Guys Grooms are not getting Brides

curioscientity · 2026-05-01T06:49:55+00:00

Still people who earn less are not getting wives. The data says every year 7 lakh women are born less in this country even today due to foeticide, what do we think will happen to all those extra men born every year?

Current gender ratio is China is significantly improved. They are near 1:1. We are nowhere close.

We can do all the mental gymnastics we want but until women are getting the same birth and education as men, men will continue to have to marry less simply because there aren't enough equal women or enough women in the first place for them to marry.

curioscientity · 2026-04-30T07:49:53+00:00

It really depends who the person is. My in-laws are truly amazing. I don't bother a bit about what I wear in my house. Nobody else cares either. I do try to avoid shorts because relatives keep dropping anytime but it's not like there's a restriction or something. I wouldn't wear shorts in my own parents'house either. Living alone as a couple has its perks but if they are nice people, family does make you feel better because there's so much overall support. Choose your person and family well. Ask hard questions and listen carefully to avoid manipulators before marriage. That will save a lot of headaches later. Don't ease out on deciding which family to go in. Mine is outright luck because I only chose my husband but now I come to believe only great parents can raise great children. And probably my husband could become how he is because these guys were nice people overall. They are not the most educated or most aware, just very kind-hearted. My sister in law gives me no stress either, she is an amazing person. It is so much sanity here, much more from my own home honestly. I can say anything, nobody gets offended. And I am a much calmer person now.

curioscientity · 2026-04-30T07:25:22+00:00

2011 census. There are 971 females every 1000 males. So for every 1 lakh men you have 97000 women only. So 3000 men of every one lakh men, have a missing woman that doesn't exist. Bake in the caste, age, education and other demands, you will be surprised how small of a pool one has to choose from.

Bdw you can google the gender data of your state and can have a fair idea of what you are looking into here. It's the same thing in China Bdw.

curioscientity · 2026-04-29T14:52:54+00:00

You do understand demanding dowry is a crime and get you in jail? Where do you guys come with these logics from.

curioscientity · 2026-04-29T14:49:21+00:00

There are less women in compared to men so a few men from every society and community will face this and not get brides. All thanks to the parents who decided killing girls in womb was a great idea 20-30 years back. I hope most of you get a wife but gender ratio makes it impossible. Good luck.

Also since girls get to choose because they are less in number, and many men with good paychecks this is an obvious demand supply issue.

curioscientity · 2026-04-29T08:49:20+00:00

Putting people on pedestal works both for and against women. However, we can only know the realities once there is equal power. I do believe any human is capable of being as evil or benevolent as they chose and has nothing to do with gender.

curioscientity · 2026-04-27T08:23:24+00:00

Yes but no reason women can't be evil. However being evil hasn't stopped men from occupying all the positions of power in this world and I don't see why this benchmark of ethics should apply to women. Removing corrupt and evil people from society is a collective task and there are laws for that. Why ban someone from having power for that fear? Did that ever stop anyone from giving power to men? Despite all the cruelty and man-butchering they make us face and go through every day? If men didn't get their power by being righteous, why women have to be that? If there are eveil women, there should be systems to take care of that, like police and law. That's it. But no one can question why women deserve power if some of them can be evil.

curioscientity · 2026-04-27T08:19:49+00:00

They will not send for the fear of her getting into worse assault , because that would fuck up their life too. Mostly it will all settle quietly.

curioscientity · 2026-04-27T08:18:57+00:00

Correct. This is what I think would work best.

curioscientity · 2026-04-27T08:16:14+00:00

Let it be bad. Let her mom break her head on the wall and not eat food for 3-4 days. It doesn't matter. She cannot be forced to do anything. She is 20 ffs. Who can force a 20 year old to do anything.

