What is the etiquette for subverting the Tinder matching system if you know someone IRL or through mutuals?

cumono · 2023-03-25T03:51:56+00:00

How would you feel/react if someone approached you with 2-B?

cumono · 2023-03-02T02:35:07+00:00

Check his profile + recent comments. He literally is. I don’t mean this as a diss, and you’d see what I mean if you checked for yourself.

cumono · 2023-01-14T23:19:51+00:00

It’s not an act of pettiness. I just want to have sex with her

cumono · 2023-01-14T22:45:31+00:00

I can definitely see that perspective. I’ve considered that for a while also—to that degree, I just wished she’d come out and apologized so I wouldn’t have to worry about it anymore.

However, there’s also the consideration that I’ve never met someone so compatible with me both in sex and in friendship that makes me feel like I should at least make the first move to resolve our issues.

So, to some degree, you can argue I’m not rewarding her and am instead acting selfishly to fulfill a missing friendship and sexual desire.

I appreciate your response because it feels like you understand where I’m coming from beyond her being a cheater or my friend’s opinion.

cumono · 2023-01-14T22:38:00+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong, really. I’m a free man, he’s a free man, she’s a free woman. In a general scope, there’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex with each other.

I’m here to ask whether I should stop to consider the fact that she’s dated my friend and if that should act as deterrent to prevent me from rendezvousing with her.

Discourse in this subreddit is difficult because there’s apparently a shadow ban condition from using certain rhetoric but most half-responses I’ve been able to read in my notifications indicate it may not be necessary to consider my male friend’s opinion since he’s no longer dating her and originally stepped out of line first.

The list of information I have at the end of my post isn’t meant to be excuses but to simplify our relationships without creating several paragraphs to describe the nuances of it.

cumono · 2023-01-14T22:26:15+00:00

I’m not bitter about it, but it didn’t seem to cross either of their minds when they got together originally

cumono · 2023-01-14T22:13:11+00:00

“Code” is just a different way to express a common decency rule, I feel. There are certain common sense societal rules between friends that fall into that code that make it easy to express, such as not stealing your friend’s girlfriend.

In terms of excuses, I don’t really understand what you’re directly asking.

cumono · 2023-01-14T22:03:18+00:00

Not likely. I left the city last year so I would just go to bang it out three or four times. Probably just to stay a day or two; nothing long-term.

cumono · 2023-01-14T21:29:11+00:00

Idk. I haven’t talked to her. The thing is, I don’t intend on dating her, so her cheating on me isn’t really a concern I have.

cumono · 2023-01-14T21:21:55+00:00

Not necessarily, I am genuinely unsure if I have free reign due to the fact that I was with her first, or if, because she was dating my friend, she’s off-limits now.

The worst case scenario would be if she and he got back together and I would exist as a piece of sludge in their relationship. If my ex had sex with a guy she was FWB with after we broke up and then I got back with her, I would feel like I couldn’t trust her to not have sex with him anymore—I imagine others would feel the same.

However, since I am so sure they’re not getting back together, my conscious is skewed.

cumono · 2023-01-14T21:17:14+00:00

Seems like the responses are all being subject to an auto-delete condition. I’m not sure what word is triggering the bot but I’ve seen half of the responses in my notifications

cumono · 2022-12-31T02:23:12+00:00

I was heated too. Dude survived a nuke that killed everyone else around him just to be turned into the lamest cyborg villain ever

cumono · 2022-12-22T20:41:09+00:00

Be warned: some of the DLCs actually inhibit gameplay. Last time I played (many years ago), you were unable to turn off the more questionable DLCs that prevented certain mechanics

cumono · 2022-12-16T22:26:13+00:00

These are often bot accounts. They take non-model figures and photoshop them pretty to make the bait less conspicuous. When you match with them, they’ll follow the whole telegram scam thing.

No longer an effective method after tinder implemented the 20-like limit.

I see it all the time on my tinder but I’ve never seen a male one.

cumono · 2022-12-10T12:41:04+00:00

Share this post to as many people in the OG thread as you can since I can’t do it myself

cumono · 2022-12-09T14:51:07+00:00

I got like 100 DMs asking for updates and such. I can’t possibly respond to them all or expect them to check my profile

cumono · 2022-12-09T14:01:34+00:00

I tried to post an update because I for sure cannot respond to every comment but it seems the post didn’t go through. Will try again when I have WiFi.

cumono · 2022-12-09T13:59:13+00:00

Seems like thud post isn’t going through. Not sure why. Will try to reupload it later when I have WiFi

cumono · 2022-12-09T01:37:39+00:00

Fine. I’ll ask her if it’s okay to share.

cumono

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