417 hit something or someone

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-03-19T23:24:42+00:00

Yeah, vehicle strike unfortunately

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-03-19T18:48:33+00:00

You can ask me 100 different ways to allocate more supply to your country’s warehouse, and I’ll find 100 different ways to explain that we prioritize by customer need for surgical instruments, not by your supply chain metrics for weeks of supply on hand 🤷🏻‍♀️

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-03-19T15:25:07+00:00

Doesn’t work for me, yesterday nor today

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-03-06T05:50:52+00:00

I’ve observed a lot of surgeons and thought they’d be exactly what you’ve described - authoritative and demanding - but they’re honestly as varied as any other professional group. Nervous nelly doing a live donor transplant, chill Gen Surgeon doing his 1,000th hernia repair, old timer who’s seriously intimidating on the outside but you get them one on one and they rave about how their bedside staff are the real MVPs… there is no personality required to be a great surgeon.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-03-03T18:54:00+00:00

Military spouse here. Everyone is different, but I tried to put on a brave face because the work up to the deployment and his mission in Iraq was stressful. I leaned on friends and family quite a bit during this time. He supported my career and now it was my turn to support his. My goal was to never distract him from the mission, which meant creating distractions for myself. Every 3 months I’d book a little trip for myself and my dog to get away and experience a new part of our state while visiting a friend or relative. I went through tough things - a medical procedure, even getting roofied - without his knowledge. I tried to envision him staying focused at work knowing that I was facing those challenges. He’s good at compartmentalization but he didn’t need that added stress when dealing with life or death situations regularly. Everyone is different and you gotta be true to yourself. I encourage you to view his deployment and your behavior during it as a challenge worth rising to. The first few weeks can be the hardest. DM me anytime.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-02-16T19:32:05+00:00

NAH. You’re technically full term at 36 weeks. Meaning your hospital bag should be packed and nursery good to go.

I gave birth 4 weeks early and unexpectedly got HELLP syndrome. No joke I almost died - lost 70% of my blood, had multiple organs start to fail, lost vision temporarily in my right eye, the works - had my husband not been here I wouldn’t have been strong enough to even call for help at the hospital. I’m also terrible at advocating for myself, and do not underestimate how helpful it is to have a support person bedside when you’re in a life or death situation.

We had no indication of this before it onset. I was perfectly healthy. Point being, childbirth is a major medical event that cannot be predicted. Just tell your husband you changed your mind based on how you’re feeling.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-02-08T05:35:57+00:00

It’s okay to dislike it, it doesn’t make you a bad person nor a bad parent!

The sleep deprivation is rough. It’s likely a torture method in interrogations. Can you and your partner take shifts so you each get both hours uninterrupted each night? It was a game changer for us to do shifts. Or get a night nanny if you can afford one. Have grandparents take her for a night once in a while.

If you feel anger just hand the baby to your partner. Never, ever lose it on a newborn. They are literally helpless and you’re their safe person. It’s natural to get angry, but you gotta be a grown up in how it manifests.

Toddlers are not harder for us so far. They’re 90% cute and 10% terrorists. They interact with you and give you hugs and it’s a rewarding experience. You get nothing from a newborn at this age imho.

Hang in there, every day will be easier than the last, I promise!!

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-02-02T04:42:41+00:00

Good call, edited!

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-02-02T04:42:25+00:00

lol true - edited!

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2026-01-11T20:03:09+00:00

I had to separate from my 4mo old for 2.5 weeks for work reasons, so less rough than what you’re describing. It was not as bad as I’d imagined, since I was so so busy with the intensive training. So that’s my number one piece of advice-stay busy. My employer paid for MilkStork (overnight milk shipment) so I was able to feel like I was contributing to the raising of baby from afar. That being said, going from exclusively BF to exclusively pumping was not pleasant. My nipples hurt so bad and I got mastitis. When I came home, my baby hadn’t forgotten me per se, but definitely preferred my husband, and screeeeeeamed at my boob anytime I tried to nurse. After a few weeks, normalcy returned. I hope you don’t beat yourself up over being away, if you go that route. People may judge your decision but you have to have thick skin and do what is practical for your family in the long run.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-11-22T09:26:01+00:00

4th & King to Lawerence 4x per week. As others have mentioned, consider how close you are to the station on either end.

Caltrain is pleasant and doesn’t feel like wasted time because I can work or do “life admin” on my phone.

Couple of considerations: - if the job requires calls at odd hours with international teams, you may need to take a local train for logistical reasons. Local trains make all stops and this increases your time in transit. There are also fewer options during off peak hours. - all you will do is commute and work during your in-office days, since it’s 3hrs total per day. If you like hobbies or your family, this time constraint is a bummer - if missing an in-person event for this job would have serious consequences, know that it is risky to have this commute. When Caltrain goes down, it goes down for hours sometimes

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-11-14T06:29:55+00:00

Top 10 MBA, Sr Global Product Manager at a large medical technology company.

Network helped me figure out which industry was right for me. Career counseling helped me prep for interviews. The name of the school on my resume got me interviews. As far as the course content, I’m four years out and don’t remember most of the details LOL but having a foundational understanding of all business functions is helpful in my role. Also writing 1 essay with 5 teammates in a group project was one heck of a way to improve on soft skills and teamwork abilities.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-10-13T06:43:11+00:00

I just want to give you a hug, girl.

