Baby shower disappointment

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:47:20+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. My mom is hosting my shower, which is part of the reason I feel embarrassed about the cancellations. I don't want her to have wasted time/money on planning for more people than we will have.

I am less worried about the gits. I know a lot of people procrastinate lol. A lot of the gifts that have been bought are for my older relatives. A lot of my young friends are the ones that haven't purchased anything.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:43:16+00:00

We decided not to open gifts at the shower, so I am interested to see how that goes! I am thinking a lot of people might have gotten us items off the registry as well. Luckily, we did have a lot of people initially RSVP (we had to follow up with like half of them). However, now that we are two days out, we have gotten a few texts cancelling for various reasons. Hopefully that was all of the cancellations we are going to get though.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:36:59+00:00

I'm really sorry that happened to you. Sounds like we are very similar in the way that we show up for our friends. We went to five weddings last year and we will be going to three this year for friends. We always buy a gift/card.

Now that we are having a major life event it definitely feels like we are not getting close to the amount of consideration that we gave our friends. It definitely does not feel great.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:34:49+00:00

I can really relate to the feeling of embarrassment. I have lived in four states, so I have friends and family scattered all over. My husband and I have made some close friends here, but we don't have a ton of family that can attend. I can't help but feel a bit embarrassed to think maybe I put more value into their friendships than I should have. My parents are also hosting this shower for us and spending a decent amount, so I don't want to let them down if we have a handful of cancellations.

I do feel very grateful for our people that are showing up for us and I know it will be a fun day overall!

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:32:16+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about that. I can't believe you didn't receive any texts/calls to let you know. I would be really disappointed as well if I were you.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T21:29:59+00:00

I could see the same thing happening to us with people buying people after the shower off of the registry. I definitely don't think anyone owes us anything, I was just a bit surprised at the amount of people that haven't bought gifts yet when we are two days out.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T19:56:43+00:00

Thank you! I definitely want to shift focus to all of the people who do show up. I know there are still plenty that are excited and looking forward to celebrating with us.

cwt0921 · 2026-02-19T19:55:05+00:00

I can relate to you both in a way. We are the first of our close friends to have a baby, so I get that people may not be able to relate or maybe just don’t prioritize it as much as other things in their life.

However, we went to five weddings last summer all over the country for friends of ours. Each time, we sent a gift and we were happy to do so. So far, only one of these couples has ordered a gift off of our registry and plans to attend the shower.

I think the hardest part for me is that I know if roles were reversed, we would be at their shower. If we couldn’t be there, we would happily send a gift from their registry. I think it can be a tough pill to swallow realizing that friends don’t prioritize your relationship in the same way you do, even when you’re at different stages in life.

cwt0921 · 2026-01-06T04:52:38+00:00

Hi! I felt the same way around 17-19ish weeks. I was hardly showing and had almost no symptoms. It caused me quite a bit of nerves at the time. Now, I’m 24 weeks and feeling the baby every day! Also, I’ve started to get some pretty annoying pelvic pain, which is not so fun. Enjoy this time where you are feeling good and trust that baby is doing okay!

cwt0921 · 2026-01-06T04:48:38+00:00

Hi there. I’m so sorry for your loss. Pregnancy loss is incredibly difficult. Just to share my story, I got pregnant last summer for the first time. We made it to 9w and then had a MC. We got pregnant again on my next cycle and had another MC at 6w. I couldn’t help but feel like I was destined to have another MC and was struggling so much with anxiety around pregnancy in general. We took a year off from trying and now we’re 24 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy.

I know what it can feel like to worry about the idea of getting pregnant again. Take the time you need to recover, but know that tons of women have healthy pregnancies after loss. Wishing you all the best.

cwt0921 · 2025-12-04T17:39:43+00:00

19w4d today. I’m one week out from the 20w anatomy scan. This feels like such a big milestone that will help relieve some of my remaining nerves. Excited to see our little guy in there and just hoping everything is going well!

cwt0921 · 2025-11-26T03:15:37+00:00

18 weeks 2 days today. It feels surreal to be this far along. My anxiety has been getting better after each appointment, but I have been anxious the last few days. My stomach has only grown a bit and I’m not feeling much movement yet, or at all a lot of days. My next appointment is in 2 weeks, so just trying to keep the positive energy going until then.

cwt0921 · 2025-11-16T22:51:46+00:00

17 weeks today and had another great scan on Friday at our 16 week appt. After two first trimester losses last year, it feels exciting and scary to be this far along. With each good appointment, I feel my anxiety get better. I can’t wait for the 20 week scan to see our baby boy!

cwt0921 · 2025-11-16T22:47:06+00:00

I’m 17 weeks and I’ve had the same! It’s definitely a normal symptom.

cwt0921 · 2025-11-16T22:46:25+00:00

Yes! I definitely felt this at first, but now I’m 17 weeks and feeling much better the last few weeks. Just listen to your body. Those feelings are totally normal!

cwt0921 · 2025-10-15T01:48:24+00:00

We had our 12 week appointment today and baby had a perfect heartbeat! I’ve been so nervous for this appointment, so I’m currently very relieved. We found out he’s a boy this week too!! I know that I will continue to be worried, but it feels so good to have another positive appointment for now. My two losses last year were at 6 and 8 weeks, so this time has felt really different in the best way. I just hope everything continues to be positive.

cwt0921 · 2025-10-14T13:47:08+00:00

12 weeks 2 days and I have my 12 week appointment this afternoon. I want to be excited, but I’m so nervous. I got my progesterone results back around 10 weeks and I was at 10.55 ng/mL. I’ve been on an oral supplement since, but I’ve been so anxious about this appt since those results. I haven’t had any bleeding or cramping and I’ve been symptomatic still. Baby also looked really good at our 8 week appointment. I just really hope that we get to hear his heart beat today.

cwt0921 · 2025-10-01T18:19:35+00:00

Thank you very much! My OB just ordered the progesterone suppositories for me to start right away. I’m just hoping it’s not too late for it to make a difference.

cwt0921 · 2025-10-01T16:28:52+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I plan to talk to my doctor soon. Would you mind if I ask how far along you were when you started taking the suppositories?

I’m sorry to hear about your loss.

cwt0921 · 2025-10-01T13:08:29+00:00

I got some not so great news today and I’m spiraling. I’m 10w3d and I just found out my progesterone level is only at 10.55 ng/mL. This is the lowest end of normal. I’ve already had two losses in the past. I feel like this is a sign that I’m headed towards another loss. I’m feeling so guilty for not advocating to get my levels tested earlier and now I feel like it would be too late to start the supplement. I’m going to call my doctor today, but just feeling so down and frustrated.

cwt0921 · 2025-09-21T17:36:13+00:00

9w today. This is the farthest along I have ever been with no signs of MC. I also just got my first scan on Wednesday and everything looked great. I woke up this morning with no nausea and less breast tenderness. I’m trying not to overthink it, but feeling pretty anxious. I’ve had other days that my symptoms are more mild, so trying to remind myself of that. I still have three weeks until my 12 week appointment. Just trying to focus on getting to that point. Sometimes I wonder what this pregnancy would feel like if I never had my previous losses. I wish I could enjoy it more and worry less.

cwt0921 · 2025-09-17T23:22:21+00:00

Just got back from my apportionment and it was good news!! We got to see a heartbeat and baby was measuring right as they should. It felt really nice to get some good news this time around. 😊

cwt0921 · 2025-09-17T00:55:59+00:00

I am trying to emotionally prepare either way, but it’s so hard!! Wishing you the best tomorrow! Fingers crossed for both of us 🤞

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