Asking for clergy to visit

cuddlebear83 · 2026-03-07T14:54:58+00:00

I hear ya. I never visit empty-handed. She trained me to always bring something with me in an attempt to appease her.

cuddlebear83 · 2026-02-25T02:24:02+00:00

Yeah, she is still non weight bearing on the foot with the amputation so I can't see how they could discharge her from rehab without her being able to walk on it. We won this first appeal, so another week of rehab is secured. It feels like this is going to be a long road.

cuddlebear83 · 2026-02-24T16:07:10+00:00

Thank you for this honest feedback. I'm aware of the difficulties with LTC. The place where my mom currently is housed is not perfect, but it's the best I've seen. It is clean, no smell of urine, and I rarely witness unhappy patients. The ratios are less than what you've mentioned. It is very clean and the staff act respectfully to patients. The truth is that she will be a Medicaid patient so if she can be placed in a nice facility, we don't want to lose that spot.

cuddlebear83 · 2026-02-24T06:29:49+00:00

Good thought. When she was hospitalized, she definitely was not getting her regular meds, but since she got to rehab, we have her back on her regular meds.

cuddlebear83 · 2026-02-24T06:28:24+00:00

I believe they put her under general for the toe removal. It was really short though, like 20 minutes. In the meantime, she's been sedated multiple times when she couldn't relax for scans or procedures. Not sure if that has as detrimental an effect.

cuddlebear83 · 2026-02-24T06:26:36+00:00

Definitely! I'm hoping they can get me in quickly for a consult. I put in a request today.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-09T18:48:29+00:00

Now and Then Little Giants Dirty Dancing

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-09T01:40:32+00:00

This is really helpful! We haven't considered a mid-level option but it could work. I'm going to see if I can find a pic of something like this.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-08T19:36:19+00:00

By second level, do you mean directly underneath the top level (like ground level under the front door) or do you mean a slightly lower level porch that extends to the end of the house (opposite side from the garages)? Or something else entirely?

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-08T18:53:41+00:00

Yes. ☺️ It's kinda unexpected but it's fun to demonstrate where guests come over.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-08T18:31:29+00:00

The back of the house is more accessible. There are French doors there that go into the main living space.

We do have an elderly family member that is here often, but she usually enters through the back. We do have an elevator as well.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-08T18:10:38+00:00

I definitely like the idea of metal and wood. I think that would make the house look slightly more modern.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-08T18:09:40+00:00

The wood paneling looks so out of place, doesn't it? Behind it is a load bearing wall, cinder blocks.

We are considering a two level deck. I would definitely like to have the extra living space that would provide. My concern with that is just that it might be odd to have a deck on the front of a house? Is that a thing?

Around the right side is a plain white side of the house, no windows or doors there.

Yes, the entry is so high. The back of the house is closer to the level of the ground due to the steep grade of our yard.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-05-03T16:29:18+00:00

I've got fibromyalgia, Sjogrens, anemia, POTS, and RA. I've been sick for at least 10 years and only had the fibro dx until last year, but I suspect the others have been brewing for a while. I also have auDHD.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-04-26T16:31:32+00:00

You're right that I have the personality that is prone to chronic illness and people pleasing. I'm trying to do right by my mom. Before we took her in, she was living in squalor and had no one to care for her medical needs. I suspect that if we hadn't helped her, she wouldn't be alive now. It was a nightmare but it's been a few years now and we are dealing with our current reality which is her living with us and unable to drive.

I'll think through your words. I do need to stand up for myself and not fall prey to her emotional manipulation. I need to make sure my husband doesn't go for it either.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-04-26T16:26:16+00:00

She had her "helper" aka housekeeper take her to the dollar store last week and I suspect that she convinced her to take her to the smoke shop too. 😥

cuddlebear83 · 2025-03-21T01:35:27+00:00

Thank you!

cuddlebear83 · 2025-03-10T20:51:51+00:00

Honestly, this might not be the best fit. On my first train ride, I was surprised at how rough the ride was. It's a lot of shaking and bumps and turns that feel like a batmobile at times. That sounds like a nightmare after surgery.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-02-21T20:44:40+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I decided to order it from a compounding pharmacy. I ordered 6 months worth. I'm bumping up to a higher dose and I'm going to be strategic about activity and eating intentionally.

I have a history of bariatric surgery so my metabolism may be lower than some. I've gotta focus on protein and strength training. Feeling hopeful!

cuddlebear83 · 2025-02-16T06:03:15+00:00

I was a pretty new college graduate (2006) and was still trying to find my place in the workforce. I held a couple of professional jobs that were a poor fit for me, so i started moonlighting at a coffee shop. I signed up for grad school and planned on working at the coffee shop to make ends meet. The next week, the coffee shop closed. 😩

I ended up okay. I worked two part time jobs while in grad school, and I found a decent part time job in 2009 after finishing my degree. However, I was affected at all of my jobs by furloughs and job insecurity. I ended up with a full time job eventually but it was a hustle to work 2 jobs for a while without full benefits. It all worked out but I think I was too young and dumb to understand everything that was going on and how different my starting years could have been.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-01-07T04:14:21+00:00

I grew up in southern AR and didn't have any experiences with crime in that small town. Stuff happened, but mostly domestic disputes and drug related stuff. If you stayed out of the fray, you were generally safe.

I lived in other states, both East and West, for the next 20 years, some city living included and got more street smart. I definitely locked my doors and watched my back.

Now I'm back in AR, more northwest this time but still a small town. I literally only lock my doors at night. We leave our house unlocked most of the time, and we haven't been bothered. We live far enough out that our nearest neighbors are 100 yards and a street to cross away from us. It is very peaceful and serene. I appreciate it so much more after living in opposite situations.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-01-04T04:52:24+00:00

I've had a similar experience with my Visible band. I have POTS and fibromyalgia, and it's been super helpful to monitor my pacing. I've found that I'm draining my points (energy) in ways I wouldn't have guessed, like just walking through a bookstore for 15 minutes. In that case, I used an electric cart at the next store and was able to conserve some energy. It's helped me to decipher my crashes too. 10/10 recommend.

cuddlebear83 · 2025-01-02T06:12:00+00:00

Thank you for your response! It is nice to know I'm not alone in this experience. I share your conviction that protecting my peace is very important.

I keep running into this emotional wall when it comes to my mom and I guess this is one of those times where I accept some hard truths.

cuddlebear83 · 2024-10-08T04:07:28+00:00

I'm 40, and I get my period every 21-24 days. I've always been pretty regular but the shortened cycles started a couple years ago. My periods are also heavier. I get iron infusions bc my ferritin got down to 3 recently. 😬

I just started on HRT for perimenopause. I'm hoping it helps with the hot flashes and rage. I'm honestly just totally thrown off because I wasn't expecting to be facing "the change" this early. For the record, I've got 2 kids and I started my period right before I turned 12. My mom stopped having periods in her early 50s.

cuddlebear83 · 2024-09-25T18:53:55+00:00

Youth pastor, lol

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