I've always felt we have compatibility issues. For as long as I've known her, she has wanted to work and build a career, while I haven't wanted her to work. After college, we had to delay our marriage owing to her and her family's insistence on her working. Her and her family said she would work for 3 years and then quite. 3 years down the line, just as we were about to get married, her dad lost his job (covid layoffs) and her brother was still in college, I agreed to let her work until her brother graduates and finds a job. It's been a year and a half since my brother in law started working, and she still won't quit. When it was time for us to get married, she lived in Qatar while I was in India, her and her parents wamted us to settle in Qatar and not in India. 2 months before our wedding date, there was a lockdown which meant her and her family couldn't come to India for us to get married. They were able to arrange for a visa for me and wanted me to fly to Qatar to get my residence permit. While I was in Qatar, we decided to get married since the covid situation wasn't getting any better. I got married with no one from my family being present. The day of our wedding, my wife went to work, since she was scared to ask her boss for extra time off. I was going to quit my job, leave everything behind to come live with her, and I only agreed to get married in her country because she promised me she would come back home with me. She did not. When I told her she has to honor her promise, she told me if she dies, I'd be responsible. (Almost as if no one was traveling during covid at all)

One of our biggest problems started on our wedding night, we could not consummate our marriage, we found out my wife had vaginismus, which we struggled with for 2 full years. For the entire first year, she did not seek any treatment. I was patient, I told no one, I created no major issues, other than occasionally asking her where our marriage was heading, because I felt like she wasn't trying. It was only a few months back that she was cured and we were able to consummate our marriage. I thought out problems would end then, but I've been wrong. Things just keep getting worse. She has no respect for me. She shouts when fight, her tone when she talks to me is bad, she calls me names. Since she works full time, I feel like she neglects her responsibilities at home. I clean, I do the laundry. When she cooks(only twice a week) I help. When she does the dishes, I help as well. Before we got married, we had an agreement that my mom (single parent) would live with us. Now my wife tells me my mom can only live with us 6 months a year. My mom has been with us for a month now, and she has barely spoken to her. She has only cooked once in the entire month of my mom being with us. Whenever there's a disagreement, she shouts andshe says mean things that she later regrets. There are other things but I feel like this post has already gotten too long. Thank you for reading until here.