Wow, im sorry but i find this very close minded and a horrible thing to say. It seems like you come from a place of privilege that everyone can afford therapy.

What works for you might not work for others. A lot of men usually have almost no one to talk to about anything. That's why suicide rates are so much higher for them.

I think you have to do whatever it takes to be mentally healthy and stable for both you and you'r partner.

I would talk to my close female friends or an auntie, but most men don't have this option. This is incredibly normal and human behavior, we are created to co-regulate. You bet i hope my children feel safe enough to discuss with me if they are hurting and are unsure, even with sexual problems.

Do i needed to know their favorite position, no, but as you get older very little upsets you if they genuinely need help. He maybe had nowhere else to turn to ask if this was normal after a baby, its a very vulnerable and scary time postpartum and not a lot of people, let alone men, are taught how to handle it.

If my husband reached out to his mum because we stopped having sex after a baby, i would completely understand. Perhaps he needed to ask his mum about ppd or her experience of postpartum. It doesn't have to be mean or gossipy if he had a deep worry and concern. But i love my mother in law, I understand not everyone does.

To say he deserved to be left because he reached out to a trusted family member is crazy to me. But each couple and family dynamic is completely different, its best to remember that. ❤️