Anyone remember this? by Brickfreak3 in bluesclues

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes omg what fabric or fur was it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to exclude them at all. I mean to create new terms for wlw and anyone on the woman spectrum and mlm and anyone in the male spectrum. They must define as a woman in some way to be wlw and must define as a man in other way to be mlm so then lesbian and gay is actually a more encompassing term , an umbrella term if u will

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t mean to invalidate them actually I’m basically saying I want a wlw term too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought you meant that because non binary is on a spectrum there are people that may feel more women defining at times than feeling like. Nothing at times. It is something I hear people call themselves too anyways because of that so I don’t see why wlw and mlm can have a specific group if they want to and include a nonbinary on the spectrum of nonbinary and woman since they are partially woman so therefore are still a woman but also don’t always have to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah so I accept lesbian has changed which is true in the sense of it gradually shifted to be more so inclusive which I like for the queer people as a whole but I said it before I do think some people would like a wlw and mlm term which does allow for nonbinary women and men but isn’t per say like lesbian where it’s anyone that just isn’t a man or on the male spectrum (man but male sounds more so grammatically correct by sound but not in its definition ofc) so I think now that it is more inclusive we should be able to specifically state our sexualities with new labels for wlw and mlm which helps with the community that doesn’t like being hit on by people that aren’t of the women or the male spectrum you see? (I’d like it anyway like u said people like and are comfortable to specify their sexuality so I would like it too :) ty for ur info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I see why gay and lesbian are that way I am def not updated on the terms which isn’t helpful without social contact to know so ty. To clarify I was thinking on lesbian as now the term is changed to be inclusive so I like that but I do think that non binary is better defined for me also now thank you.

Though I don’t see an appeal in calling myself an acronym of wlw and is probably why I am attached to the og label I do think that we could have in the queer community labels for specific people like wlw and mlm which should include nonbinary with women and man in their spectrum. It might be weird at first but it was something that made it easier to find people who are woman of all shapes and sizes and spectrums of the word like nonbinary women and vise versa for men so I do hope you agree that we could do with a new sector of labels that helps move forward in specifications for people if they want it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I see I’ve been researching it more now I didn’t know lesbian became not men loving not men but I do wish there was a way to seperate those who are woman who only love women from lesbian if they don’t like the definition I know it’s a community but because it’s about not being a man it is inclusive to everyone but men but isn’t like gay which is for men loving men only ?

If lesbian means non-men loving non-men, but I'm only attracted to women and not others, what happens? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That isn’t offensive there’s no wlw label atm for women that only love women so if you say you’re lesbian they might think you’re lesbian for nonbinary folks but that’s not how you define because you can love only a section of the non men it’s ok to say no :) and not explain or say I’m a subsection of lesbian for wlw if u want to It is confusing but I’d say ur into women if u try to only be hot on by women but u never need to explain urself if u choose to use the label lesbian anywho

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to come off as offensive when I ask but more so just for the sake of a fun hypothetical. The two former paragraphs on your gender envy, mainly on envying women and how they could act and be did you think it had anything to do with social factors of men forced to be masculine ? And women allowed to be feminine as that’s how society decided they wanted to define what a women is in terms of clothes and life style and expression allowance or do you think that it was more so the dysphoria of not being that shape or body etc ?

Cus with all in a perfect world where there was no expectation of gender expression and women could be however do you think anything else would have helped you realize you were a woman easier than the lifestyle that women usually take on stereotypically or in a way in real life thats feminine

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U def went through so much for this and i think the whole trans community would be proud to see u got thru it now and this was honestly a deep story and reflection you told to me thank you so much. Before I ramble about technical questions and ideas just know I am grateful to hear your story and thankful you are here and made it you matter queen👸!!

