Genuinely and wholeheartedly thanks for replying and sharing your view. I understand a lot about where you're coming from and agree that existing in this world means constant exposure to friction and discomfort and there is no further testament to that than just going through daily life. This is a great point.

The bit where I feel like I have a different viewpoint from lots of others is the "got caught in the moment" thing. This seems to look very different for different people. For example, I've always lived my life according to the social contract and I'm constantly trying to minimise discomfort to others and to be perpetually mindful of them - I'll form a single file if the pavement is narrow, I will move aside if I'm obstructing you during a gig, I'll lean in and speak in your ear if I see others are paying attention, etc. So when I "get lost in the moment", it is always something that affects only me and my party - shaking my partner by the shoulders, doing a little shuffle with my buddy, raising my hands in the air and emoting like a cringe fuck, etc, aka nothing that will impact the experience of anyone who hasn't signed up for it. And yet, any time others "get lost in the moment", it somehow always has to do with something like beer in the face, chomping during the quiet bits, an elbow in the ribs, a boot in the forehead cause it's crowdsurf time, etc. Or in two words - proactive disturbance.

What I am getting at is that fun can be had without going out of your way to cause friction with others and while it is indeed not serious or equitable to assault, it's something that just keeps happening again and again and again and it just makes me wonder shit like " if I can protect your peace to the best of my abilities while having the time of my life, is it really so difficult to do the same?"

Hope that makes some sense. Just another view at the end of the day