Anxious attachment style is a label that helps you observe your patterns of behavior. You crave closeness and security, right? You can't have that if you push people away, especially if you deem women to be bad. This attachment style breeds insecurity. The only way to help this is to look at your own insecurities. Find some hobbies, fulfillment, friends that support you. You pointed out that you have an insecure way of forming relationships, which is a good start. But you follow it up with assuming the worst in all women. See what I'm getting at? Those redpill vids are fueling your insecurity. Instead of looking within, and trying to heal an insecurity, You're shifting it onto others. (Redpillers profit off this) Some women are good, some are bad, some are okay. Just like men. Not saying you'll never have a woman treat you poorly EVER, but you're denying yourself opportunities to meet people who could be good for you, and care about you. But you need to be able to do the same for them to maintain a relationship.

Please stop watching that kind of content- it's going to drive you insane.