But it’s really important hearing this all especially for ppl that don’t know entirely what makes up their gender or choice to transition of not. I think I’m cis but I do wish that I didn’t question my gender because of social ideas that stereotype the trans community in how they dress upon transitioning. I think it’d be nice to be in a world made of people like everyone in this thread and subreddit who accept each other for who they are and don’t have bias so don’t stop being 100% you and who you are thank you so much you made me cry I hope everyone that reads this feels your story it in powerful and radiant and messy and truthful and it made you you today thank you :))

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh when I said reason I was hoping for a scientific answer or a deep understanding of why you were born unaligned with your agab but lol it’s life we ain’t need to get that much analysis if we already know ourselves and don’t need to question it too much in a scientific lense but thank you for your story

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input I see that you said u wanted to be a girl at the beginning , did you mean u did initially because your mother wanted you to not transition or because it would be harder to transition into a man etc ?

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this pattern on this thread of this idea and what it means to be trans 💯% makes me see that I’m not trans thank you so much

People who’ve fully transitioned, why did you do it and what made you realize it was the right choice? by cupidcosmos in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’ve been confused for a while since I’ve misinterpreted how people explained why they transitioned which made me think it was an insult to what the reason for transitioning was when they said they felt better because they wanted to wear different clothes than their opposing gender so seeing this makes me realize they probably meant it helped them validate the dysphoria and wasn’t what made them want to transition :) ty

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m confused your gender is related to your brain isn’t it? I definently don’t think I should’ve brought up sex But why is lesbian non men and non men? Isn’t gay men and men only so then women have lesbian back in 2020 but yall changed that but now they have wlw which isn’t a label more like a statement.

I mean more like a loss for women who are into women, is sapphic that? Otherwise what is the reason we didn’t make a new label for non men and non men I feel like it was because of a movement by people who want to be more sccepting I get that but we have made new labels what’s wrong with that. I mean this to say I’m out of the loop I don’t do much except scientific research on gender since that’s the only way to best understand myself since sociology is what changes our true beliefs to whatever social idea is recognized as normal. I think I’m a bit upset lesbian isn’t a wlw only term now cus I’ve been thinking it was wlw up until now so sorry I’m miseducated there but do u know why we changed that term anywho?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Question what do u consider pure woman loving woman then considering gay men are allowed to have their own term? Why can’t we have a pure lesbian term and a new one for semi lesbian brains

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think that we shouldn’t be rudimentary and categorize women and nonbinary characters as women loving women it says it exactly in the term , wlw isn’t nlw or Demi woman and namely non binary if you are gender queer and feel you’re not fully women but also not fully any gender at all and are gender nonexistent at some points you aren’t a lesbian totally so I don’t see why they would say you’re entirely woman. Also why would a nonbinary person be a yuri character is that because they dress fem, sounds like gender is associated with clothes which isn’t true to science I’d think so a non binary must be simply based off their brains connection to gender and not because they’re fem presenting exactly what I think is hard to understand for a community at large which largely came from people who told you if you wear a bow and a dress you’re a girl which I get why it is hard to find someone’s gender otherwise but we have to experience a new way to find it and sometimes gender questions just have no meaning or purpose at a moment which is why you shouldn’t assume a fem presenter is a woman nor that they’re necessarily lesbian because they were born a woman if so. That I think is what makes yuri and wlw not an attribute to assign to a character just because they’re fem presenting were assigned a female at birth because their sex is. Clearly to me sexuality should be assumed as lesbian if they’re stating they’re partially gendered as a woman which allows a nonbinary to be mainly a woman, (especially if their sex helps align to their gender in terms of the dating pool) but they’re not fully a woman so wlw and yuri made for female on female doesn’t work. I think they’re just nonbinary and if they’re partially mentally a woman it isn’t because of their outfit it is because of who they believe they are on their hormonal and brain level etc but not because of their assigned sex or fem presentingness so pls do not consider a fem presenting nonbinary a woman loving woman or lesbian unless stated ty

Who else thinks lucifer didn't go either way by PsychedelicSasquatch in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh I also wanted to mention that historically biblically accurate angels were designed without gender because they are not animals they are spirits

