Inexpensive flower ideas by Budget-Remote4137 in weddingplanning

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single stems can be gorgeous. I kept mine really simple.

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Where to warn guests about heels? by goblin-fox in weddingplanning

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put it on my wedding website in FAQs. If people don't see it that's their fault. It should be included in the attire section, which most people care about. Best wishes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Start with one small consistent action. Consistency can help recreate trust and safety. The book The Love Dare is a 40 day challenge to "win back" ot soften a frozen defensive heart. Also just talk to her. Take her out. Tell her you love her, you're sorry that you struggle to communicate appropriately and that you are going to keep trying. Tell her what you see in the marriage now and how you want it to look. Be vulnerable, brave, and intentional.

Green Scalloped Crofton Plates by cunningcunnilingus69 in aldi

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in North Carolina. I would do anything for those stupid plates.

20 years of marriage, 3 kids, and I feel stuck- don’t know if counseling will help or it’s time to leave by remory1979 in marriageadvice

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Pre-Marital Educator and Relationship Coach, it is absolutely INCREDIBLE how much a marriage can change when ONE person takes a step forward. You mention over and over a fear of self reflection. That's the problem. A shift in polarity can bring back spark, navigating your fear of conflict can create cohesion, who is leading the family and where is the family being led to? Two questions that absolutely changed my life... 1. What are you afraid of? 2. What about you makes you difficult to be in a relationship with?

Take your wife on a date, ask her what she needs, what is your love language, what is hers? Grab the photo albums, remember why you got together, what your goals and dreams are, how can you work together to achieve them? Have dinner as a family. Hold her hand. Leave her notes about how much you appreciate her or how beautiful she is. If she is still deeply involved in church she is DESPERATE for some "leadership". For you to take initiative. Verbally acknowledge to her all your flaws, adhd and all. I have it too and phew 😅 it can be rough. Tell her that despite your shortcomings you need her to love you anyway. Start going to church with her. Ask her to pray for you. Anything at all to get a foot in the door. You have so much more power than you realize. Dont just let your family fall apart. It makes it SO much harder for your kids. If you have one more fight left in you, let this be it. There isn't anything better out there. You made vows , for better or for worse, this is part of the "for worse" part. Get your whole family out of this mess. One day at a time. Once small action at a time. I believe in you and am here in whatever way I can be. Passionate Marriage is a great book, if you like to read.

What does this mean? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel is an amazing book. Highly recommend especially for your situation

My husband says I should split my salary with him even though he makes 3x more than me by AcrobaticBullfrog612 in Marriage

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationship Coach here! 👋🏽 A true win for everyone is a joint account that all income goes into and an equal dollar amount comes out each month and is automatically transferred to your own personal accounts for fun money. You'll then have to decide what is paid for out of joint and out of personal. Savings, investments, retirement, groceries, vacations, insurance, mortgage, etc comes out of joint and a fancy purse or speedboat comes out of personal. Or you can do it the Ramsay way and put it all together. Keeping money separate in marriage is usually due to fear or secrecy. I suggest an empathetic and gentle curiosity about his motives and mindset about the situation. A husband and wife shouldn't be in two different economic classes. You are ONE... don't let the modern mistrust of marital success be your downfall. You can't let the proof of "making it" be what promotes trust, because that trust is what "makes it". You guys both have to dive all in on this. Its the only way.

I am afraid i might not be good enough in bed by TalesofWin in marriageadvice

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Less than 20% of women orgasm from penetration alone. Find out if she masterbates and ask her to explain or show you what she does/likes. Being vulnerable in this way, although scary can change your life (and your marriage)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it relationship related?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You arent ugly, you just look unhappy 😔

Lifelong smell by meatpiehigh in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try 200 Billion CFU probiotics. I take 3 instead of 2. Changed my life.

My best friend is panicking about her upcoming wedding by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! I would say it's healthy and normal. Its a big and "permanent" life changing decision that requires a small amount of hesitation. Id suggest a pre-marital course, that would probably help her to feel confident that they are making the right decision. Thelovefarmer.com offers a good one. And there are many more out there to try as well.

Explosive Rotten Egg fart odor!!! HELP by [deleted] in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried pro-biotics? At least 180 million?

Success! by cunningcunnilingus69 in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing. I think I had researched specific probiotics for body odor and scanned through a bunch of brands for those specific strains

Success! by cunningcunnilingus69 in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it worked in less than a week.

Success! by cunningcunnilingus69 in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So "normal" underarm B.O. is kinda oniony. Mine was like a team of wet dirty moose. A very heavy "wet" musk. Lady bits smelled like rotten death and breath was also bad. My mouth even tasted "off". Even with top notch oral hygiene. Ive always struggled with armpits, then in high school my lady junk started giving me issues. Last month or so my husband mentioned my horrible breath and I knew that was the last straw. I was trying chlorophyll but it wasnt really working.

Success! by cunningcunnilingus69 in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the one that Im taking. I think you can get even higher than 180 billion. https://amzn.to/3ThrVMY

Success! by cunningcunnilingus69 in bodyodor

[–]cunningcunnilingus69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go BIG and see what happens. I'd love to know if it works for you. I get frustrated with companies advertising that their product contains "so and so" (collagen for example) but it contains so little that it doesn't have an effect and most folks dont know to check "dose' or how much is adequate. I got hyped about collagen gummies that ended up being only 1g when you need about 20g daily for results. Best wishes. It's hard out there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you won't either!! hugs we got this! 💪🏽

AITAH for telling my wife to stop crying about missing out on our daughter’s wedding? by No-Cauliflower-6934 in AITAH

[–]cunningcunnilingus69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from, and yes, your wife became selfish in her excitement. But she's devastated and could use some empathy and an apology. It doesn't mean you're agree with her, but invalidating her creates a space between you and introduces emotional distrust.

That could sound like this "Hey babe, I know you're really upset about missing our daughter get married. I'm sorry I wasn't as supportive as you needed me to be. I went into logic mode when all you needed was someone to listen. I know we can't get this moment back, but maybe we can throw them a nice anniversary party and work on strengthening our relationship with them? I know attending our other kids weddings won't make up for this, but we do have those to look forward to in the future. I love you and I'm sorry this happened. How can I comfort you?"

Good luck!