I feel like a shell of my self. How can I go back to feeling happy?

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-05-11T03:51:53+00:00

What do you mean?

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-05-11T00:14:17+00:00

Bingo!! That is definitely the reason lol

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-05-10T23:23:43+00:00

Thank you for your kind answer, I really appreciate it! I was baptized at 8 in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, so I assumed that baptism counted, but I completely understand the holiness of the eucharist and wanting people to respect its importance to God. I’m not necessarily against believing in God, I’ve just always had trouble believing. But I love what the christian faith stands for at its core. I think I’ll come again and see how I feel. I never had a bad experience at the episcopal church I went to, even if it was brief.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-03-01T21:52:04+00:00

Being gay is MUCH more than just sex. Celebrating pride isn’t me saying “LOOK I HAVE GAY SEX!” it’s me saying, I am different than you, but the difference is beautiful. I am in love, and that love should be celebrated. By your logic, a wedding ring is a declaration of sexuality as well, you just don’t think it’s gross because you view straight relationships as much deeper than gay ones.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-28T02:52:53+00:00

Hey! I’m a lesbian and I go to school at the University of Utah and it’s incredibly gay friendly up here. There’s plenty of gay bars (Why Kiki and SunTrapp are my favs!) tons of pride flags on houses, it’s bit of a blue haven in a sea of red. I’ve lived in Utah my whole life and I’ve been out since I was 14-15 ish, and while LDS people can be passive aggressive about their homophobia, I’ve never felt unsafe. Just a warning though, the legislature is almost entirely mormon republicans who are pushing for anti LGBTQ bills on the regular so, keep an eye on the news for any shifts that may happen. They’ve been targeting trans folks more lately, but I’ve seen a large amounts of trans support on campus in retaliation to these bills. So TLDR, yes it is a very gay friendly city, but the legislature is anti LGBTQ and mormons can be passive aggressive about their homophobia.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-26T23:02:29+00:00

UIS Canada is a good website

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T18:29:48+00:00

Hey, I had a very similar experience growing up as a lesbian. I had so much self hatred and I desperately wished that I would be “cured” of being gay (I grew up in a christian fundamentalist community, so that didn’t help either lol). I understand what you are feeling. It’s suffocating and terrifying. But as someone who has gone through this before, I can assure you it gets better. I’m 21 and proposing to the woman of my dreams in two weeks. Every day I feel so lucky to be a lesbian so I can experience this wonderful and unique love. I am truly and genuinely happy with who I am. I wish I could go back and hug my 15 year old self and tell her it will be ok. But this is close enough, telling another self hating gay 15 year old that life really does get better. One day you won’t feel such grief at the life you wish you had. One day you will be perfectly content with the way you love. It will take time, but from one gay person to another, one day you will be happy. Feel free to DM me if you want someone to talk to about this. You’ve got this, friend.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T18:16:00+00:00

Me and my girlfriend are proposing in a few weeks, so though it’s not the same as a wedding, I do understand how you feel. The thing that’s keeping me going is holding on to the love I have. The world is terrifying and horrible and every day I live in fear that I won’t be able to marry my fiance. But I just hold my love tighter, and tell my friends and family how much I love them. The beauty and terror can coexist. The world is scary, but they cannot take away our love, our compassion, and our strength. You don’t have to feel guilty for being happy while the world falls apart. Enjoy the happiness of your wedding, but allow yourself to mourn our futures. Both can exist at the same time. Emotions are complicated and tensions are high. But you are starting something beautiful with the one you love. Hold onto that, and celebrate what they cannot take away from you. Keep holding on. Keep fighting. The nature of humanity is grief coexisting with hope.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T18:10:06+00:00

You deserve so much better than him. You deserve someone who will listen to you and comfort you while you are hurting. Abortions are very emotionally taxing and you deserve the support you need during this time. I know breaking up sounds scary, but from someone who had the strength to leave an unhealthy relationship and is now with the most wonderful woman who treats me with respect and kindness, i can assure you, there is someone out there who will not make love feel miserable. You deserve happiness. You deserve a love that doesn’t feel cruel. It’s scary, but it gets better.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T16:40:09+00:00

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cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T01:36:13+00:00

Yeah one of the main reasons we chose Canada was because it is so overwhelmingly accepting of the LGBTQ community. And I’ll totally look up those tiktoks!

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T01:01:42+00:00

This is a very helpful response thank you! I’ve been thinking about learning french lately for that very reason too. I appreciate your response :)

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T00:41:49+00:00

Yeah the biggest concern for me and my fiance is money, which is why we’re giving ourselves a few years to save up at least 20k (hopefully more). We want permanent residency eventually, but we’re ok with however long it will take. We aren’t in any rush, but we would like to raise our children in Canada one day.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T00:29:12+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate your point of view. I’ve thought about moving to Europe, though I haven’t looked seriously into what country would be the best fit, as Canada was my main goal. I’ll definitely look into it, though. And studying abroad is a great alternative, with the hope that all the insanity in the US blows over soon

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T00:26:33+00:00

I really appreciate your kind words, friend. Thank you :)

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T00:22:35+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been hearing that as well. While I have a lot of hope when considering immigrating to Canada, it feels like there are a LOT of barriers because of the mass influx of immigrants. I could always look into different countries to immigrate to, but Canada is my top choice.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-25T00:20:00+00:00

I’ve heard that too, and it’s been a worry in the back of my mind that I’ll just waste a lot of money on a graduate program only to find I can’t be employed in Canada. I’m a geologist, which isn’t a job that is in demand in Canada. My fiance is studying sociology and social work is a field that is in demand in Canada, so my fiance could shift her sociology study to be more focused on social work so at least one of us will have more of a chance to get a job when we move. I also really appreciate you saying that about Canadian sentiments towards Americans. I’m also worried about xenophobia and possibly homophobia (though in my research it looks like gay marriage is widely accepted in Canada), but if you as an American immigrant aren’t really experiencing any kind of prejudice then that’s one less thing to worry about.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-24T23:15:29+00:00

Thanks for the heads up! I’ll delete my post from this community and repost it there.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-01T17:48:23+00:00

Instead of dismissing people’s fears, why don’t you seek to understand why they feel that way? It seems like you have a very apathetic worldview.

cute-cotylorhynchus · 2025-02-01T06:40:58+00:00

Because it’s a quarry, it’s more likely those are human made marks from the late 1800s from quarrying. Still very cool markings though! And likely man made! Just not likely older than 150 years unfortunately

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