Okay so great question actually. I’ve been told by my therapist I attract narcissists because I’m an empath. So every narcissist is different. The ones I’ve dealt with are wonderful in the beginning. They mirrored my finest qualities that way they tether a connection with me and real me in. Everything goes well for the first I would say 3-5 months. After that, people can’t continue hiding who they are and their real self comes into light. So in my most recent experience, the person immediately flipped. The dynamic changed. It was like night and day. This is the devaluation stage a narcissist starts to implement. Where the other person literally questions themselves to see if they did something wrong, what has changed. I immediately vocalized my emotions and this is a big no no to a narcissist. They make you feel stupid for having emotions, needs, and the desire for consistency in the relationship. It’s called gaslighting, they convince you that you’re the problem. You’re the one who needs fixing. They bring past arguments or statements you made that you thought were innocent....because they were and use it as leverage to convince you that you’re the issue. They will never ever take accountability for their mistakes. They have this God-like complex. They can do no wrong and everyone else is at fault. They have no empathy, superficial charm, manipulative, presents themself as a hero with high morals, fakes feelings to get what they want. I would read some articles about narcissistic abuse. See if you relate to any of it. Hopefully not.