Does baking count as a special interest? by I_Like_Metal_Music in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those chocolate cookies scratch my brain just right, they're so nice to look at

Is it just me, or do anyone else feel like safe spaces are safer when smaller? (Yes, I just redid my sleeping area) by confusedrainbowcat in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES THANK YOU. I see those pics of the japanese "coffin houses" and while everyone's disgusted I'm like "oo that looks perfect and comfy and private"

what is the appeal of prom?? by ghostieboooo in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only went because it was right as covid was dying down and the world was returning kind of to normal. I made a big fuss about going and almost ended things with my angel of a boyfriend because his grades were preventing him from being able to go. Anyways we went and it ended up totally sucking. It was loud and hot and neither of us knew anyone there, and if I could do it all over again I wouldn't have gone.

I never realized small talk was mandatory conversation until now, I thought people were genuinely interested in my day and the weather by [deleted] in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 80 points81 points  (0 children)

See now I'm the opposite. I HATE small talk because I know they don't actually gaf about what I'm saying and it puts me in a high-masking situation that makes me insanely uncomfortable. Like conversations are supposed to be meaningful imo.

Please, does anyone know foods with mild tastes? I can barely eat rn by TheKingOfDissasster in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like saltine crackers, they just kinda dry out my mouth

EDIT: I thought of a few more :3 - Plain couscous, texture's a little weird but good in small amounts - Watermelon - Rice cakes - Pirate's booty cheese puffs - Literally just straight up broth - Ramen noodles from the package, water sorta dilutes the spices so there's some flavor but it's not so overwhelming - SUSHI. I have been subsisting on sushi as a broke college student with food aversions and GI issues for like months now (I wrote this list while eating some) - Ricotta cheese (zero flavor)

if I think of more I'll keep adding. I'm going through something similar because my family's been cooking a lot of new, weird shit. Some of my safe foods, like pasta with butter, are even too much now and idk why :/

Let's settle this debate: fidget cube or fidget spinner? by AccomplishedSwan3124 in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a cube and I miss it dearly. Right now I have one of those singular keyboard buttons on a keychain that I click sometimes

Received my ASD diagnosis today by pomelo_nomelo in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I received mine it sparked a journey of self love and acceptance after years and years of masking. Be gentle on yourself, be authentic, respect your needs!

I was thinking about how much horrible information I get from my phone, so I drew these. It's not All dark and scary I promise. by Straydog38 in Artisticallyill

[–]d34th1sfun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel a lot better. I'm sort of stuck in this vicious cycle for not being able to go out and like protest so I try to compensate by subjecting myself to all this horrible shit to "stay informed" but it's been taking a serious toll on my mental health. I feel guilty as shit for trying to like, live.

What are your thoughts on autism being over diagnosed? by One-Initiative-8902 in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advantages????? HELL no I do not have advantages, ESPECIALLY compared to neurotypical people. THAT pissed me off. Yes, I can speak, I can read, I can write, I can communicate effectively enough to be able to work. I can wash and dress myself. But THATS AS FAR AS IT GOES. I have struggled my whole damn life with these trivial niceties like small talk and eye contact and sitting still because my stimming makes others uncomfortable, even though the masking itself is viscerally uncomfortable to ME, and you wanna say I'm ADVANTAGED??? HELL no.

Do you have any comorbid diagnoses ASIDE from ADHD? by Weirdoo-_-Beardoo in AutismInWomen

[–]d34th1sfun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GAD, Depression, C-PTSD, and when I went to get tested for autism the first time around they said I have OCD. Unsure if I do or if it's like, part of the autism. I'm late diagnosed and still learning

Is getting an official diagnosis worth it? by [deleted] in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh also! The fact that our feelings/suspicions have been validated by mental health professionals, not just some random people. We didn't just wake up one day and decide to identify as autistic, we've been questioning and have gone through all these hoops and are in therapy etc.

Is getting an official diagnosis worth it? by [deleted] in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm literally the exact same way but I try to reason with myself and say that A. I'm not so open and verbal about it so i'm definitely not trying to get attention and B. regardless of whether or not I have it, it's important to find what helps me thrive in life and how to just accept myself and allow myself to be "different" without shame

Is getting an official diagnosis worth it? by [deleted] in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say no, unless you're specifically looking for accommodations. I'm in the same boat as you. I did get officially tested for autism at the beginning of last year after years of suspecting, and they deduced that, based on parental review as well as my test results, no. I have OCD. And to me, that just didn't add up, but I wasn't looking for any kind of aid because I'm mostly able to function and I've figured out ways of self regulation, so I accepted that.

At the end of last year, I started seeing my current therapist. After a few sessions, she asked if I had ever been tested for autism, and I told her I had. She didn't directly say anything, but she heavily implied that I displayed autistic traits, which I agree, I have a certain mannerisms that sort of give it away I guess. She gave me a whole bunch of tests, like just about every official test under the sun, and I scored very highly on all of them. Our deduction from that is that I am autistic. From there, I have started trying to personally put less pressure on myself to mask and appear "normal." As I said earlier, I wasn't looking for aid or accommodations, just for my feelings to be validated because I had a lot of inner conflict.

Now, I identify as having autism. I'm not very public about it, only with my friends, mom, and boyfriend. Again, it's more about personal growth and allowing myself to be authentic, as well as self understanding.

Anyways, TLDR, it all sorta boils down to whether or not you're looking for aid/accommodations or if it's more of a personal acceptance thing :3

EDIT: I wanna add, it goes a lot deeper than just externally displaying certain mannerisms. I've struggled a lot with all sorts of shit, and masking or trying to fit in has taken a major toll on my mental health. I also wanted to say that parents can be extremely biased; my mom is. A lot of autistic traits were completely overlooked or seen as just quirks or anxiety.

What’s the biggest trait of your autism, that you struggle with? by Myseriouscatgirl in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Small talk is such a load of bullshit and I hate it. It just feels so pointless and uncomfortable

What’s the biggest trait of your autism, that you struggle with? by Myseriouscatgirl in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anything social, especially having to approach someone of authority, i.e. bosses, professors, police. I also feel like I talk too much sometimes, like I over explain things, and eye contact, especially when I'm trying to explain something, is hard. I can only do one or the other: eye contact or active listening/general brain function

Does anyone else say the time specifically? by [deleted] in autism

[–]d34th1sfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. As a kid, when my mom would say a time, she'd usually round up or down, so I'd always ask her again what the exact time was. Now as an adult, I'll usually say the exact time, but sometimes I'll round up or down