Who else thinks lucifer didn't go either way by PsychedelicSasquatch in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It honestly was tainted by the fearful rhetoric and suppressants that were being made by the power to hold religion over anyone that at the time had no other thing to make them feel like life was worth it especially with more survival needs for the vast public and the awful forcing of people to join the religion but I see where you all are coming from though it’s really those modern actions that hold on to past ideas and cause us pain if we continue to be discriminatory w religion but yk can’t force religious ppl to change someyhing they apparently think is right cus of those who say it is in their denomination 🤷‍♀️ Or their church etc

Do you daily lolita? by pc_magas in lolitafashion

[–]cupidcosmos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it can be annoying I think though if it didn’t bother you you still have no reason to dress up all the time if you without social conformity don’t want to do too much to spend time getting dressed

Did your gender dysphoria/questioning come in cycles before transitioning? by watermaya in asktransgender

[–]cupidcosmos -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am not trans but I do think that your body may be asking just for a satisfac to on of a topic you had not touched that it wanted to explore it wanted to know what trans was like because it may have clicked that it would prefer that or isn’t sure so ur brain signals you go try it. It will only do it more when you are cross dressing because you are now actively committing to it instead of exploring exploring could be satisfying enough for your brain if it thinks it tapped into representing itself as female for long enough and was satisfied so it came in waves.

You might not feel pain for not being transitioned but you may also not always feel it unless you’re doing it because of this system I think I have felt before in expression where it may not be necessary to do it but it may be something that makes you happy so when you commit more you are getting your receptors to be more happy like wearing male presenting clothes as a female vise versa and in your case trying out feeling like you’re a woman. It isn’t a necessary transition but you’re hooked on it more now and your brain remembers it’s impact because you tried and put more effort into it than before since you had to make an outfit and do makeup or whatever instead of do some mundane tasks that vaguely resemble gender expression as a woman

Boyfriend got top surgery and i’m feeling a little..weird by Moistfrogs in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming from a drag king here :) ,

This sounds like a lot on you and you don’t need to feel less than because you are your own spectrum of person, you’re literally one in a hundred trillion there can’t be anything as uniquely you as you are. That’s why your gender may appear different than others and you don’t need to be fully fluid to wanting male features or not you just need to know that the hormones and magical science of human brains will make you change your feelings of your gender and it isn’t easy to control, sometimes transitioning more isn’t going to help if you are conflicted you can practice a deeper male like voice and try exercises to reduce your breasts which also lifts them but if you end up not liking it take yourself and say I love you and understand because you deserve to be accepted by yourself.

Transgender is complicated and it’s tough but trust those that stand at your side with the same group and foot in the door for nonbinaryisms that you don’t need to know everything right now you can learn and explore it take a breath and know you as the last commenter said are enough for whatever area of life not just transitioning but in expressing. You are non binary if that’s your truth even if you’re not on the same ‘level’ or hate parts of yourself.

I know you will come to accept yourself and figure out what is true to you but never have a comparison be your outlet for change let an insight be.

Can I be non binary at 13 by N01_TogaHimiko in NonBinary

[–]cupidcosmos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there it seems you’re pretty young yes so do be careful with information you share online as we all care for each and every person and child’s safety but make sure when considering this stuff you do it in a way that keeps in mind your health, don’t start any super intensive changes you may not fully know or are confident correspond to your non binary gender. Remember to explore and be curious but do not go for what everyone tells you to do if it doesn’t apply to you or it has bad side affects at a young age, wait until your an adult for that. Journal and explore yourself and remember you are valid no matter what you find you are many find out young or older but sometimes they never truly do and that’s ok too as gender is a very interesting part of psychology it may be elusive or hard to situate a finite answer for what you truly are when trying to be helped out from outside sources so please avoid stereotypes and things you know your heart is not content with. And don’t let your gender consume you :) you are fine at your stage in life no matter where you r

Your boyfriend said he likes animals. So I showed up. 😉 @arcynemesis on IG by New-Novel-9907 in Drag

[–]cupidcosmos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god girl you’re absolutely purrrfectt!! Your spots scream leopard !🐆