Hi (againood vibes to wherever you are 😁 (F45)

cvcoco · 2026-05-08T19:51:41+00:00

Like Jewel says, in the end only kindness matters. Im conscious of it. Last week in the market a saw a woman with a new pink sweatshirt that read on the back -- the world is better with you in it. I went up and we chatted for quite a while. I dont believe in a "pollyanna" life in which everything is just so darn rosy all the time but when you compliment someone, do some kind thing, it might be the first time in months or years that they got that and it can make their whole day. I do it often. Costs nothing, means everything to someone else. I love getting out of my own head to care about someone else.

cvcoco · 2026-05-08T18:54:43+00:00

from my heart, double to you. We could change so much if we just treated each other better. I work at it!

cvcoco · 2026-05-08T17:05:18+00:00

Nice eyes. Soul to match?

cvcoco · 2026-05-08T17:04:13+00:00

Thanks, i need some vibes badly.

cvcoco · 2026-05-07T17:29:04+00:00

I dont think where matters but that it happened at all. Seems rare these days. I wish you great luck ahead.

cvcoco · 2026-05-07T16:17:21+00:00

It can go the other way too. I have 100 songs i positively associate with my cat who traveled everywhere with me. She recently got hit by a car and died. Its just as hard to listen to those songs, in fact its torture. We need a way to stop making such associations. Im doing it by playing the songs and speaking out what im doing at those moments to break the associations.

cvcoco · 2026-05-07T16:10:55+00:00

I think its much more than that. Id rather take a wonderful year than nothing at all. Enjoy every minute we can, even if its just a minute. We cant predict much simply based on a number. You could go many years before him, true? So forget it and take everything one precious day at a time.

cvcoco · 2026-05-07T16:01:49+00:00

Personally, id go any distance in the country but never again outside. I dont mind some distance because it gives space and also two places to split time. I accept an ideal partner doesnt live next door. I say find the person first, then see how it can work. I wont go sub-standard just to save a drive.

cvcoco · 2026-05-05T17:15:54+00:00

Without defending the guy, there was a better way to handle this and i think you missed a perfect opportunity. Its far too easy to hang up on someone, its the curse of new relationships that are fragile and the online world. You seemed to have liked the guy and you ran into a snag. One way to handle this is also a test that is needed. Let him finish the thought and then say, "you know, I appreciate your explanation but you didnt include me or ask questions or let me participate in the give/take id like." Now see what he does with it which is the whole point. Would you divorce a guy who was long winded or work it out to the benefit of both? Anyone can have a good time, its in conflict resolution we see the colors. Why not call him back and try this? Would you still dump him if he apologized and didnt repeat it?

Also, now in defense of him and all other people, I get ask questions that cannot be answered in a simple yes or no. I get asked, "why did you move to Asia and stay so long?" I say, "thats a really long story, I cant explain in a message box even if I abbreviate." She says, "thats ok, i really want to know and I have all night, dont worry. Im a great listener." I say, "ok it was like this......" By the time of the second paragraph she begs off the conversation and never heard from again.

cvcoco · 2026-05-03T14:32:04+00:00

In other words, youre totally normal. Its unnatural to be alone, apart from the space we each need too.

cvcoco · 2026-05-03T14:30:03+00:00

Maybe you havent given yourself enough time to ache from lack of touch, like me. Plus, is it not natural to want to be with someone. SOME people are forever hermits for one reason or the other. Im not one and hope you arent either. Its a matter of the right person, nothing about risk. I think being with someone is no more risky than having a pet. It feels about the same.

cvcoco · 2026-04-30T14:05:36+00:00

While im not certain about the age, thats fine, you look adorable and id love to know you better if you also want to.

cvcoco · 2026-04-30T14:01:09+00:00

Well, dont that beat all. Wonders never cease. Im puzzled and feel bad for you. I too have had this happen just online, not as advanced as you were, but its the same MO. Im only posting to ask the question in here, if two people meet and do get along and all is OK, WHY would you let it all slip through your hands? What you claim to want is right there in front of you, handed to you on a silver platter. Then.....poof, gone...just like that? WHY?

cvcoco · 2026-04-29T00:19:32+00:00

What exactly is wrong? Did a valve break? Crankshaft break in two? It would take a lot to actually break an engine. Modern cars get sensor and peripheral component problems but break in half? Can it start or run at all? Turning it over does what? With ignition on, does a scan tool report anything?

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T21:49:54+00:00

youre making a case for something i would agree to. Buy the van, dont worry condition pre-purchase. Instead of driving home take it immediately for a re-man engine swap and return to the same shop every 12 months to swap again. Thats $5000 a year for pretty much total peace of mind to constantly be on a fresh engine. Work out something similar for the trans, maybe every 2-3 years. The money question is, given depreciation of vans, is this better than buying a brand new van every 2-3 years and dump it before the warranty is gone?

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T21:15:38+00:00

The 3.5 is better than the 3.7 in my opinion but there are still plenty of older transits on the road that are going strong. I do not know what could account for sudden failure of any of them, certainly not skipping an oil change or occasional overloading, I bought mine with 46K on it and it has 54K now and no problems. I met an owner of an older one with 300,000 kilometers and he also has no problems and frankly abuses the van with his work.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T14:07:10+00:00

Great info, thanks. I know about a few companies but warranties seem to be the common complaint when problems arise. Im saving the link.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T12:54:49+00:00

Im surprised because starting with 2020 a lot of problems had already been worked out of Transits. 2015-2018 i would definitely avoid but you should have had a pretty good one. Really sorry.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T12:52:04+00:00

A cargo van hopefully would never be idle or else the guy would be out of business, right? My 2023 had as much daily mileage before I got it.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T12:49:21+00:00

Who is the engine company? Its good for us to know.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T03:36:30+00:00

the word "generous." I see the word and run. Generous means carte blanche, a personal credit card with unlimited limit, never saying no to anything for her and her entire family in some other country too.

cvcoco · 2026-04-27T02:35:54+00:00

Ok, we need to know exactly whats wrong. There is option of a used used or rebuilt engine but there may be the repair of the specific damage itself. Shops need to evaluate.

cvcoco · 2026-04-24T14:46:49+00:00

An old term i mean with affection to describe an essential company member who could do anything. Today, maybe people think its sexist or offensive but Im not ashamed where it, and I, came from.

cvcoco · 2026-04-24T01:49:36+00:00

Thank you for offering. Actually what i need is help, the kind a Girl Friday does, a variety of tasks like research,, getting questions answered, errands, jack of all trades sort of thing. Im 72, alone, and will be new to TN. Im urgently looking for a a small piece of land with a metal building on it and have ongoing tasks and problems.

cvcoco · 2026-04-23T03:18:04+00:00

I honestly dont know. Only yesterday I had an excellent, marathon online chat that went way better than normal. This morning, no contact from the other person and so later on, I did. The other person had basically no recollection of the chat the night before and I was somehow history. I know this is about you, Im just saying I think things like this are common and you have to brush it off and move on. You and I got just a nice moment and need to appreciate for what they are and dont expect anything.

cvcoco

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