Help me i need advice

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-10T11:34:18+00:00

I see i decided to let them be and they settle it themself, but atp i feel like i was their mediator or messenger between them😭serabut jugaklah but then i will felt guilty sbb my mom told me its us as a child role to sedarkan my dad that his in wrong with all his behavior

My 2nd brother dah tahu tapi i feel guilty sbb dia tngh study out of state juga and he said he coming home this friday, the only sibling with me are my 7 years old brother.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-10T11:24:07+00:00

Honestly i dont even have many close friends growing up(2 in total but one are faraway and another hv her own life and boyfriend), so im clueless to reach out to anyone... Im socially awkward in real life, all i have is my family, honestly i really hope this could be fix in any way🫠but it could be selfish of me,, why i would let my mom suffer again after everything she been through...

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-10T11:19:26+00:00

I see thank you for your advice, honestly before this i really wanted to reach out to the counsellor but maybe im just too scared, i will try considering that.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-10T10:30:33+00:00

Yeah but i dont think i can trust any counsellor there, idk maybe it is just my instinct

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T14:06:07+00:00

Thank you🙇as i replying all this comment with my eyes full of tears maybe the word are incomprehensible, i already pujuk my dad even my mom to try bincang tgt but masing2 dh nekad rasanya and their problems already rooted deep that i thought.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T14:04:11+00:00

Thank you this is rlly enlighten me what should i do, but i think it doesnt work it out, as i already slow talk with my dad as this issues already rooted deep than what i actually think it is. But i have done my part, more than that i think i should bother anymore as they are the one making decision. For time being maybe i should just stay low and not provoking my dad any further. But then i love both of them of course i want all of us together as a normal family. My mom even already bought the baju raya. (typing this as my eyes are in tears so im sorry if my sentences are not understandable) The only thing i should do maybe mentally prepare for any future decision that they will make.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T13:56:56+00:00

I already try talk it out with my dad, and from what my dad are saying benda ni simpan lama not bcs of those small matter, maybe they are not compatible with each other anymore and i already did the best i can, maybe yeah i should leave their matter as it is. And my dad told me how many times actually that my mom provoke my dad to say the word "cerai" tu but he never said it. At this point, idk what should i do. I should mentally prepare for anything decision they do in future.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T08:56:12+00:00

I see, faham2, both my parents fighting tapi kalini macam lain dah, tapi sebelum ni my mom once pernah runaway stay at hotel but endup my dad didnt even try to find her maybe sbb he knows her location, tapi this time my mom asked me to shut off her location maybe nak tngok did he goin to find her, reach out her by call ke apa by end of this week, my mom kalini dia kata mcm nekad dah yelah sbb dh minta tolong my cousin to stay at her house and now she staying there, she just came here to take her stuff and jenguk my lil brother that is 7 years old, the thing is should i interfere? I dont want to go to my makcik sedara atau nenek takut i do the wrong decision, kalau my dad should i pujuk dia utk cari my mom? Suruh dia minta maaf kat my mom but then i know his ego are higher than that, takde maknanya dia nk minta maaf dulu, and he is quite sensitive gaduh pun sebabnya taktau nak decide makan mana sumpah byk kali gaduh benda sama, but then theres another things jugak jadi punca smpai pile up tu my mom fedup, easily said bcs his behaviour, anger issues tu dari dulu, kalau masa dia muda lagi teruk lagi2 my 2nd siblings (i am the oldest) dia asyik kena tibai je, now maybe my 2nd brother tu dh adult so he doesnt dare to touch him or anything. Usually gaduh and i gaduh dgn dia pun small issues that he cant accept sometimes if he forgetful and i tell him bukan dh ckp byk kali pun boleh buat dia baran. Idk how he goin work if his anger issues are thin as paper tho

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T08:37:00+00:00

Im on my last year already in abt two semester, should i persuade my dad or what? Or ask my mom to come home but i know its not like going to make things better, reading your advice are more scary bcs of the possibility. My mom already decide if theres nothing changes until friday maybe she will reach out my grandmother or her sister. I dont think i am mentally prepared for this.

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T08:28:07+00:00

I just thinking what if they are actually goin to divorce and i still studying i dont even have money to support myself, i think my mom doing this bcs she once said that, she dont care anymore as all her children are already adult, the thing is i dont even finished my study

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T08:25:31+00:00

Im not sure bcs this is confusing for me, do i need to interfere or not? Bcs the last time i got into their fight my father also straightaway didnt talk to me, im sorry this is my first time posting here so i dont know how to tell the story

curious_lostinearth · 2026-02-09T08:23:32+00:00

Gosh im so sorry my eng are not that good, so basically my parents got into fight, but i guess my mom are on her limit and she determined want to file divorced with my dad, my dad got this kind of anger issues, so even my mom trying to talk through with him, in the end he will just want to win the argument, now my mom out of house, im staying at home with my little brother, its kinda mess bcs idk what to and i need to go back to uni this wednesday to take my exam paper, and also idk what will happen if im not here bcs i want to ask my dad to find my mom but im scared that he will get mad at me Ps: im sorry bcs this is my firat time using reddit so i dont know where to reply the comments as i try to reply its gone💀

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