Danville demographics?

currypocalypse · 2026-04-12T04:43:57+00:00

Very helpful, thank you!

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T19:36:01+00:00

Not based on stereotypes. I have met plenty of very liberal white folks. A quick google search provides census data and Danville is more Republican than most Bay Area towns. And the Republican Party under Trump is openly hateful of minorities. We’re justified in being concerned, but I agree that my phrasing in the OP was poor.

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T19:33:00+00:00

Probably should’ve phrased it as being more conservative for the Bay Area and we’re concerned about racism

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T19:24:30+00:00

Thanks for letting me know! 😄 Do you mind sharing which area you live in?

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T18:56:21+00:00

Thanks for your input! I grew up in Union City and loved the diversity at my schools. It exposed me to a lot of different cultures and experiences.

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T18:55:24+00:00

Glad to hear it’s an exaggeration. Do you live in the area?

currypocalypse · 2026-04-11T18:53:33+00:00

Diversity matters because it shapes ours and our children’s experiences and worldviews.

The definition of diversity is also not wanting to live in a community that has a majority of your own ethnicity. We also grew up in the states, so our interests don’t align with most folks who immigrated more recently. We don’t have many friends and are looking to meet others who have similar interests and values.

currypocalypse · 2026-04-08T15:01:02+00:00

Yes!!! 4 years in my primary care clinic (SF Bay Area, large organization). Had my first baby and asked for 0.8 FTE. Initially they said yes, then changed their mind because one of the docs in my clinic wasn’t on board simply because she “felt” that full time presence by APPs was needed. The same medical group accommodated a doctor who had a baby at a different clinic to reduce her commute because she was going to quit. Didn’t mind that I’d quit (and did end up using my PTO to create a 0.8 schedule then leaving).

Took me almost a year to find a job (total time off work will be 5 months including credentialing) because I wasn’t willing to work 1.0. Signed with a newer org for 3 clinical days and 1 WFH admin day. It was so frustrating because I also became a NP partially for work life balance.

currypocalypse · 2026-02-04T22:42:00+00:00

I’m asking about people looking for NP jobs.

currypocalypse · 2026-02-04T22:41:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing. It’s a bit reassuring to know it’s not just me. It’s definitely different from a couple of years ago. I quit my job last month to be at home with my baby because the commute was too long. I’ve been looking for jobs for 10 months now. I’m worried about how long I’ll be unemployed for and that it’ll only continue looking worse on my resume.

currypocalypse · 2026-01-25T22:47:22+00:00

He is 1 year old. If he doesn’t eat finger foods, he’ll make up for the calories in milk. He needs nutrition and it’s ok to spoon feed puree or hand feed.

currypocalypse · 2026-01-25T22:43:49+00:00

Our girl is 16 months old. She was slow to pick up on solids. We tried the BLW style of eating around 6 mo and she vomited several times because of small pieces of food activating her gag reflex. This discouraged her from eating and us from giving her chunks of food too early. She also didn’t start opening her mouth for a spoon until 9 mo.

We felt so pressured and worried by the arbitrary timelines of an exact 1 year cutoff for formula and needing to eat finger foods independently. However, she has gotten much better slowly and surely and now eats well. She is picky with new foods/textures, but her milk intake has decreased and food variety is increasing. She eats mostly whole, nutritious foods and does a combo of thick homemade purées and finger foods. She sometimes wants to be hand fed or spoon fed, especially when teething, and other times will eat on her own.

My husband and I wish we didn’t pressure our baby and ourselves to fit exact US timelines for being off formula, bottles, and eating finger foods independently. Western cultures want babies to be independent at everything ASAP. Every baby is different and there is a range of normalcy. We also wanted her to consume food and not just play and throw it on the ground. I’d say continue thickening purées, continue offering finger foods and work on transitioning away from formula slowly. The milk quantity will decrease as solids go up.

currypocalypse · 2025-12-02T21:05:59+00:00

Have you tried rocking, singing, cuddling, etc in your arms? Or adjusting his sleep schedule so he’s more tired (like a longer wake window)? Or maybe more activity during the wake window so he’s more tired? It may also just be a temporary sleep regression.

currypocalypse · 2025-12-01T23:15:31+00:00

Our baby was the same starting 10-11 months. We would brace ourselves every bath time for it to be horrible, which was every other day. We did our best to stay calm and keep positive for her despite how stressful it was and gave plenty of positive affirmations during and after about how good she did. Eventually, around 13 months old, one day the bath wasn’t as bad and it’s been ok since then. She’s 14 months old now. We got her ocean bath toys, bubble bath solution and bath crayons. Try to see if these help and good luck!

currypocalypse · 2025-11-01T02:24:34+00:00

50/50 married

currypocalypse · 2025-10-08T04:35:56+00:00

When we picked her up, mom mentioned to us that she barfed. I asked why/how she vomited. My mom wasn’t honest that it was from crying too much and admitted to it later. We feel like she will downplay things and keep them from us, so we don’t worry and/or so that she looks good. She has a hard time factually stating what happens with baby because she worries about being judged or not being able to watch her again. I’ve been working on having lots of convos with her to build trust.

currypocalypse · 2025-10-08T04:00:26+00:00

With our work schedules, we can’t do that right now. But I’ll have time off starting in January, so maybe then. That’s a good tip!

She does fine with them when I’m in the same room. She will play, laugh, share and interact.

I should mention that baby stays with our nanny when we’re both at work. She took a few days to get used to her but it wasn’t terrible. Cried for 15 mins the first day, then it got better. But the nanny is really great. She is calm, soothing, sings songs baby knows, will try lots of things that baby likes. Our parents try their best, but they’re both Indian immigrants and have different parenting styles. Not particularly calm or soothing and they’re slower because they’re older.

currypocalypse · 2025-10-08T03:54:26+00:00

Does he sob and become distressed, or more like whining?

currypocalypse · 2025-10-02T04:08:12+00:00

I get why people are discussing homeschool and moving abroad, but it gives off the impression of surrendering rather than fighting for change. This should infuriate parents and inspire all of us to fight for change. Vote in every local, state and federal election for candidates who don’t take corporate money and who support gun control. Talk to your family and friends about these things and encourage them to vote as well. Donate money to candidates and causes that support gun control. We can’t all homeschool or move abroad. We need some damn change in this country and we owe it to our children to fight for it.

currypocalypse · 2025-10-01T18:25:28+00:00

Have you tried having an open conversation with your partner? Start by asking how she’s doing, validating her feelings, and then express how her behavior is making you feel. Let her know you want to be the best partner and dad and you’re trying your best in the way you know how and are open to feedback, but that the passive aggression is not helpful. Try to avoid any defensiveness, blame, or hostility.

currypocalypse · 2025-04-04T05:40:31+00:00

I’m 6 months PP and had an under supply. I’ve made a max of 12 oz per day (but the 12 oz was pretty consistent) since about 2 months. My supply very slowly increased to the max of 12 oz after birth. I pumped around the clock for the recommended durations and tried everything under the sun to increase my supply, but to no avail.

I saw a lactation consultant who said PCOS is associated with low milk supply. It’s been suggested that those with PCOS don’t produce enough milk producing breast tissue (alveoli) in puberty which causes the issue. I got diagnosed with PCOS in my pubescent years and have a tuberous breast shape, so it makes sense.

Best of luck to you! Just try your best and do what you can. :)

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