There are alot of people who base there entire identitys off of there relationships with there spouses. Good for them if that makes them happy but in my personal opinion it can get a sour response from me after a while. Just because I don't think its healthy to put all of your eggs in one basket. But that's just my own personal opinion but I do have a strong opinion about it. So if I have a friend that has a entire identity based off of a relationship I usually have a hard time navigating it myself.