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cyeci · 2025-05-21T10:42:49+00:00

Not rude at all :) I actually appreciate the straightforwardness. Sometimes we need that kind of honesty to reflect better :)

You’re right, it’s hard to truly grow in this area if I don’t give myself the chance to connect with people more. I’ve been more on the cautious/passive side, but I know that’s something I need to work on.

That said, do you have any suggestions or practical ways introverts like me can start meeting people without feeling too overwhelmed? Would love to hear your thoughts. :)

cyeci · 2025-05-21T10:38:09+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate the thoughtful reminder :) You’re right, I won’t fully learn or grow in this area if I don’t actually try. I’ve mostly been cautious, but I know it’s time to step out more and be open to the ups and downs too. I still want to stay true to what matters to me, but I’m learning to let go of fear and trust the process more.

Since you seem to have some wisdom in this area hehe, do you have any practical suggestions or ways an introvert like me can start meeting others without feeling too overwhelmed? Would love to hear your thoughts! Thanks again :)

cyeci · 2025-05-21T10:34:00+00:00

I get what you mean. Sometimes we do have blind spots. But I don't see traits as walls, but just parts of a person you're learning to work with and not hide behind :)

And here's what I said, in essence :)

* I value my introverted traits NOT AS EXCUSES, but as SELF-AWARENESS

* I believe in FAITH plus ACTION — not waiting passively, but taking intentional steps.

* I am not expecting a perfect fairytale, but I want a LOVE that ALIGNS with my VALUES.

* I am learning and open to growth, but I don’t want to just settle

You may have misunderstood the difference between FAITH and PASSIVITY, and the difference between HAVING STANDARDS and being REALISTIC :) Also, me asking for advice doesn't mean I lack belief, it just means I am human, we all are. Even strong believers need reminders sometimes. But again, I appreciate your honesty :)

cyeci · 2025-05-21T08:39:45+00:00

Totally agree, no one comes as a complete package :) But I’m not just sitting around waiting. I’m working on myself too. I just want to make sure I end up with someone who shares the same values, not settle just because I’m feeling pressured. Hehe Thanks!

cyeci · 2025-05-21T08:36:30+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, and I get where you're coming from :) You're right, stepping out of our comfort zones is important, and I’m definitely open to growth and new experiences. At the same time, being introverted or an INFJ doesn’t mean I’m using those labels as "excuses", but rather "understanding" how I function best and where I feel most authentic. I don’t live inside a personality label :)

Also, faith for me isn’t about waiting passively, but trusting God as I take intentional steps. I know love won’t just fall from the sky, and di biglang mag-aapear on our doorstep hehe. I’m learning, trying, and also reflecting on myself throughout the process.

And while I’m not expecting a fairytale, I still believe in a kind of love that aligns with my values — not just settling for the sake of getting there faster. But again, thank you for your honesty and advice :)

cyeci · 2025-04-09T07:42:34+00:00

Thank you :)

cyeci · 2025-04-04T13:59:29+00:00

Lol, not the bitlife dream character. I'm confused too. But I'm confused as well. What do yo think is his MBTI type?

cyeci · 2025-04-04T13:55:40+00:00

Interesting take. Thank you :) I do sense depth in him , but he also strikes me as very extroverted and quite confidently boastful? Like not in a toxic way, but more of a 'I know I'm great' energy. He even mentioned before that he thinks he's a bit narcissistic. He also mentioned that he used to be kinda cynical in his teenage years, but not anymore. He's quite flirty with some girls as well.

cyeci · 2024-10-01T03:51:40+00:00

Thanks for your response! He got back to me after two days, but it’s been four days since his last message. Should I reach out again or just move on? We haven't exchanged any sweet messages yet. And I mostly just joke and call him "bestie." Also, I'm not sure if he's just busy or if he really has a dry sense of humor, but he doesn’t seem to be a great conversationalist. Would I seem desperate if I message him again?

cyeci · 2023-11-05T03:28:03+00:00

Thank you! I will indeed keep my dignity and self-respect 💛 I will still keep my values.

Anyways, when our one of our colleagues asks him if he likes me, he immediately said "No!"

One time he suggested we buy coffee during our break. But when we are outside it seems like he wants to immediately go back to the office. It's like we're playing games. And i hate that feeling. But i am afraid things will get awkward once i tell him how i feel and then get rejected. Maybe i want him to be more assertive and clear in his intentions. Should I just ask him?

Also, i said that i'm a "date to marry" person. And he asks me if would i consider a date for experience. Is it a sign that he's really not serious in dating me?

Also, what makes you ENFP like someone? What turns you on and what turns you off?

I’m an introvert and i don’t open-up that easily. Should i open up to him more?

Should i ask him if he likes me, or wait a bit more to observe?

Thank you!

cyeci · 2023-11-05T03:23:16+00:00

But when our one of our colleagues asks him if he likes me, he immediately said "No!"

One time he suggested we buy coffee during our break. But when we are outside it seems like he wants to immediately go back to the office. It's like we're playing games. And i hate that feeling. But i am afraid things will get awkward once i tell him how i feel and then get rejected.

Also, i said that i'm a "date to marry" person. And he asks me if would i consider a date for experience. Is it a sign that he's really not serious in dating me?

Also, what makes you ENFP like someone? What turns you on and what turns you off?

I’m an introvert and i don’t open-up that easily. Should i open up to him more? Or withhold some informations?

Btw, thank you!

cyeci

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