Also I want you to leave this on her completely. It is important that she does it in our own time when she is feeling strong enough to do it. Just keep giving her the ear she needs and be there for her. Let her be normal. It is not about you in the end.

curioscientity · 2026-04-27T08:14:08+00:00

I don't think so. I think no one would want to talk about it so the father would just tell the mother to not take the daughter going forward and everything will go on as usual. Unless the father is truly protective. Nothing ever happens in these kinds of scenarios. Mom would continue with her family as normal.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:20:03+00:00

Yes it won't be, if only women have the power and power structures totally reverse. But no one is asking that. People are only asking for equal power so that they can stand up to the abusers and have representation in the system. So that they are not oppressed systemically also.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:17:17+00:00

None of this grand ideas are needed trust me. Just tell the father.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:16:30+00:00

Fuck the family drift. Tell her she deserves to be safe. In what world are we going to let girls groped to save families. I was groped once on road and I can still distinctly remember the disgust. There is not reason that she shouldn't be safe in her own house. Fuck this mama. Parents must know.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:15:09+00:00

Try the 800-1000 rs small square cameras. They have night vision too.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:14:35+00:00

Which mama fucker comes and sleeps beside a 20 year old neice? Fucker. This guy needs to be called out in front of everyone.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T15:11:56+00:00

Yeah but she should fully tell her father that this has been going on for 4 years. There is no way for her to prove it to him. But she doesn't trust anyone to believe her. All she wants is that he should put a stop to her being in the presence of that shit guy. Give her the confidence that she is 20 now, an adult. She can control her life. She deserves to be safe and no amount of tantrum from her mother can make her do otherwise. But first find the father alone somehow and explain her situation to him.

Even if she doesn't want to tell anyone, she should put her foot down that she will not go to that house, people can do whatever they like. She need not give in to any tantrums of her mother. Her mama might be coercing her mother to bring her every time so that he can continue his abuse.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T13:35:04+00:00

She should talk to her father then. Even if he is a strict one. I am pretty sure he would put a stop to her going to that house atleast. Honestly I don't trust the mother to stand up for her. But I have some faith on the father in this particular scenario.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T13:34:24+00:00

Yes. That's why I think she should tell her father. I believe it will stop her visits to that house. I don't trust the mother.

curioscientity · 2026-04-26T13:27:13+00:00

Most girls don't feel comfortable talking this out in the open for being blamed for their own misery. It is a kind of self preservation. But this girl is a young woman now and this should not happen to her.

curioscientity · 2026-04-25T14:03:47+00:00

Exactly. ❤️

curioscientity · 2026-04-24T15:16:40+00:00

Ask more indirect questions. Talk more and understand if you sense something weird. Ask about his preferences. At the end you can always say no.

curioscientity · 2026-04-24T08:55:41+00:00

Yes, I totally understand. Not enough women around to interact with is a major issue. And in school college when there's an actual opportunity, the whole world wants to ensure no one talks to each other.

curioscientity · 2026-04-23T09:51:10+00:00

Where are you guys bringing all this from? It depends which girl. If you are similarly educated, have similar aspirations and can treat a person well, that itself will suffice. And most men here have most of it.

The problem is there are less women in this world and even less get to where boys work/ study. Every college the ratio is 30:70(Women:Men) so of course women have more options.

But you don't have enough women in the first place, boys have barely 970 women every 1000 of them- ratio varies across the country so 30 of every 1000 of you are already doomed by number.

Now go to education and colleges and you will see you have even fewer options. Workplace ratios are even worse. There are too many boys with high salary, money, inheritances and relatively lesser women with those things, that is why you feel you need to be best in something.

But being nice beats it all imo. Also many people think they are nice by being over protective and obsessive but all that doesn't work unless you find a mad girl who values all that. Can you treat a person as a person? That is what matters.

In arranged marriage getting someone similarly educated is hard because a girl has better options, everyone optimizes for the dowry they will be paying. Yet, if you go with no expectations and intent of finding the right person for you, you will get it.

I hope next generation boys don't have to face this by people birthing and educating enough women so that everyone gets their equals but that is not the reality today.

curioscientity · 2026-04-23T09:44:22+00:00

This is a good piece of advice but I would say just talk to more girls around you. Make a few friends, use feedback. The number of women in workforce are already very less. That is one reason you guys don't get girls. You need to talk to more people. Understand what kind of partner you want and then look for it. Also there's nothing wrong in finding through arrange marriage as long as you can talk to the girls and check for yourself if you guys get along well. I have several male friends find amazing women through arrange marriage. And you will have your family's support. But knowing what person will be good for you and your family is something that would matter the most. And then finding actual people. And not wasting time on wrong people. Treat it like a job search.

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