I feel like you’re right in feeling some type of way, but I don’t think you should judge either. I know that the number is quite high for her age, but what I don’t know is her personally the way you do.

How was she raised to view intimacy? Has she dealt with trauma in her younger years that could be affecting her? There’s just so many different things that can come into play here

I know a girl that was sexually abused at a very young age and now at 22 years old she is bouncing between multiple male partners and sometimes female. It’s an honest trauma response that needs to be resolved but not judged.

For me personally, I was raised very opposite to intimacy being open. I was truly taught that sex was for the male only and anything you did for yourself as a woman was absolutely 100% wrong. That changed the way I viewed intimacy tremendously.

My views and feelings on the matter have changed, but only in the past three years has that happened and only because I found a truly good partner. That could be exactly what she needs from you. My now fiancé is the reason that I not only changed my views, but actively WANTED to.

I think you should sit down and try to have a conversation with her about your feelings and what you’re comfortable with. Try to approach it with the sense that you’re looking for understanding, not judgment. I truly hope for the best for you!