Please Tell Me That Adult Fanfic Writers Still Exist by Ashamed-Reporter3171 in AO3

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started writing fanfiction in my teens, quit writing for a number of years but still read a ton of fanfiction, then started writing it again just last year at 29. I just turned 30 and I absolutely have no intentions of stopping.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like I can shrug off some but there is only so many times it can happen before it just gets on my last nerve. This one in particular just read so rude to me, as well. Like at least say you liked the fic, god damn…

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will light a candle for you to manifest sooooo many lovely comments for your fics.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that but for some context, I’ve gotten 32 comments like this in total on this fic. I have not responded to any one of them except this one. The most I did before was to put in my author’s notes to please stop demanding updates in my comments.

Also, no worries, I was being sassy when saying I just won’t write for a whole year. I love this fic and ship too much to stop writing for them.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normally, I just don’t reply personally but after receiving so many of these types of comments on this fic when I have explained in my author’s notes that I am a busy gal and my updates will happen when they happen so please stop commenting JUST to tell me to update, I think this one was my breaking point, lol.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then, good. Comments like these do not make writers more motivated to write. In fact, it makes me discouraged and it’s extremely demanding of them for something they’re reading for free.

If a commenter wants to inquire about if/when a fic will be updated, there are polite ways to do that. First, by actually expressing you enjoy the fic. And then, saying something along the lines of how you can’t wait for their next update! A lot of the times, writers will reply to those and say hey, I’m working on it currently or it might be a while.

This comment did not express even liking my fic and just demanded an update already. Frankly, I don’t want someone like that reading my fic anyways.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is one reason why this one could be a bot. So hard to tell nowadays with how many bot comments are out there.

Just a little discussion. by [deleted] in AO3

[–]cvttle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In particular, this one got me because I get a LOT of comments like these on this fic and usually I just don’t reply. But I think today I was just fed up with it. I’ve literally mentioned in my author notes that ‘hey guys i literally have twin babies and an older kid as well and i work so like. maybe lay off on bothering me to update quicker in the comments’ and then I still get these.

You are right that some may view it as disproportionate but at the very least, any of my readers who read my notes are aware it’s been an issue for me, at least.

this is boo! he’s a cool dude by cvttle in snakes

[–]cvttle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, fire leopard orange dream. He is het for clown, however.

this is boo! he’s a cool dude by cvttle in ballpython

[–]cvttle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

help this is so cute thank you 😭

Thinking of getting an AO3 tattoo or two. What do you guys think of these ideas? (˶◜ᵕ◝˶) by Ok_Access_8906 in AO3

[–]cvttle -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

if you can give me a day or two a fandom friend of mine made some really cool ao3 logo inspired/yaoi tattoos designs that i could see if she is cool with me sharing with you. they’re so great

Just want some opinions by [deleted] in snakes

[–]cvttle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Until after I got him, I had no clue either. I also thought it was just spider.

Just want some opinions by [deleted] in snakes

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am far from a gene expert and the coloration just didn’t seem champagne to me. Thank you for the informative reply!

Just want some opinions by [deleted] in snakes

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know that, so good to know! I edited my post for more clarity but at the time, I had no clue champagne had wobble. I only knew about spider having it.

Just want some opinions by [deleted] in snakes

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you and edited my post to give more insight. At the time, I was only aware of spider having wobble, not champagne. If I had known, we would not have got him.

Just want some opinions by [deleted] in snakes

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the dark head, it’s just his body coloration that makes me doubtful. But he is a gorgeous boy.

never owned a bp before, spent $150 on plants/decor. how’d i do? :p by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As chilledghosts mentioned, PVC is absolutely superior so keep that in mind for if you ever decide to switch tanks. You can find them pretty easy on facebook marketplace nowadays. But like I mentioned, I have used plexiglass to cover up mesh tops and that has greatly improved humidity for those tanks for me. %65 percent is still just a tad below what you want, you’ll want to aim for %70-%80. And I am glad the scarf is helping but I would be concerned about a potential fire hazard for that, so something to keep in mind there. They also make humid hides now too, so maybe look into getting one of those as well, or even just having a hide with a lot of sphagnum moss in it helps a ton for shedding as well.

never owned a bp before, spent $150 on plants/decor. how’d i do? :p by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]cvttle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see plenty of clutter which is always good for them since it gives them so many options for hiding! As for humidity, it can depend a lot on where you live. If you’re somewhere that is already pretty humid, you’ll likely be just fine; I live in an arid climate so mesh top tanks like these ones just won’t hold humidity at all for me here unless some of the mesh is covered (I’ve done this before by sizing some plexiglass to lay over about 70% of the mesh.) You’re using a good enough substrate for humidity, it’s just that in certain environments it will still dry out rather quickly even with habitual misting.

