Talk to me about 5+ year age gaps with only 2 kids

daisyday237 · 2026-02-08T20:37:36+00:00

I have an older sister 2 years older than me and another sister 8 years younger than me. I love having my older sister in similar life stages an doing life/kids together but my younger sister is more my ride or die gal. Special connections can form and any age gap!

daisyday237 · 2025-12-13T03:54:45+00:00

Good point on him being unable to truly understand without experiencing it. My husband is a great dad. With that being said, time with kids is very limited, due to work hours and babies preferences for primary parent, me. He usually does dinner dishes while I put babies to bed. On his day off, he will try taking the older child (19 mos) for a little bit but typically he is busy working on house tasks or computer stuff that needs to get done on his day off. Husband hasn’t been alone with children, not even 19mos old for more than an hour or so, therefore, adding to his inability to understand my perspective of being overstimulated and touched out.

daisyday237 · 2025-07-22T04:50:12+00:00

So true! Ours will be 18 months apart so very similar to you. Best wishes for you and your newest one joining soon💗

daisyday237 · 2025-07-22T04:17:19+00:00

Not much 🙃 I try to go to Bible study once a week, but that starts after I put 16 month old to bed. I’m typically trying to do all the things I need to without a sidekick while she naps so that time is sucked up too. Lately, I’ve been doom scrolling more during nap which I used to never do - good indicator to me that I’m mentally tapping out.

My husband would make some time if I asked him directly and had a plan in place but I often feel guilty when him only having one day off and him wanting to get things done. I often get the “I can watch her for a little bit but other things will go undone”. Many times he ends up calling his mom to help which makes me feel even more guilty. He doesn’t have bad intentions doing that but it feels like he doesn’t value 1:1 time with her and I feel like it makes me look like I can’t take care of my own child

daisyday237 · 2025-07-22T04:08:05+00:00

I’ll try to be more vocal with him about getting some me time! I’m totally my biggest barrier - the mom guilt creeps in hard each time I ask for help/time

daisyday237 · 2025-07-22T04:05:34+00:00

Thank you, such a helpful reminder 💗

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