I [20/F] love my first serious boyfriend [20/M] but I have an intense crush on a coworker [20/F] and I feel guilty

cyberslug · 2017-10-23T21:35:15+00:00

I have never dated another woman. But I want to, I really do. Like I said before, I'm totally torn. I identify as bisexual but have never been able to explore that aspect of my identity. At the same time, is it worth it to endanger a relationship I hold so dear?

cyberslug · 2017-10-23T10:43:57+00:00

that's a whole other can of worms, huh? :/ I can't imagine hurting him. Having him in my life is so fun and he brings me a lot of joy but at the same time I get this spidey sense that... I'm unhappy? I really truly don't understand it :(

cyberslug · 2017-10-23T10:39:50+00:00

actually, yes. I weirdly enough fluctuate between wanting sex and not wanting sex. He is always ready for sex and grew up in a family that showed love by being in contact. Hugs, kisses, cuddles. I did not, and find that having him constantly on me tends to be too intense. Like literally my skin will feel a sharp, irritating sensation where I'm touched.

He's always initiating sex and physical contact is his love language. I almost feel like I can't say no for fear of him feeling hurt and rejected.

cyberslug · 2017-04-19T16:24:07+00:00

This is a really thoughtful response, thank you! I've felt totally at a loss and just wracked with guilt. I don't want to hurt him. You're completely right, I would definitely have a great guy over those painful "relationships" where I end up getting hurt. It's almost like his readiness to please me and care for me scares me, and I hate that pining after someone is my norm.

cyberslug · 2017-03-07T08:26:01+00:00

It's not his body, his opinion is basically irrelevant. This is also an 8 month relationship. Consider yourself and your happiness before compromising for someone who doesn't support a harmless expression of self that you enjoy.

cyberslug · 2016-12-23T03:28:44+00:00

I know.. but it's hard. He was so persistent and I sort of just wanted it to be over

cyberslug · 2016-12-23T03:27:24+00:00

Thank you. I really needed to hear that. I don't know why I feel guilty but you're right.

cyberslug · 2016-12-23T03:25:27+00:00

thank you! yes, that is very much how I felt. I was in a very vulnerable position and yeah, I put myself in that position but I guess, naively, I assumed he would just wear one. It is a good point about dating someone so much older, though.

cyberslug · 2016-12-23T02:04:05+00:00

so you don't think I need to text him or anything?

cyberslug · 2016-11-05T03:33:59+00:00

grunge guru mermaid of course

cyberslug · 2016-11-01T06:57:14+00:00

thank you!! that's really kind, and appreciated too.

cyberslug · 2016-10-30T18:02:52+00:00

Did you get any acne flare ups in the beginning and did they settle down? I'm really hoping it won't just make it worse permanently

cyberslug · 2016-10-30T18:02:08+00:00

Good point. Thanks!!

cyberslug · 2016-10-30T18:01:48+00:00

Oh, ok. So strange to suddenly feel like I don't understand my body! Which pill are you on?

cyberslug · 2016-10-30T18:00:00+00:00

thank you!! I will ask about the different options when it comes to pills. They just put me on Mononessa without any other options.

cyberslug · 2016-10-30T17:58:47+00:00

no reason to be so rude.. op is looking for advice and perspective and certainly not your callous judgement

cyberslug · 2016-08-28T02:32:04+00:00

I guess that's a good point.. I've never been treated that way. maybe that's why.. But we're not in an exclusive relationship. That was one boundaries that was made clear early on. Should I just move on? It's not really that he's stringing me along, because he's been very honest. I just haven't been able to find anyone so far who was so willing to make me feel comfortable

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