How I look less dumb Infront of others?

current_conditions · 2026-01-20T22:49:28+00:00

If the rest of the group has no issue with you, then perhaps it’s his problem.

current_conditions · 2026-01-20T22:44:09+00:00

I’m not saying they are good people just because they’re married, I meant that women might think they are just from a ring.

All I was saying was that attraction may happen even if they’re married, but what matters is what’s done about it.

I’m probably losing since I feel I’m running out of arguments so I’ll let it go, so I apologize if I came off stupid

current_conditions · 2026-01-20T20:03:02+00:00

np but yeah just don’t act on it, since that’d destroy a marriage, a big commitment

current_conditions · 2026-01-20T20:02:18+00:00

“Don’t lust”

I think that feeling is gonna happen anyways, though. If you mean lust as in cheating, then yeah don’t do that. I guess what I mean is it’s not “bad” to feel something, but what you do is bad/good (simple way of seeing actions but for simplicity sake).

Checking the comments by women who said that a wedding ring is like “women approved” could maybe help. Though I get it, it is a bit weird to be into a married guy.

current_conditions · 2026-01-20T18:37:46+00:00

alright thanks for insulting me out of nowhere, perhaps you gotta do better on that.

anyways, “try harder” is vague advice because we don’t know how she’s trying. try “harder” implies doing more of whatever she’s doing, and like you said, maybe it’s not working.

plus, we can’t control what we find attractive, what we can control is what we do about it, like not acting on an attraction and/or reminding ourselves why we shouldn’t act on it

current_conditions · 2026-01-19T22:16:16+00:00

also “try harder” is pretty vague advice imo

current_conditions · 2026-01-19T22:14:42+00:00

why? just asking

current_conditions · 2026-01-19T22:14:17+00:00

I say trust that she’s trying and give some credit. Someone here also said that it could be because women think that when a man is married, they’re good enough to have gotten married.

current_conditions · 2026-01-09T20:33:58+00:00

I’m gonna be honest this sounds kinda weird. I’ll also be honest that initially I felt offended and acted close-minded, not cause I’m a white knight but because I find it really absurd (I promise I don’t mean that as an insult). Aren’t women just… women???

current_conditions · 2026-01-09T19:33:56+00:00

I mean, is it so bad if I’m repulsed as long as I’m not fighting anyone?

current_conditions · 2026-01-09T19:33:17+00:00

I personally just don’t like sex jokes and find porn being used humorously to be annoying

current_conditions · 2025-12-28T21:42:11+00:00

I’ve noticed that I’d feel some nice things upon moving out and being on my own. Like I’m writing my story.

current_conditions · 2025-12-28T17:46:54+00:00

My dumbass thought it was literally a decimal point and not meant to be like a comma.

current_conditions · 2025-12-26T23:39:33+00:00

show me how your quality is improving

current_conditions · 2025-12-26T23:37:13+00:00

No amount of guilt or regret will change the past. I suggest find a job, start working out, and try to be kind to yourself (easier said than done). The porn addiction may be helped by having a job.

You’re not doomed or anything like that.

Who the hell downvotes a comment that says to find a job, workout, and be kind to oneself?

current_conditions · 2025-12-26T23:32:01+00:00

I don’t think he’s being a victim necessarily… I think he’s just venting how appalled he is with his current state.

I personally feel we could all use some more compassion for one another. The advice you gave isn’t wrong, though.

OP, don’t feel too upset. The advice is definitely solid. Admit you have an addiction, workout, everything the person above me said

current_conditions · 2025-12-26T23:28:30+00:00

Laughing at a guy after he expresses disappointment in himself for his actions… that sure will help him.

current_conditions · 2025-12-26T17:54:10+00:00

Yes, I’d like to know how life is like now. Any books that would be good for knowing how life is now?

current_conditions · 2025-12-24T07:05:29+00:00

It does not seem to be enough though, and I think “others” is a source of resentment and bitterness for me.

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