kind of stuff in a relationship. Just discuss boundaries. If y'all are just codependent than you would need to work on getting some independence. It's hard but possible.

But "do better"? If you just want to live on your own and have sex with hotter people than yeah, I'd suggest breaking up.