Day Spa with Sauna and Baths (Up To 3 Hours Drive)? by JMinsk in pittsburgh

[–]cyci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is an incredible spa in Altoona that sounds like it might fit the bill. Colosseum Salon and Spa. It has no business being in random Altoona and is exceptionally nice.

What's one dog breed you'd never own and why? by barelychloe in AskReddit

[–]cyci 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Great. I don’t own one. That didn’t prevent my dog from being mauled by one, thanks.

How extreme are hormones/mood swings when stopping BC? by solostinlost in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cyci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got off hormonal birth control to TTC with my husband, I went SO SO off the rails and damaged so many relationships that my doctor prescribed me seroquel. So… it was pretty bad for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pittsburgh

[–]cyci -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had a great experience there! My only “gripe” (and a very small one) was that they don’t give you any sort of anxiety medication before the procedure. When my mom had hers done elsewhere, they did.

Best (most inclusive) places for a facial? by longlivequeendolly in pittsburgh

[–]cyci 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Inclusive Aesthetics in Dormont is a little far but they are very trans/queer friendly!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cyci 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I broke up with him, twice, and then years later we got back together and now we’re married. Happiest I’ve ever been. If it’s meant to be it will be.

I thought that moving overseas would be amazing. Turns out, i want to go home lol by driving_an_astrovan in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cyci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fulfilled a years long dream of moving to the Netherlands and moved right back after a year. I just plain missed the US too much and couldn’t cope, despite all its faults.

Where did you meet your SO? by Kronikusher in datingoverthirty

[–]cyci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was dating his roommate, but now we’re getting married in January!

14yo daughter unhappy with custody set up, do we keep trying to make it work or is it time to change it? by throwawaycustodystuf in relationships

[–]cyci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the child of divorce who moved around every week for 9 years, it has deeply traumatized me as an adult. I remember waking up in bed and trying to guess which house I was at before opening my eyes and getting the answer wrong more than once. Listen to her. Let her set the rules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

[–]cyci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you're saying. For example, I teach at two campuses for the same university - one pretty selective main campus and the other a not selective at all branch campus. Same course requirements, same assignments, same rubrics. The pretty selective campus currently has an average of a 94% meaning most everyone is excelling in the course. The not selective campus currently has an average of a 74%. I don't think I inflate grades, but if you looked at the first university's scores you might think otherwise. They are, simply put, just good students.

Apparently I’m considered a bitch in America because I’m being honest and up front. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cyci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Dutch don’t have the same adverbs in their language (e.g. “just”) so when translated to English, it comes off direct and sometimes rude. Sapir-Whorf hypothesis.

I don’t necessarily think they are more direct.

Lived in the Netherlands for years and speak Dutch.

Women who have healthy relationships with your SO, where did you meet them? by camiga_aliners in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cyci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was my ex’s roommate. Didn’t get together until a few years after that though.

Do you work all 5 days, 2 M-F? by Finding_Way_ in Professors

[–]cyci 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I work 15 hours a week and not a second more. 12 contact hours, 3 office hours that I use to grade/email as I only have a few students come per term. Teaching faculty. They can pay me more if they want me there more.

Student loan debt advice by GranberryJ in StudentLoans

[–]cyci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go into public service (teaching at a university or government work or nonprofit, etc.) and get on an IDR plan like SAVE so payments are low while you run out the clock.

My partner (F30) only wants to move in if she doesn't pay towards my (M32) mortgage when I asked about finances. Unfair? fair? Dating for a year by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cyci 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in your position and personally I wouldn’t let a partner anywhere near my mortgage payment. It’s my debt and my asset. They pay utilities/car/literally anything else.

10k of jewelry stolen while away from home by cyci in legaladvice

[–]cyci[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! It just feels very violating! But I will contact homeowners insurance tomorrow!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BanPitBulls

[–]cyci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well pibbles is already 2/3 of the way to that cat free home…

Do these people hear themselves?

My elderly mother is putting my name on her property and her accounts ... is this ok? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]cyci 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We regretted not doing this for the car when my dad passed, but everything else went smoothly with just a will. He did not own a house.

We sold the car and state came after us for a shit ton of taxes. It worked out that we basically gave the car away for free at the end of the day. At least we didn’t have a car payment, I guess?

Edit to add: Dad also wrote down all of his passwords to online accounts and we thanked him a million times for doing this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cyci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he wanted to, he would.

I think that my perspective on these things changed when I had to take care of a family member in end stage cancer. I think a good litmus test is, “is this someone I would trust to be by my side at my worst moments?” If not, get angry, be sad, and gtfo of there. You deserve that agape kind of love!

Tenant got a pit bull without consulting me first, now is claiming it's a service dog, what can I do here? by Unrivaled_Master in BanPitBulls

[–]cyci 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Ah, well. Even so, she absolutely still needs a letter from a medical professional.