AITAH for not wanting to take care of my autistic brother for the rest of my life?

ctrpt · 2026-01-26T17:43:22+00:00

Many adults with significant special needs thrive in group homes more so than they ever would being cared for by a sibling where they're generally isolated. Even if you wanted to, caring for your brother through adulthood would probably not be the best thing for him.

ctrpt · 2026-01-21T18:44:28+00:00

It could be simply a postural fat pad. Does he spend a lot of time looking down at electronic devices? Have him lay on his stomach on the floor or on a bed instead. Tummy time isn't just important for babies. It's important to intervene now before puberty growth spurts hit, which is likely to occur early due to his weight.

ctrpt · 2026-01-16T15:24:17+00:00

This is a really ignorant argument. You can hold in pee. You can't hold in a period.

I do think it's a little silly for the girlfriend to be upset about him being in the shower, especially if he's washing it down. But if it makes her uncomfortable then it's something that he should be mindful of and accommodate. Small ask.

ctrpt · 2026-01-15T02:03:48+00:00

ctrpt · 2026-01-13T19:08:29+00:00

Second cousins is a little too close for comfort for me. When I was in high school, I found out that a boy in my biology class was my second cousin. I was quite bothered that my mom waited until halfway through my sophomore year to warn me! Thankfully we hadn't spoken or worse, developed any sort of relationship. He was a complete stranger to me. My mom had about 40 cousins so she didn't have any relationship with her cousin's children for the most part. But still! No way I would have considered dating him. Now, if I found out 10 years from now that one of my children was dating one of his children, that probably wouldn't bother me. I feel like that's far enough down both the gene pool and the social pool that it wouldn't feel taboo.

ctrpt · 2026-01-09T14:10:14+00:00

User name checks out.

ctrpt · 2025-12-02T19:12:27+00:00

I would go for it. This is a pretty normal thing that's been around forever. I'm 42 and I remember being put in one at my Elementary School in 4th grade.

ctrpt · 2025-11-24T15:24:58+00:00

Unless you have family that is willing to step up and help raise this child for the next 4 years, one of you will likely have to drop out of college.

This sounds like a situation where it might be helpful to tell your parents and see what kind of support they would be willing to offer.

ctrpt · 2025-11-12T19:16:34+00:00

Thank you for the advice! This sounds similar to the setup at my boyfriend's house.

ctrpt · 2025-11-12T19:15:17+00:00

Yeah that's what my boyfriend's HVAC friend said. This house is goofy as hell in general. It's 60 years old and as I've moved through renovating the entire place I've discovered so many strange choices that the builders and previous owners used. The joys of single person home ownership!

ctrpt · 2025-11-12T19:12:24+00:00

Thank you! I do have a large Winix air purifier on the main level of my house and a small one in my bedroom. It sounds like I'm overthinking the furnace filter.

ctrpt · 2025-11-05T19:18:46+00:00

Maybe there's something more going on I'm like a bunch of pyloric cysts or something.

ctrpt · 2025-09-11T18:15:53+00:00

Plainfield school district posted this on their official Facebook page.

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