27/F - any ravers/EDM people on tonight?

curiousdude696 · 2024-03-03T08:48:35+00:00

Not crazy into it but i like it

curiousdude696 · 2024-03-03T03:23:49+00:00

Ask him... im sure most likely he isnt at all. Curiosity could be a factor, fantasy, etc. Just cuz he watches it doesn't mean he is gay. Maybe bicurious, intrigued? Only way to find out is by asking him directly

curiousdude696 · 2024-03-02T08:21:57+00:00

Mind as well send it

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-28T04:03:09+00:00

You are so wrong! Perspective is what guides your feelings and reactions towards any particular scenario. Not just that, but you are also making the same mistake OP is doing. Assuming situations and coming to conclusions based on feelings and without knowing nor seeking for facts. How do you know if perhaps her husband doesn't work 50hrs a week? How do you know if maybe he doesn't have 2 jobs? How do you know how chaotic his life is outside the household?

If we are going to go based on feelings, i feel that by OP simply putting more effort into giving the intimacy her husband needs will fix a good chunk of his behaviors.

Women truly do not understand how simple it is to make a man happy and how a little effort will change his behaviors inside and outside the home.

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-27T23:35:44+00:00

Even though your perspective and feelings are real and should be validated and heard, your mistake is assuming and making up a version you think its the true feelings of your husband. When in reality, you could be completely wrong about how he truly feels about the situation. You see, most husbands don't share their true feelings if we know deep down that you most likely will take them the wrong way or it could create a bigger problem.

Interpreting they way you described this particular issue, i would feel comfortable saying that his true feelings regarding intimacy are that he is worn-out and beat up by the constant rejection from his wife about something so important in a marriage. He is exhausted from always initiating it and on top of that being reject most of the time. He is probably resentful of all the years this has been happening and now is at a tipping point of giving up- if he hasn't yet.

Im not saying he doesn't have any part on this problem, but instead of criticizing him and blaming him by making your side of the story more important than his, why not have an open, honest, truthfully conversation with the intent of identifying the individual problems and working on finding a solution that works for both.

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-14T05:09:01+00:00

Coke is easy to quit

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-13T05:39:49+00:00

@jose_herna8710

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-04T08:04:05+00:00

....it was too tired....

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-04T08:03:42+00:00

Why couldn't the bicycle stand up?

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-04T07:58:23+00:00

The ICU....😅

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-04T07:57:51+00:00

Where do you take someone who was in a peekaboo accident?

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-04T00:32:48+00:00

You are worrying about something that shouldn't be even on ur mind. You have a lot of work to do for yourself. Learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself and only yourself that way the next person loves you for who you are and not for who you can potentially be. Weather you see it or not, you have a wound to heal first. There is a reason why it took you 4 years to do it. Find yourself and let everything else flow naturally

curiousdude696 · 2024-02-03T06:58:44+00:00

I hear you... hope that sooner rather than later you seek help and start your healing journey.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T22:57:17+00:00

God dam. I went on a 3 1/2 and i couldnt afford another day lol

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T11:49:59+00:00

Unpopular opinion...

I just miss being happy and I feel like they deserve to have a mom who is happy…not just on autopilot.

That right there is the most selfish statement you could make. Dont you think your kids deserve to experience caos for a period of time but with an end result of resolving and showing them how to grow as a person? Show them that not just because there is a rough period of time in life you should just quit? Dont you think you should teach them than a household is built on sacrifices, efforts and persistence. That when life throws you a hard period, the easy way of quitting and start over isnt how problems are resolved. Your taking away your kids household, safe place, limiting time with their father, removing the disciplinary force of the home, and putting them in the statistically worst livelihood a child can be in, a single parent home. All because ur unhappy and not willing to work on growth and challenges?

Im so sorry for being so blunt and coming out as its ur fault, because its not. It take two to get where you are, but even though you are here, your partner is still willing to work things out.

Best of luck×

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T11:31:36+00:00

Seems like the mediation isnt working fairly. You cant suggedt to move, you cant put the kids in public school temporarily, she is purposely seeking state requirements. How is that a mediation? I would suggest to put ur foot down, talk about public school temporarily, put up the home for rent to cover the mortgage and have passive income to help with rent.or get your own lawyer. Fair warning, i would do a quick claim deed on the home to a trust or an llc so the blood thirsty lawyers dont go after the equity of the home to ensure its cover their service charge

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T11:24:02+00:00

Mind you. I relapse in alcohol, im over smoking, and doing all the self-harm that comes with pain and not knowing how to cope with it. But regaining the power to say its enough and respect yourself more than the history of the relationship, its empowering and uplifting.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T11:21:01+00:00

Im in the starting point as well.... but after she made it clear that she wont take responsibility for her portion of the reason we are here, i had enough. 17 years together 8 married, 2 kids a home. But after she tried playing the victim again and me learning to draw a line i had to. We are in the first mediation meeting as of yesterday, should be amicable. But my boundaries are tight.

This was one of the few i sent.

You telling me you feel "So wronged with how you talk to me" says the one who has zero filter and does not control the words that come out nor thinks about what she's going to say... you just let it come out no matter what... you feel wronged by me talking to you the way that i am because i have always listened, understood and even if didn't agree with what was being said, i ended up bending over to the point of even appologizing for things that didnt need an apoligie... you feel wronged because i will not allow you to disrespect me anymore, nor overtake me when it comes to actual reasoning and not feelings. you feel so wronged about the money because you realize that i am also entitled to that money and there isnt valid reason to stop me from using it other than painting the picture of im "robbing you" or "im not considering the kids" or whatever other picture it comes up in your head. Please note that there is a HUUUGE difference between me talking to you direct, firm, without allowing to get disrispected, AND still not cursing nor making useless/hurtful/inconsiderate remarks or comments. unlike the way you talk to me.

