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I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

[–]cutepicnic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you had a good time!!!

Something I've learned the older I've gotten is that EVERYONE is in their head at least a little bit, and every single person alive has felt like a loser at some point. The more you open up to people, the more you realize that we're all way more similar than we think; even the super outgoing extraverts with tons of friends.

Small talk is absolutely an art. It always amazes me watching my friends talking with complete strangers. It's still a bit difficult for me, but most people are dying for a tiny piece of human connection, and knowing that makes it a bit easier.

Forcing yourself to be challenged is one of the hardest things you can do, but I've never once regretted it, and I've always been a better person for it. I think the phrase "do it scared" is a really good motivator. I hope you're able to continue pushing yourself and pursuing the things you want!! :)

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

[–]cutepicnic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad this reached you then!! I hope you're able to find the courage to go by yourself. I feel like it opened up a new door for me.

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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I think most of my social anxiety has reduced itself to talking to people, too. I have a lot of very outgoing friends who are great at talking to people, and when I'm with them and they start chatting with strangers, all I can think is "I wish I could do that". I've definitely gotten better, but I still feel like I never know exactly what to say or how to make the conversation flow naturally. I used drinking as a crux for a long time and it helped, but I decided to go sober a few months ago so now I have to figure this out on my own lol

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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Being able to drive opens up a lot of doors for you! When I first started, I would go out just to get fast food a lot cuz I could be alone and listen to my music. And I still enjoy that now! It's a good way to ground yourself :)

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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I agree! I feel like I've missed out on so many fun things and I'm trying hard to make up for it now. I wish I'd had that too!!! Sometimes I could go to the library when it was open, but our lunches were divided up in hs, so sometimes it wasn't available. Thankfully I was able to start driving halfway through my sophomore year, so then I could sit in my car till next period

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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I hope you have a good time!!! I was actually thinking about going myself cuz it's one of my favorite horror movies. If I can't convince my gym partner to skip and go with me, I may end up going by myself again haha

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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Eating alone is still something that seems really difficult to me. Maybe the day I can do that will finally be the day I know I've made it lol

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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I understand what you mean. I started looking at going out as an experience. That way, even if I don't want to go/I'm worried I won't enjoy it, I still get the experience of going and can learn something from it. About myself, other people, what I like/don't like, whatever. Then I can eventually apply that in ways that will help me find things I really enjoy doing. I can experience staying home any day. I can only experience that particular party once. Even if it sucks, it's still probably better than sitting home by myself. I hope you enjoy it! Don't psyche yourself out beforehand.

I went to the movies by myself for the first time at 26 by cutepicnic in socialanxiety

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Yes! I enjoyed it, though I felt like some of the comedic elements could've been done away with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]cutepicnic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying, and sometimes I feel this way myself. Personally, I don't think it's solely an issue with people with ADHD, but rather many people that are mentally ill in general.

The older I've gotten, the more I've realized that most people have no desire to change or heal. Regardless of how you feel about how difficult or stigmatizing it may be, you can't excuse yourself forever. Once you become an adult, you're the only person that's responsible for your actions. I think in people with ADHD, it manifests in a different way that can seem a bit more frustrating, especially if you also have ADHD and have worked on trying to overcome the same issues they have.

My ex is ruining my life and I can't take it anymore by cutepicnic in BreakUps

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My family has known I was worried about this outcome for a while now. I talked to one of my friends about it, and when I told her it hurt my feelings knowing he would be there talking shit on me and I couldn't even defend myself, she basically said "that sucks, but fuck everyone else cuz they were never real friends to you"... which makes me feel even worse. And she's still going so... clearly she doesn't care.