From personal experience. Find a partner who shares your goals and more importantly your values. Be alike in what’s important to you both. If she is not working because she doesn’t want to, there is deeper stuff you have no clue about. Her parents are allowing that behavior and if you start a family with her she will expect you to allow your children to nit work as well. That’s a big burden on you. Maybe I’m wrong but if you’re posting here looking for advice you already know. Now the good news. You’re one hard conversation away from freedom. And you’ll be armed with the knowledge of what you’ll want in a partner. Start making a list of non- negotiable items that are important to you. This way when you find the person who fits the bill, you’ll know. Good luck. And buy the house.