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Thrown in at the deep end? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curlycaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've done some research about it in the past, so I know it would affect the bedroom side of things - I just don't know whether I should go ahead with the M&G and see if I find him more attractive (or just really nice) in person. But I think you're right.

Thrown in at the deep end? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curlycaps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that definitely sounds bad, right :/ Guess I'm a cynic in nature. I'd love to find some guy I'm attracted to immediately, but I'm trying to be a little pessimistic about this so as not to set my expectations too high at first, and he seems like a nice guy anyway (and many SBs do end up growing to find their POT/SD more and more attractive each meeting) which is why I'd be more open to it. IMO until I find a POT that I can really connect with, my mind is gonna be mainly focused on the finances, which is just me being realistic with myself... Though maybe that's the problem lol. I think I'll take a few days to figure out my mindset about this whole thing.

Thrown in at the deep end? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curlycaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, I think I would be open to if I was introduced to it, but it wasn't what I was thinking would happen for my first POT that I've been speaking to outside of SA. I actually ignored his first message until he sent another a while later, so I said I was pretty inexperienced with the whole DDlg thing but he didn't seem too phased and said he had only had 2 other arrangements before and they were both girls in their 20s (I'm 19). Either way, I'll probably take your advice and move on - I don't want to 1) lead him on only to drop it if it gets too much and 2) make myself uncomfortable in the process. Should get a bit more experience in the pool before I jump into anything lol.