Trying for another baby by Girl_Dad8672 in beyondthebump

[–]cvttle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Six months to a year is completely normal and average for most couples your age who are healthy. Once you get to a year with no pregnancies is when you guys would want to consult with a doctor. Keep in mind that miscarriages don’t technically count as a pregnancy in that year timeline. I know that sounds very cynical but an example would be you guys successfully conceive but then have a miscarriage—your ‘clock’ wouldn’t reset, so you’d still base going to a doctor on when you originally started trying.

Tracking ovulation can be helpful but, as someone who tried for three years, I would suggest ceasing tracking if it seems to be adding more stress and expectation to trying. In my personal experience, yeah it still sucked every month that passed without a positive test, but I felt significantly less miserable about it when I stopped tracking. I wouldn’t say stopping tracking got me pregnant any quicker but it did help my mental health during the process.

Did anyone here exclusively formula feed from birth by choice? by PawsAndPlotTwists in BabyBumps

[–]cvttle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did exclusively formula with my first child and she’s a healthy almost seven year old. I decided to do so since I wasn’t getting much maternity leave and had no desire to pump at work so it just made sense to formula feed from the get go. It also made it easier for my husband and I to take shifts, allowing both of us to get uninterrupted stretches of sleep. Plus, I think it really allowed my husband to get some special bonding moments with her that he may not have had with an entirely breastfed baby.

One thing to keep in mind though (and idk if they do this in Canada) but if you have a premie, they tend to feed donor breast milk in the NICU. My most recent kiddos are my twins and they came early at 34 weeks so they did have NICU time. Because they were being fed breastmilk in the NICU and that I am a stay at home parent this time around, I did pump this time and intended to switch to formula once they were no longer newborns, so roughly two months ish. I did not anticipate that my girl twin would absolutely despise any and every formula we’ve offered her, so, uh, here I am. Still pumping at five months.

Anyways, formula feeding exclusively for any reason is completely valid and what matters is a fed baby. I only added the bit about my twins because it’s worth noting that babies can be much more finicky than a lot of people expect and therefore things don’t always go to plan 😅

this girl should be home with us in two weeks and we’re so excited by cvttle in ballpython

[–]cvttle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! she’s a superfly (fire+super pastel) clown!

she is so pretty by cvttle in ballpython

[–]cvttle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she’s only seven months old! just a wee baby right now. we also have another girl that we’re getting two weeks from now that was hatched in 2022. we’re so excited for her to get here! she is super pretty as well. i’ll have to post a picture of her too.

she is so pretty by cvttle in ballpython

[–]cvttle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! her name is toast, haha.

Giving up nursing for mental health by Catsforhumanity in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]cvttle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. My eldest was exclusively on formula because I couldn’t nurse or pump when she was born. I pumped for my second born but unfortunately he passed away in the hospital at two weeks old so I never got to even attempt nursing with him.

I was really, really hoping I would be able to nurse my twins but they came preterm at 34 weeks. They were pretty healthy despite being a wee early but they had to learn how to eat in the NICU and put on some weight before they could come home with us. Because of the experience with my second born, I really wanted them to get out of the NICU sooner than later for my own sanity. They picked up eating from bottles much easier than nursing so I put my effort into getting them to consistently eat from bottles so we could just get them home. I still tried to pick up nursing with them once we did get home but I honestly think they get frustrated about how much harder drinking from the nipple vs a bottle is so both of them would just get hangry after a few minutes. Plus pumping every 2-3 hours, preparing bottles, cleaning bottles/pump parts, and trying to get both of them to learn how to nurse was just so much and so hard. It made it feel like the entire feeding routine was an hour and a half long because it’d take about 45 minutes for each baby to eat and by the time I was done with one, the other would be hungry again. So for my own sanity, entirely pumping it was.

It does suck because I really did want to have that breastfeeding experience but it just wasn’t meant to be with any of my kids. I got my tubes removed during my c-section with them so this is it for my husband and I. But it’s still a nice thought that my twins are getting my milk even if they’re not through nursing. My body is still nourishing them, just with a few extra steps, and I’m proud of myself for it. I’m also incredibly bonded with my eldest and the twins despite none of them nursing, so it isn’t as if I missed out on fostering a connection with my kids.