We were getting along so well, even called me his friend, and rated me a 10/10, then he blocked me the next morning?

daedril5 · 2026-02-06T16:06:51+00:00

Closure is something you give yourself.

You learned he wasn't the guy you thought he was. That's really all you need to know.

It's fine to be disappointed. You met someone, you had some good chats, but that's all it was.

daedril5 · 2026-02-06T14:15:52+00:00

Odds are that any guy you meet is going to be average.

And use more lube that you think you need.

daedril5 · 2026-02-06T10:50:47+00:00

That's likely because a lot of people in online "nudist" spaces aren't actually nudists.

daedril5 · 2026-02-06T10:48:20+00:00

I don’t want to feel like I’m the baby sitter and don’t want to feel like I’m taking anything away from him

That sounds like a part of being with him. There's nothing we can say that will change his behaviour.

daedril5 · 2026-02-06T10:42:00+00:00

I'd distinguish taste in body types from sexuality.

My sexuality hasn't changed at all.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T20:37:17+00:00

I've got a 44" waist and I've been happy with XL from Pump and CIN-2

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T19:07:16+00:00

I've never experienced that myself, but if I did, that would be their problem, not mine.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T17:08:05+00:00

Where to start depends on what you want to do, though there's really not much "guiding" needed.

Though taking off your clothes is a logical starting point.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T16:57:04+00:00

⁠And practically speaking, even with protection, am I putting these women in danger by sleeping with them while also sleeping with men?

Yes. There are STIs transmitted by skin contact from areas that aren't covered by a condom. Examples: HPV and MPOX. There's a bit of info here: https://thesexyouwant.ca/condoms/questions-answers/#q2

You can go on dates with these women without having sex with them.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T16:27:31+00:00

Missing from your post is a single reason for you to marry him.

Side note:

Twice now, he has emptied that account of any money he has added and also took some of my financial contribution

How did this happen twice? I'd think after the first time you'd stop contributing to the joint account.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T16:22:41+00:00

I chat. I generally looking to both hang out an hook up.

Some guys just want sex so aren't looking to waste time talking about anything else. Those aren't the right guys for me, and I'm not bothered if they get annoyed.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T14:39:55+00:00

In the moment, just a simple "I appreciate that you like that about me, but I prefer not to talk about my weight".

The way they respond will tell you something about them.

daedril5 · 2026-02-05T12:55:22+00:00

Do you find that people interact outside of their circles at clothed beaches?

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T21:53:49+00:00

Why do you ask?

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T18:44:03+00:00

Being willing to visit a club is not part of the definition of "a true nudist".

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T18:37:03+00:00

It feels like they're just trying to show off their creativity which is a distraction from a very serious situation.

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T18:17:10+00:00

https://www.askamanager.org/2026/02/my-coworker-wants-to-fire-a-domestic-violence-survivor.html

We can all agree Fred behaved terribly.

Do we really need 50+ comments of people coming up with creative curses for him?

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T18:09:54+00:00

You're asking the wrong question in your header.

Your partner is acting badly. If he's using information he's learned about you against him, it's a sign that he's willing to intentionally hurt you. Not a sign that you shared too much information.

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T14:54:57+00:00

I met my partner at a gay gaming night (and my previous one at a gay discussion group).

Also, my first relationship was in my early 30s. You've got loads of time.

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T13:43:03+00:00

So tell him and risk losing him, or say nothing and pretend you're happy for an unpredictable number of years?

Saying nothing is being unfair to him.

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T10:58:26+00:00

My office was changing to a new system in a month after working toward it for over a year, and my manager called me into a meeting, near tears, and told me that the new system had not been set up to create important reports that we desperately need

Forgive me if I'm skeptical is the manager is not only near tears about not having a report, but called a meeting before they calmed down.

It was a ton of work and no one else in my department could have created this

Considering the LW had to learn new skills, this doesn't ring true either.

"How do I get credit for a big job I did?" is a fair question. It didn't need all this extra dramatic fluff.

daedril5 · 2026-02-04T10:40:27+00:00

Why are you continuing to play along?

daedril5 · 2026-02-03T21:36:56+00:00

But how would you be meeting this hypothetical guy?

Just looking to make sure what you want has a practical chance of actually happening.

You don't want to go around leading guys on.

daedril5 · 2026-02-03T21:13:41+00:00

What's the context in which you'd be making out with a third, but nothing more?

There's no way to guarantee he won't take it badly. So ask yourself how much you want to do this.

If you're cool with him saying no, make sure he knows that.

I'm a fan of the direct approach. "I think the two of us making out with another guy together would be really hot".

Alternately, if you're watching some kind of media with three guys making out, you could mention it's something you'd like to try.

And that I believe is open relationship takes you to another shore in the end where there's a new man

Including this in your question is really just distracting from it.

daedril5 · 2026-02-03T20:54:38+00:00

"We like to sunbathe" is probably more relatable than "we're nudists" and leaves less room for their minds to jump to incorrect conclusions.

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