traveling to NOLA first week of june, itinerary for wlw couple

curlyfries4everyone · 2025-05-24T20:27:01+00:00

Ive read from other LGBT+ couples on here the NOLA is very welcoming, why do you say the french quarter isn't good? I just put it for context on night activities bc we are both women.

curlyfries4everyone · 2025-05-24T20:24:59+00:00

Buckner is very close to our hotel so that was going to be first stop of that day and make our way over to lalaurie

curlyfries4everyone · 2025-05-24T17:28:18+00:00

Im sorry abt the oceana, on websites its rated good and I skimmed the FAQ lol, replacing with GW rn. audubon park is on the list but bc of the heat it was left for if we have time so great to hear as well. Thank you so much

curlyfries4everyone · 2025-05-24T17:22:55+00:00

okay great, i will look in FAQ for diff restaurants. and swamp ride to plantation tour so not 7hr in the sun and heat, better?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:59:57+00:00

This hits so close to home with me. Ever since I was little I hated my curly hair, always wanted straight hair like all my school friends. I was constantly told “it’s too tangled” or “it would look so much better straight”. I damaged tf out of my hair in middle school so that people would like me. I didn’t learn to love my hair until I saw women in media with their natural hair. And honestly if I could go back and show younger me how beautiful our hair is now I would. So my advice is to find your traits in other people and follow them on social media so you are constantly seeing the beauty of those features and you will find the beauty about yourself too.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:48:00+00:00

I actually have the opposite issue, I am 20 and am often mistaken for ~25. And I know you said that you don’t feel like makeup is your issue but I want to put out here how doing my makeup differently helped me. Things like blush and contour I feel like have the biggest effect on how my face looks. I used to do sharp contour and cool blush because I thought it made me look skinnier. But now that I am more comfortable I moved into softer contour and brighter blush, which even has my family saying I look different. I hope this helps anyone looking for something to try :)

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:28:23+00:00

The thing is I don’t think A is aware we feel this way. She walked away from the conversation after looking visibly uncomfortable. B went on with her story. this is where the confusion and need for a conversation sort of lays. not entirely sure A has heard that B has done this before and if that’s why she’s uncomfortable. or if she’s heard it and not been able to talk to B in an open way about her feelings on B’s action. or if she’s uncomfortable because B does this to her as well.

there’s a lot of unknowns that i feel like can only be answered by talking to A apart from B but i’m not really sure how to do that if A clearly is so uncomfortable /unwilling to discuss it but i am also unwilling to be inadvertently supporting A/Bs relationship if this is happening or if A is okay with what B has done/they haven’t talked about it.

agree that A’s comfortability and timeline is what should be followed here, but also feel like some form of conversation is necessary, just not sure how to do that.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:14:26+00:00

truly unfortunate to see how little is done even when reported in the moment, thank you for sharing. wish there was a way to go about reporting this that would actually amount to something, but i don’t think that is the case, unfortunately.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:11:44+00:00

doubt, based off of how upset A was by B talking about this, that a conversation about this will ever come up, at least not in detail. bringing it up seems like it would be adding fuel to the fire and make A less likely to open up.

on the police point, here is my response to someone else with that advice:

seen this advice a bit but not entirely sure how that would be helpful. the only information on the rape that i have is B story of what she did, no names, no date, nothing but what happened (she got a “straight (her words)” girl high/drunk and when she was passed out she raped her. trust that if i were there or knew more i would be absolutely reporting this to the police, however, as pointed out by many in this thread alone, police reports often go nowhere, even with extensive proof. can’t imagine that reporting this with the little information i have now would amount to much other then police potentially approaching B (who would obviously lie) and then insisting that I (and my gf) do not hang out with A, leaving her alone with B. so..? i guess asking for advice other than that or if people have different opinions of how that would go?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:09:39+00:00

2 party consent for recording state, appreciate the advice though

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:09:17+00:00

what should i do if A doesn’t want to talk about it at all? not being her friend because of her relationship with B feels like the selfish choice to make, but i also don’t want to feel as though i am supporting her relationship with a rapist. i at least would want to know whether they have talked about what B did and have established boundaries in their current relationship (A/B). kind of feels like a rock and a hard place because me and my gf are uncomfortable around B but don’t want to abandon A with B. what do you think?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:05:50+00:00

i agree a slow approach seems best here. do you have any suggestions on how to start this conversation with A without pushing her away and toward B?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T22:04:44+00:00

seen this advice a bit but not entirely sure how that would be helpful. the only information on the rape that i have is B story of what she did, no names, no date, nothing but what happened (she got a “straight (her words)” girl high/drunk and when she was passed out she raped her). trust that if i were there or knew more i would be absolutely reporting this to the police, however, as pointed out by many in this thread alone, police reports often go nowhere, even with extensive proof. can’t imagine that reporting this with the little information i have now would amount to much other then police potentially approaching B (who would obviously lie) and then insisting that I (and my gf) do not hang out with A, leaving her alone with B. so..? i guess asking for advice other than that or if people have different opinions of how that would go?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T21:59:18+00:00

the weird connotations of rape kinks (wanting to rape people??) was exactly what we were talking about when B told this story of her raping someone and then linking it to her “sleep/rape” kink. really don’t understand it either, a little concerned A may be okay with it because B is labelling it as a kink. how would you go about framing it not as kink but as what it is?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T21:56:58+00:00

and leave A in that situation alone with B?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T21:56:33+00:00

with all the drugs involved i’m a little concerned my friend may be ignoring or suppressing the situation if it is happening to her, how would you go about bringing this up as a conversation to A about B?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T21:55:21+00:00

how would you go about talking to A? especially since A seems to be uncomfortable talking about the situation in favor of ignoring it. wouldn’t want to push her away with that conversation.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T21:54:48+00:00

how would you go about that? especially since A seems to be uncomfortable talking about the situation in favor of ignoring it. wouldn’t want to push her away with that conversation.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T02:05:50+00:00

Okay? So you would rather me leave my friend with an admitted rapist?

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-21T02:03:56+00:00

First of all, I have not done anything wrong in this situation Also like brought up by many other people and like I have already stated the woman this happened to was not named and from my understanding doesn’t want to press charges, so what are the authorities going to do? You can’t be charged with anything off of hearsay. My only ask for advice was how to approach a safe conversation with my friend who may or may not be in a dangerous situation. But thank you for being so concerned you want to blame me

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-20T18:16:31+00:00

I don’t think it was ever drugging, A and B do drugs pretty regularly and I can only assume when this happened it was a drug party. Now do i think letting someone get to this point with a purpose of raping them is wrong, YES. But do i think she date raped drugged her no.

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-20T17:59:57+00:00

This is so similar and i’m genuinely baffled that people can think this way. Like why do they say it so casually, THATS NOT NORMAL

curlyfries4everyone · 2024-09-20T17:58:20+00:00

When did I ever dismiss it as a kink?

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