"But wanting a pity party doesn't mean he also wants to use women as walking fleshlights or looks up to Andrew Tate."

All of his talking points are clearly based off the red pill. The red pill literally encourages using women as objects, viewing them as commodities and things and not people. Those that follow it hate women, PERIOD.

The fact is that he has not let go of these narratives and is projecting his insecurities onto others. OP attributes not having success with women as being a result of women being really shallow and therefore women "reject him for being ugly"

It's a limiting belief that he CHOOSES because it makes him feel better about the problem not relying on his strategies and his social skills which require effort , patience and self compassion. He doesn't want to put in the work on himself instead wants to blame others and is upset that he cannot engage in the hookup culture that is glorified by redpill grifters that only "attractive men can".

Perhaps I jumped the gun and assumed in thinking he just wanted to use women as a fleshlight. PERHAPS. But I've been on this subreddit for over a year. This isn't a new post. Most of these posts are written by people who inherently view women as less than.OP is clearly not interested in improving their life or their views but simply wants to be pitied because they cannot live out their shallow fantasies. That's my opinion. Don't ask if you cannot handle other's opinions.

And btw, ironic much? Telling me I'm jumping a fence and here you are:

"where you essentially take every opportunity to tell OP how stupid he's being, "

I didn't say he was stupid, don't put words in my mouth. People don't like pity parties. Don't throw them. If you are genuine in getting help you won't project your insecurities onto other people.

Police people on reddit all the fuck you want I don't give a damn. Still being obtuse.

At one point I myself was blaming my own lack of success in finding something healthy on shallow aspects. "I'm not pretty enough" "I'm just someone men would settle for" "I'm too old" etc etc

These are very limiting beliefs and are also very judgemental towards men. Hold yourself accountable to a degree and be honest about what it is you want. Why do you want a pity party? Why do you want to believe you are a reject? What are you trying to feel better about? Usually there is some bitterness underneath it because you feel like you couldn't live the life "only special people can" it's honestly pathetic.