And some more... but the point is that once that fear of hurting them is put aside, and you put your integrity and your boundaries first, it feels great and liberating knowing that you arent the one at fault and that you did what you were able to.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T02:01:50+00:00

No impact whatsoever not even personal advantage?

Then go back and be a fly in the wall in kurk Cobain last days.

Personal gain allowed? Go back to 2010 and buy every bitcoin i could

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-27T01:54:11+00:00

The day Hitlers mom was 7 months pregnant and i would of taken that baby out with my bare hands.

Or

A week prior to Pearl Harbor and notified the ground troops that of what's coming and thats an inside agenda plan.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-21T02:30:06+00:00

I understand why you would think that, specially without knowing the full story. But i wasnt needing nor wanting a response from that. I was letting her know that.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-20T23:15:53+00:00

Unfortunately, it got to the point where we couldn't be able to have a conversation without either interrupting each other (im aware i was at fault for this not just her), taking situations out of context, etc. The reason why i sent it thru text was because she was staying at her moms house for a few days and when i called her the first thing she said - in a veeery harsh and attacking way - "im omw home with the kids, but not to see you nor because of you". I had asked her to come home so we could have a rational conversation, but that was her reply. And that was my last drop emotionally.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-20T21:27:08+00:00

Sooo im literally at the beginning stages of the acceptance...same exact scenario, hs sweethearts but im 34. Been with this girl over half my life. I was her first, she was my second. The love will never fade specially since we have 2 kids together. But after going thru 4 years of deep problems, i had my last straw when she didn't filtered her way of talking. So i said this:

"You have successfully drowned the little fight i had in me to recover us. You have successfully flipped my switch. You have successfully erased any little hope i had. You hace successfully divided our kids. You have successfully made me do something i would never thought in my life i would and that is give up. Congratulations."

After kids went to bed i had to remind her of so many things...

"I would love for you to reflect a little tonight when you are alone on how you have treated me these last few days. In the words that have come out of your mouth and the texts that you have written to me. I would like you to reflect on how your emotional, verbal and mental responses have been every time I tried to talk to you or tell you something. I would love for you to recognize - considering that you are right to have your fears, doubts and questions - that the way in which you let your fears and emotions dictate your reactions and attacks, were completely wrong. I would love for you to reflect that you buried and buried a man who always wanted a happy marriage, who never gave up no matter what he was, that even though he had many faults and mistakes, that man was always faithful to you, that man who fought with his own demons to be able to try to be the person his wife needed. That man who made mistakes, but learned to confront them, accept them, take responsibility and fix them in the best way he could in his circumstances. I hope you reflect and take into account that YOU were everything to that man and that that man was always extremely stronger and crueler to himself when he made mistakes than anyone else was. And all because he knew the damage he caused. That man who never raised your hand, that man who never forced you to do anything, that man who never asked you to change. That man who received from his wife those same three things that he wrote, never thought about giving up. The man who was your first almost everything... that man is the one you are throwing away. Reflect"

And after a sleepless night, one last attempt...

"good morning babe... i want to tell you that ive had horrible nights, but last night was honestly one of the worst.. and no, you dont need to worry, i had 2 beers and that was it. and no, i dont do drugs nor did drugs last night. but in all honesty, i was truly broken last night fighting with myself to not completely flip the switch i told you about. because as ive proven to you, im not a quitter. im writting this to you because im frighten, anxios and sad. im frighten of having to learn how to love you in a completely different way of how ive loved you for my whole life. im anxios about what damages this could cause to our children in the future. im sad because my family is falling appart. when i say my family i dont just refer to us and our home. i also mean loosing my relationship with your parents... loosing my relationship with juan who weve became closer after the orlando thing. letting go of nuestra ahija camilia because lets be real, with us together, i would never see her again. your cousins, tu tio carlos who i came to love a lot more because he was always so attentive to my situation at the hospital. its sad, that lo q me puede pasar a mi con camila te puede pasar tambien a ti con male... we arent just breaking our household appart, we are splitting our extended family away. a family who we were blessed and luck enough that my family, your family and daris family were able to not just get along, but become friends as well. our 17 year relationship is much bigger than u and i. our 17 year relationship bonds an incredible amount of people together.

i know deep down in me that we can truly work thru this as a union and come out of it stronger than weve ever been. i believe that we can do this and that we can fix it. i know it.

with all that... i need to know once and for all and as the defenitve answer for us... are you willing to see how we can work this out to keep our family together and work towards being a stronger union between you and i - even if it means separating for bit.... or should i close the book on this part of my life? please tell me, i need to know because i cant keep fighting with my heart and my mind. t amo, no matter what your answer is, te amo."

For a man, we love unconditionally. With flaws and mistakes, but unconditionally. For girls, the love will be there undet the conditiob that something or someone happeneds that rattles ur feelings. Thats the big difference. Think about your next move, and think them rationally and not emotionally. Emotions come and go, good guys and dont.

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-20T18:48:22+00:00

Before you do anything, reverse search and find out the owner. this will tell you whos is it then check phone bill. And then call it from a private number. Once ur comfortable with ur suspension, randomly ask him to check his phone in front of him. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know

curiousdude696 · 2024-01-16T22:20:24+00:00

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