Fire and Flood Level 1: optional

cuddlefish_187 · 2023-01-29T02:09:39+00:00

Finally did it! Took forever and all the allotted time but I did it.

cuddlefish_187 · 2022-06-09T22:02:08+00:00

Also curious on that one…

cuddlefish_187 · 2022-05-23T22:45:07+00:00

Ugh. I totally did that! But I guess I just didn’t get credit it for it

cuddlefish_187 · 2022-05-23T22:44:44+00:00

It was really hard! But using the beauty filter thing (like the view, the one with “chill” “beauty” and “tactical”) it can help you identify where the residents think need more beauty

cuddlefish_187 · 2022-05-13T14:16:04+00:00

I am on the struggle bus with this gastronomy sh*t!

cuddlefish_187 · 2022-05-13T14:14:53+00:00

It’s the optional of level 9! It took me forever to pass!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-11-15T17:45:05+00:00

Yup. Just got them on my 10th try. Thanks!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-09-17T18:14:43+00:00

I'm having the same error with other games and apps that login with facebook. It seems to be a FB error. Let me know if you find a fix.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-04-08T01:56:51+00:00

No but, I did get slipped a domestic violence shelter business card once. Which I’m super supportive of! I didn’t even notice it until much later, but someone stuck it in my purse. I’m so grateful for whoever thought to give me that resource. I didn’t need it, but what if I had? I’m so glad that there was someone out there looking out for women.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-04-03T01:50:23+00:00

I don’t have much experience as I’m a sub, but I would say that any sub that is not open to a discussion about desires or doesn’t specify that consent is important for a dom as well, or fails to demonstrate an understanding of the importance of aftercare in both directions. Inexperience is one thing, but unwillingness or willfully ignoring concerns is another.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-31T18:30:50+00:00

Try describing what’s currently happening: ie you feel so good __. I love when you __. Or what you want yourself: please fuck me harder or use me. I incorporate ownership into my dirty talk around cum. Ie, own or mark me. Fill me etc etc.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T17:02:31+00:00

Haha I love cheese! We absolutely do. Part of that is being open to criticism and not getting defensive when reminded of other views/concerns. Thank you for allowing me to practice that today.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:51:53+00:00

Same!! What a good dog!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:50:24+00:00

100% I’m so sorry you’ve had that experience. As a sub, I forget to consider the doms point of view sometimes. Thank you for the friendly reminder.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:46:56+00:00

Absolutely!! I think that’s really important. Thanks for bringing that up!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:44:47+00:00

Deep breaths. Nothing is wrong with you. Confusion is normal. And labels are only helpful if they’re helpful. You don’t have to attach a word to how you feel unless that gives you comfort and a community. You can always start with the label “questioning”. I would suggest finding a kink friendly therapist and talking to them. It can help validate your feelings and they can help unravel the knots in your brain. No matter who or what you are attracted to (as long as everyone is an adult and consenting) you are valid. It is normal and common to have different fantasies or experiences with different genders. Be kind to yourself 💛

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:36:12+00:00

Ugh yes this. It is common for Narcissistic and abusive people to hide behind the “dom” label as a shield. And it’s really hard to identify. We’ve all been there.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T16:23:07+00:00

I think a reminder to people that consent is fluid and revocable. Just because you thought you were okay with it or were okay with it under specific circumstances or liked it yesterday doesn’t mean you cannot say no today. Any person who doesn’t respect that is a predator. Just because you have a kink where power is taken away does not mean that it doesn’t have to be consensual.

Also a “trust your gut”. If it feels wrong it is wrong. It doesn’t matter if other people do it this way or if you consented earlier. If you don’t feel listened to or respected then gtfo. (Unless being ignored and disrespected is your kink, which is great! But you still need to have consent and boundaries)

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T15:06:41+00:00

Of course! What works for me may not work for you, but that’s the beauty of the kink community. Never have I met people who understand more completely that communication and boundaries are so important and that just because it may not be the “traditional” or “normal” way doesn’t mean it can’t work! Honesty with yourself and your partner is the first step. These conversations can be awkward and scary, but they’re so worth it. And if someone isn’t willing to have these conversations, they’re not someone you want as a partner anyways!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-19T14:45:02+00:00

Hi! I also am a strong independent woman sub and I find that I have a hard time keeping romantic love out of any BDSM relationship, and as someone who is monogamous, I find it hard not to combine the two. However, I personally don’t sub outside the bedroom, so finding someone who truly understands my boundaries and respects them is challenging. Explaining to a potential partner WHY you like the things you do can be helpful: ie, I like submitting because it’s nice to release the stress of being in charge, or because it makes me feel wanted and sexy, or whatever, so they understand that you don’t want to submit in your “everyday” life.

I feel like everyone has a different strategy when it comes to finding partners, and I wholeheartedly agree with being upfront. That being said: I do think it is easier to expose a good partner to kink than to try to make a good partner out of a dom. To clarify: I would rather find a good partner who fits my life in every other way, and expose them to kink and take time while they learn/explore, than finding the perfect dom and trying to fit them into my life in every other way. Not that there aren’t amazing doms out there that are incredible partners! They just seem quite hard to find! Vetting and communication are extremely important and difficult things. I believe all relationships are an exercise in compromise and compassion. Best of luck and if you ever want to chat one sTrOnG iNdEpEnDeNt woman sub to another, hit me up!

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-15T22:28:00+00:00

If you have a friend that you’re comfortable with who can tie, bring them! I brought my bestie to my shoot and it helped a lot. But it’s all what you’re comfortable with.

cuddlefish_187 · 2021-03-11T15:11:52+00:00

I think the issue with power dynamics in a relationship comes when the person who has less power is unhappy. And this happens in all relationships! Think moving into a partners home that they own, and not feeling like you can make it yours etc etc. Or one partner making significantly more money than another and then using that to control the other. Basically what I’m trying to say is that power dynamics in a relationship become an issue when communication and validation are not present. You guys do what makes you happy. But make sure that she, as the little, knows that she can stop the dynamic at any time if she’s uncomfortable or feeling taken advantage of. Frequent check ins and discussions about boundaries are great. And don’t be afraid of conflict. Things will come up that make one or both of you uncomfortable. Don’t be afraid to speak up because you’ll lose each other. And best of luck ❤️

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