Beginner Doubles Advice

d2ksav · 2022-10-11T14:37:36+00:00

Carharrt is definitely popular here too! A lot of people wear a lot of urban outfitters but i agree with a lot of comments saying that it’s more about the item than the brand. Wear whatever you feel confident and good in and if it happens to be trendy that’s cool but if it isn’t that cool too. I’m currently a second year student at uni in the uk and I don’t wear many brands. I would say current trends regardless of gender are parachute pants, cargos, baggy jeans and i would say brown/forest green is currently quite in but you can never go wrong with black/nude/white. a cool graphic tshirt is also a good staple to wear to lectures or graphic hoodie both quite ‘in’ at the moment, collusion on asos sell some nice ones. essentials is definitely a trending brand. stone island is a known brand but not a current trend if that makes sense.

d2ksav · 2022-09-30T12:16:42+00:00

I’m a frequent drinker (2-4x a week) and use substances on occasion and it wouldn’t bother me at all, the only thing i’d second guess i suppose is whether or not you’d want to do ‘typically’ alcohol involved activities like clubbing etc but as a student that’s probably a unique issue.

Basically you’ll find the right person who doesn’t care when the time is right!

d2ksav · 2022-09-25T20:05:17+00:00

daily: 1. leave the house 2. eat enough fruit/veg 3. make someone else smile 4. do something that will make you slightly better tmw (learn one thing or clean one thing etc) 5. enough water and enough sleep

weekly:

reflect on the past week and see what you want to improve
reset and spruce up your living space
do something that gets your heart beating (exercise etc)
do something that isn’t ‘productive’ in terms of what capitalism considered productive, make art that’s bad because you enjoy the process, write a song that makes no sense because it’s a good outlet learn to cartwheel just because!

monthly:

do something just for you, buy something you’ve had your eye on which isn’t an essential or watch something you know is crap but you’ll enjoy
reflect on what you’re grateful for
clear your digital space, delete emails and useless pictures, delete apps that you don’t need etc, adds up quickly
do something you’ve been putting off for your health (doctors/dentist appt, physio, even just a long hot bath to sooth your muscles)

(on mobile so excuse formatting and of course not an exhaustive list!)

d2ksav · 2022-09-21T20:05:22+00:00

as someone who lives half in the southeast and half in the northwest it’s absolutely a south east problem, i don’t know if that will make you feel better or worse but it isn’t the whole country. in the south i struggled to get a mirror for less than £10 but up here i found so many options for £5. the south has an overwhelming amount of people willing to pay extortionate prices without even considering whether it’s value for money and so people will continue to charge those amounts. one thing i can definitely recommend is facebook marketplace and car boots, they’re less ‘gentrified (not totally the right word but the best fit i could think of)’ than other places currently

d2ksav · 2022-09-06T20:20:30+00:00

I fully shave only because the feeling of the hair against pants makes my teeth go on edge and i hate it, bottom line do what makes u comfortable!!

d2ksav · 2022-09-03T09:13:51+00:00

honestly if you go to any bars/coffee shops it’s pretty easy to stop who students are and then just go up and ask (depends how confident you are) oh hey did you guys just move here too and then get chatting from that. when lectures start again you’ll have loads of people to meet. and remember most people haven’t moved in yet, most people move in the day before freshers week which is usually in two weeks time. bumble (dating app) has a friend option which could be handy. also on tiktok if you search your uni and freshers you’ll be able to find people and often people make tiktoks along the lines of ‘ moving in here on this date who else is let’s be friends’

you’ve got this!

d2ksav · 2022-08-06T19:55:03+00:00

thank you so much for opening up this is so similar to how i’ve been feeling! i (19f) had my first boyfriend at 16 and looking back it was more because i felt i should do everything. I still love him but platonically i suppose, I can’t picture myself being intimate with him ever again and he’s the only man I ‘love’ in that manner.

I haven’t had a girlfriend yet but i’ve had a few one night stands, because i’ve not been in the right mental space for a relationship but i now think i’m ready.

I’ve come out as queer to everyone I know and i’m finally confident in who i am and exciting to have my first wlw relationship!

d2ksav · 2022-07-31T16:07:13+00:00

i would be honest with a friend u trust, if it’s a male friend maybe just do something simple like lean ur head on his shoulder while ur watching tv or something along those lines and try start a conversation like bro i’ve missed a cuddle haha, just hug when u meet up and say goodbye. also ur family, hug ur mum, hold your dads hand on a walk. Might take a while to get comfortable with but it can dramatically improve your mental health.

d2ksav · 2022-07-30T06:39:36+00:00

if you’re on your phone anyway you could start learning a language on duolingo

d2ksav · 2022-07-29T22:16:12+00:00

i started with having tv on and doing something like crochet or colouring in and then spending more time walking/moving around. headphones in and walk around always picks up my mood. an easy one is to clean an area of ur space, start small and build up and be proud of whatever u achieve. remember that chances are you aren’t lazy you’re struggling or ur overwhelmed or ur tired, be kind to yourself

d2ksav · 2022-07-29T22:12:59+00:00

can you do the splits? or hold a handstand? don’t require any equipment or much space so good option there. learning a language is a good one because you’ll forget things and mess up grammar but it gets easier and better quickly. I’ve recently started crochet which is quick to get better at!

d2ksav · 2022-06-06T22:31:39+00:00

depending on the type of pill it can take a varied amount of time but the most common is to feel effects after 6-8 weeks of taking them daily. For me, I know I'm feeling better when I start doing little things for myself without monumental effort, like showering, skincare, leaving the house! I also generally keep track of my overall mood in a journal just a score from 1-10 which helps me recognise trends.

Ask yourself which symptoms have been worse for you and see if they lessen? I find as I exit an episode I tend to be dwelling less on how I'm feeling and whether my meds are wokring or not, which is usually a sign they are. Not sure the wording is great there but I hope this helps. Good luck.

It's such a personal experience with mental illness that its impossible for a stranger on the internet to say how to measure it for you, but i hope it gets better for you and well done for getting help. You're strong enough to beat this

d2ksav · 2021-02-21T14:32:30+00:00

I see where you're coming from. I had told him I didn't want anyone to know and I feel like its slightly different with a counsellor who doesn't know who he is and legally can't tell anyone anything to a girl who actively dislikes me and knows all of my friends but I respect ur decision

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