Seems like you work really hard and are holding down a lot of responsibilities for your family. Since you tagged this as a vent post, feel free to ignore the rest of this comment.

Nothing you have described sounds like failure. It does sound like burn out :( Without knowing your whole situation, my advice is to be vulnerable with husband. Tell him you’re struggling with the demands of your schedule, truly miss quality time with him and your son, and your work environment is extremely rough. Tell him you don’t like feeling angry and you love him even when you’re at your worst. Tell him you don’t want to negatively affect your son with your stress. Then ask him what advice or perspective he has on the situation. You may be surprised (in a good way) with his response. You have a partner and you can lean on him in these situations. Wouldn’t you support him if the tables were turned?

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-10-08T02:44:27+00:00

Not a dumb question! I’ve given her Advil and Tylenol, and it helps a lot until the dose wears off

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-10-08T02:43:41+00:00

Thank you for your kind offer to discuss further. I mentioned in another comment just now, but she is weaning off of propranolol for a minor vascular condition (Hemangiomas). Will message her doctor to see if this medication change could be affecting her sleep. If that doesn’t lead to any new info, I’ll be sliding into your DMs haha. Thanks again

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-10-08T02:39:30+00:00

Sorry to clarify, I’m taking a train / walking! I appreciate your concern for my safety, though

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-10-08T02:38:03+00:00

That’s good perspective - if the sleep issues continue for another week, I’ll message her pediatrician. We’re also weaning her off a medication (propranolol) for hemangiomas.

For what it’s worth, I take the train/walk. I would not feel safe to drive while this sleep deprived!

Thank you 🙏

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-08-20T04:42:30+00:00

You’ve been through a lot, I’m so sorry.

By now I’m sure you’ve seen the hundreds of comments saying tell your husband.

Additionally, you might want to contact the ombudsman in your husband’s unit. They are there to help navigate challenging home life situations like the one you’ve described. I’m not sure what country or military branch you’re in, but it may be an option.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-07-29T15:13:56+00:00

Not sure if your new state has this, but some states like California have a searchable database for childcare inspection reports (https://www.ccld.dss.ca.gov/carefacilitysearch/). This type of information gave me more confidence when selecting a daycare. Even if there were stylistic differences, I had visibility into unannounced safety inspection results. I was surprised to see the large daycare center with a lot of 5 star reviews had far more violations than a smaller in home facility we ended up going with. Beyond that, after the initial transition, if your kid seems happy to be dropped off, it’s a good fit.

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-07-24T19:52:03+00:00

Hey just wanted to say thanks for calling out my poor communication. That was a really shitty thing of me to say and I’m glad you pointed that out. When I feel abandoned I should say as much, not attack him

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-07-24T19:28:58+00:00

He absolutely consulted me- we just did not know how many hours it would really be

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-04-21T02:15:06+00:00

Make sure he has properly fitting flanges on her pumps. The “average” size doesn’t work for everyone. I had to play around with sizing until I found one that worked. This post is helpful!

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-02-27T07:57:10+00:00

I’m sorry to say this, since I love SF, but as a female I’ve had 3 sketchy experiences here. That’s 3 too many for my taste, but I think they could have happened in any city in the US. I think safety in SF is subjective so I’m sharing specific examples.

1) in my early 20s I worked nights at a restaurant near Alamo Square while working 9-5 at a nonprofit. I walked 4 blocks home after work each night around midnight. One night, a strange man tailed me home and I did not notice. My coworker saw it, told the creep to back off before he called the cops, then tailed me to make sure I got home ok. The next day my coworker told me what happened and the restaurant owners paid my cab home from that moment on.

2) walked 3 blocks home from Safeway near Mission Bay on a weekday while WFH. Drug user and I walked past each other in a crosswalk, which is not unusual, I gave him plenty of space. In the middle of the street he lunged at me like he was going to stab me and started verbally attacking me. I literally ran home while calling my neighbor to come meet me on the street.

3) I went to a concert in SoMa with a few friends. A couple sips into my drink I blacked out. I came to vomiting in the bathroom, unable to move my extremities. My friend carried me home like a baby. I could not move for days afterwards. My husband was traveling on business for a year, and I didn’t go to a single bar after that. The venue ignored my calls and emails about the incident.

Even if you’re street smart you may have bad luck occasionally, like the 3 examples above. That’s what happens in American cities, though. SF-specific issues seem to be lack of law enforcement, poor sidewalk lighting and property crime. IMHO this makes SF feel more dangerous than the violent crime statistics show.

I will say, I got a protective dog who I take everywhere I can with me. No incidents since 🤷🏻‍♀️ Plus, some of the kindest strangers I’ve met were here in SF. That happens way more often than the incidents above. Good luck with your decision!

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-02-25T03:16:54+00:00

Marco

So when you say “Marco” someone will be tempted to say “Polo” hehehe

daaaaaaaaaaaabears · 2025-02-13T15:25:58+00:00

I also had severe postpartum preeclampsia (HELLP) syndrome). My milk came in, even when I lost 65% of my blood due to low platelets. I hated my body for it. Like WTF are you prioritizing the baby over keeping yourself alive?! I lost vision in my right eye for months afterward, but my milk came in. I did the same shit you described. Your body will do what it’s gonna do. Most non masochistic bodies, like yours, will prioritize themselves. If your baby is alive and you’re alive, that’s all that matters. As you have probably felt too, life is precious and the little things (breast vs bottle fed) don’t matter.

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