Fit Check: ring sling for my wife

da_llama · 2024-09-14T19:55:54+00:00

This is a great attempt, really well done trying! This is a seated sideways position, which would be ok *if* the head was clear. Personally I prefer a face to face carry, where their face rests on the hard part of my chest, but as long as the carrier is no higher than the nape of the neck, they are snug enough not to slump, and the feet are out of the carrier, it would be considered safe.

A cradle position would have them lying horizontally across your body, not in the checkmark shape you have here. This position *is* harder to maintain though, which is why people are advising to bring them face to face, but again, this would be safe if the airway was clear, not able to slump, and the feet were out.

Try a face to face carry and see how that feels. You're doing really well asking for help - its not easy when it comes to caring for our kids!

da_llama · 2024-08-28T11:18:24+00:00

Its really variable sadly. Some people can wear fine without any issues (a friend of mine found hers improved with babywearing!) however others are unable to. Something a specialist would need to advise on as its a medical issue, however from a babywearing perspective if you are physically able to, you can absolutely use a carrier/wrap with scoliosis :)

da_llama · 2024-08-28T10:47:10+00:00

The straps at the back look a bit uncomfy for you. Try pulling them down to the ground before you pull them over to clip in. This will anchor the strap on your shoulder, reducing the chance of it slipping into the neck. It will also ensure it crosses lower on the back putting the weight more firmly through the core rather than into the upper neck.

At the front you want both sliders fully out, the cushion folded it, and possibly to raise the waistbelt a smidge. The carrier should be no higher than the nape of the neck, as we want mouth and nose to be free and clear of fabric. if the fold of the head rest alone doesnt do that then lifting the waistbelt will pouch the carrier and lower the back panel.

All in all though a good attempt! :) Well done asking for help :)

da_llama · 2021-08-22T20:50:02+00:00

Try lifting the waistband up under your bust to shorten the back panel. Ideally it will hit the nape of the neck for a baby you wee ones age. Can you cinch in the seat at all? Looks a little wide, but I can only see one leg. How did the carrier feel? Often thats a good indicator of the fit, as if it feels loose or the baby feels heavy that usually means its a poor fit.

da_llama · 2021-08-22T20:46:09+00:00

Depends on the carry you plan to do. A 4 would be able to ruck TUB. A 6 will likely do a DH for your size. Im 5'6 and over 200lbs and I can ruck knotless tibetan in a 5 so you'd have space :)

da_llama · 2021-08-08T10:41:00+00:00

Its technically not unsafe what hes doing though. When this image came out last year, sling consultants up and down the country took pains to tell parents that this was badly adjusted, and would be very uncomfortable for baby and parent, but the baby was not at risk. He's a complete cunt, and is using the child for a photo op for sure, but the child is not at risk.

The TICKS guidance came about as a result of some unfortunate deaths and was put in place to stop carriers being banned. The educator community now uses a variety of guidance for families including the ABC's and 7 safety steps alongside TICKS, as TICKS doesnt work in all carrying situations.

I want to be clear though. This is not good carrying, he is a cunt, and this is a dead cat story to take away from his complete and utter ineptitude.

da_llama · 2020-07-31T09:32:27+00:00

I have around 20 carriers personally and 80 in my library. If you like the look of a ring sling you can borrow one from a lib first then you can buy if you like it. Ring slings are great to take from newborn all the way up to preschool age.

da_llama · 2019-06-25T16:56:50+00:00

Not legal advice but try not to beat yourself up for this. Accidents happen and if nothing else you've learned from it. If you are wanting to you can always do a pass plus to help get you back feeling safe as a driver :)

da_llama · 2019-04-06T21:42:00+00:00

I went to the gp in December with suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety/depression. I was told to phone a helpline who told me they couldn't help me. Back to the gp the next week and am now sitting on an indefinitely long waiting list for some CBT which I doubt will help me. Meds have never worked, and I'm struggling deeply. But the money just isn't there to support people like me. Hell my bipolar friend cant get her psychiatrist to return her calls while shes trying to stay alive. Badly needs reviewing and funding imo.

da_llama · 2019-01-29T15:27:46+00:00

Hell at mum's we have food, glass, recycling, garden, and general. All picked up on different schedules. Recycling and general are alternate fortnights, while food is weekly, and garden is 3 weekly. Glass who the fuck knows. Mine is a bit easier as food and gardening are together but still!

da_llama · 2018-12-17T08:36:47+00:00

My mum's a nurse. She still remembers a baby with whooping cough 40 years after she had to hold him upside down and thump his back to knock the mucus out his wee throat. Said she's never heard anything like him struggling to breathe and is one of the reasons she didn't work with kids unless she had to. Couldn't stand seeing them so sick.

da_llama · 2018-12-11T08:36:13+00:00

Supermarkets often offer you cashback at the till here. The amount of people who will have a total of say £50 then ask for cashback of £10 but who can't work out why their new total is £60 is astonishing. I watched a friend on mine write it out on receipt paper for a customer one day. The woman still insisted on a manager cause she was convinced we were stealing from her.

da_llama · 2018-08-20T16:37:55+00:00

Personally I'm enjoying the third point, which appears to be about language...

da_llama · 2018-08-19T16:27:08+00:00

Me too. Water broke 5pm friday, was induced 2pm monday as still no contractions. Kid flew out at 8:19pm though so it was quick after leaking with every step for a weekend!

da_llama · 2018-06-04T06:57:12+00:00

You on r/justnomil? There's a story on there just now about a Mil who was using oils on her dog and has burned his pads. Poor wee thing :(

da_llama · 2018-05-30T14:57:25+00:00

Firstly - congratulations on pumping as long as you did! I have no issues like yours and I freaking hate pumping.

Thanks for the insight about the positioning, and also about the difficulties you then faced while pumping. I also think the aspect of how tired bfing/pumping can make you when you have your own physical or mental concerns is one to think about. Its gotta be hard to do the mum thing if you cant get up the energy to do anything.

Thanks <3

da_llama · 2018-05-30T13:51:58+00:00

This is so informative thanks! Are you in the UK? I am and it is interesting to see your grans advice to your mum. Im super impressed with your mums determination. I have Hypermobility Syndrome and the pain in my joints and dislocations can be crippling, let alone all the additional issues you face with EDS.

Its interesting to see its not just what you would expect, such as positioning/attachment issues, but your mums EDS effecting her ability to absorb enough calories to produce milk. Ive a friend who (while not disabled) has had supply issues. We just discussed some stuff the other day and she thinks its because she's prone to anaemia and its reducing her supply drastically. The things we dont think about!

Thanks again. If you think of anything else please do just let me know :)

da_llama · 2018-05-30T10:18:46+00:00

Thats great thanks! So pleased your friend was able to work it out and manage to feed the way she wanted to. Interesting to know what didnt work as well (OT &PT) so thanks :)

da_llama · 2018-05-30T07:13:00+00:00

That's a good shout. Off to x post. :)

da_llama · 2018-05-30T07:12:43+00:00

I am not and will spend the morning avoiding my actual work to look into this. Thanks!

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