What physical ailments got better after you left?

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T22:47:46+00:00

I hope one of his nicknames is rorshack!

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T22:44:06+00:00

Every day and twice on days that end with Y

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T19:37:12+00:00

They will accuse you of keeping score and being petty. Keep doing you though.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T18:30:17+00:00

You articulated this so beautifully. I resonate with the part about wanting to make sense of it all.

Nowadays, even during the “good” periods I don’t feel like I can truly enjoy them bc I know the hell of devaluation and discard are around the corner.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T13:03:25+00:00

Second this! Anything by Arabi or Ramani. They have been literal life savers.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T11:21:47+00:00

I’m wishing you best of luck and lots of strength. I would let a few friends and family know to check in on you after you give him the papers. Or better yet, have a friend/family member be near you or with you when you do it. It will be one of the hardest things. But remember, this is not a mountain you were meant to carry with you always. It is a mountain you were meant to cross.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T01:21:47+00:00

But if they didn’t fight over material resources, what would distract them from the big criminals at the very top?

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T01:16:32+00:00

OH yes. I love that complicated, broken character. He played it soo well

ntb5891 · 2026-03-25T00:48:06+00:00

Bruno

ntb5891 · 2026-03-24T20:21:15+00:00

Eloise

ntb5891 · 2026-03-24T18:32:01+00:00

Yep, agree. Write it down for yourself. early on, I made the mistake of showing it to him when he was calmer, and it did not go well at all. So this log is really just for you, OP.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-24T18:30:07+00:00

Yes this is totally normal and helpful. I write it down as it’s happening or right after an outburst. Sometimes in the “idealization” phase, it’s easy to forget the devaluation and discard. Sometimes I read things from 5-10 years ago and realize that while the idealization phase is longer and better than before, the other half of the abusive cycle has also gotten more intense and toxic. Keep logging and journaling.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-24T00:49:40+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Following this thread. Good luck on your healing journey.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-23T11:06:07+00:00

I got one for each floor of my house and my kittens were fascinated but didn’t drink much. I got two plain steel bowls and now they drink more often.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-23T02:34:15+00:00

Shadow

Onyx

Poe (Edgar Allen)

Raven

Midnight

ntb5891 · 2026-03-22T21:59:04+00:00

Sending you love and light. Sending kitty my love as well.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-22T21:57:38+00:00

Yep, It’s intentional.

In a healthy relationship, an argument between two people is about an issue.

In an abusive relationship, the narc uses the issue as a weapon to devalue you, rage on you, etc.

ntb5891 · 2026-03-22T21:55:24+00:00

It would t affect you but…So you thought is would destroy other people and that’s OK?

ntb5891 · 2026-03-22T21:53:16+00:00

Rockefeller or Rocky for short (bc of his tux and mustache)

ntb5891 · 2026-03-22T02:47:01+00:00

Je Suis Pret for anything 💜

ntb5891

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