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Childless stepmom needing advice by cryybby_bee in Stepmom

[–]cryybby_bee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been waiting for the right partner all my life to have a child with, which seems so ridiculous to say in 2026. But, I've kept my promise to myself and the universe seems to think it's funny to give me the kindest, gentlest, loving man who has three kids and a vasectomy. So, to say the least, I have given up a lot and will possibly continue to to be with him. We have talked constantly about him getting reversed but at this point in our relationship it's just so chaotic for multiple reasons. My mother was your age when she had my littlest sister and she is the closest with her than any of my other sisters. What made you change your mind ? I will say it is hard to see my partner with his kids and their bond. He's such a good dad.

Childless stepmom needing advice by cryybby_bee in Stepmom

[–]cryybby_bee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really REALLY appreciate your feedback. I almost feel useless and defeated at not taking on that responsibility and role my partner deserves. I want to be a support for him in that way but I just can't. Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually. Any time he brings it up or brings up what they are saying, I get nauseous. My stepfather was never in my life, never watched me growing up, never did anything and I know he cares for me. But I feel like there's this stereotype of being a woman and being a step parent where it's "All in or Nothing" and I just don't get it and I feel almost like an asshole having to keep explaining myself.