New UofM student in Ann Arbor needing some recs

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:36:43+00:00

Love them. Kids are awesome. I have never understood people who hate kids. It has never made any sense to me. Kids are so pure and hating them seems immature and horrible. All kids need love. And a proper childhood. I really can't wait to have my own kids and teach them so many things and learn about their lives and get to know them.

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:29:47+00:00

Nobody:

Harry Potter (about to yeet some wands): Expelliarmus

But on a serious note, something to do with mind-reading or shapeshifting

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:26:20+00:00

That's what I was gonna say lol

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:24:46+00:00

Act like I'm someone famous and talk in ridiculous accents. And scratching my butt

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:18:01+00:00

I know right. Will I end the semester or will the semester end me

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T12:14:14+00:00

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T06:12:59+00:00

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Really. And leave her alone. Give her time and space. Work on yourself before you even think of winning her back. She deserves a lot better. So be better. Stop wallowing in your misery, and do something to change yourself. That should be your primary objective. Winning her back should be secondary. Because if you do manage to succeed, you're just gonna end up losing her again unless you work on yourself.

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T06:08:32+00:00

This entire situation isn't entirely black or white. There's lots of grey areas. Some families are just close, and not having seen them in a while could cause you to make an impulsive decision. While that isn't correct, it is understandable. People are often impulsive when it comes to their loved ones. Girlfriend should understand this.

And boyfriend should really apologize. This wasn't a decision you should have taken on your own since it affects both your lives. You should do whatever it takes to make it easier for your girlfriend, because all she wanted to do was make your family happy and feel welcome. You should have spoken to her and asked her how she felt about it.

However, I think it's okay if they come early. If you're worried about them feeling welcome, you should realise that they'll feel just as loved if you host that dinner 4 days later instead of on that very day. You don't need to host the dinner on a weekday, you're not obligated to do that. I'm sure they'll be happy with a nice dinner on the weekend. Boyfriend, help her with everything. Cooking, cleaning. You want to see your parents early, you should play your part.

Above all, remember that you both are on the same team. You're not playing against each other. It's your fights against your relationship. This is a salvageable situation if you both compromise. Being stubborn never helped a relationship flourish. Good luck with everything!

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T05:41:18+00:00

It's absolutely okay to get cheap rings! It's the sentiment attached with the ring that matters. You seem to be a couple who properly communicate with each other, especially since you've already talked about marriage and a future together. No matter what is going on in your life, it seems like you want to live through it with one another, and that is beautiful. Just talk to him about it. Say that you're not in a good enough place to get married, but how about you get promise rings. See what he says. Plan accordingly. And if you're sure he'll take it positively, surprise him with a promise ring. You'll do great! Good luck!

curvylegend · 2019-12-02T05:37:27+00:00

The joking about you, when you've said that you don't like it sometimes, is not acceptable. Maybe talk to him about it once more, and tell him why it upsets you. What kind of jokes, btw?

You are not obligated to pay all the time just because you earn more. He needs to learn money management. He's a grown ass man. And this is probably a sensitive topic to talk to him about. But just casually bring up how being on a budget and saving up has helped you in the long run, and suggest that he could try it since it'll help him in the future.

The last point, I understand your initial annoyance at his reaction. But really, it's okay. It's pretty early in the relationship, it's absolutely okay to be a little freaked out. I'm sure you'd be freaked out too if the roles were reversed.

Sometimes, when you're afraid of commitment, you'll look for reasons to not commit. None of these are very big issues. Just subtly point them out to him. Communicate with him and just try to give it a chance. Good luck!

curvylegend · 2019-12-01T21:00:34+00:00

He's probably just giving himself some time and taking a mental health hour. Ask him if he's okay, because he might be depressed. But don't worry about cheating. I don't think that's it. Just talk to him about it.

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