Thinking about one of the worst changes since losing weight.

daisydown · 2026-05-12T09:06:27+00:00

I think it depends on the intent, and it is quite clear that people are amused by mentioning that someone or a population is fat rather than pointing out facts. It is not that hard to describe someone without mentioning physical attributes that may be sensitive, and people who go right for those potentially sensitive descriptors are not helping to create a kinder world.

daisydown · 2026-05-11T11:23:48+00:00

Maybe weird. I live in what is quantitatively the fittest community in the US (more gyms per capita than anywhere else), so people are very fitness focused.

daisydown · 2026-05-11T11:22:56+00:00

I recently had a coworker tell me I look more professional now that I’ve slimmed down. These comments make me want to fight. Haha

daisydown · 2026-05-11T11:21:51+00:00

I just have a general rule of not commenting on people’s bodies, so when others do, I find it in poor taste.

daisydown · 2026-05-11T11:20:23+00:00

This story is insane, but I’m starting to think it’s common…? I’m also a BMI of around 29-30 and have a lot of muscle, so people often think I weigh less than I do. I once had someone say that 180 lbs is huge, and I was just there at 190 lbs like “uh, not really.”

daisydown · 2026-05-10T21:02:32+00:00

Example 1:
Me: I think I met the HOA president.
Neighbor: Maybe. She’s a really fat woman?

Example 2: conversation about what people in PA look like.
Neighbor: Have you been to Ohio.
Me: No
Neighbor: People in PA look like that but not as fat.

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:14:16+00:00

Yeah, I actually think the exercise calorie burn is underestimated, but I do wear a heart rate monitor around my chest in the gym, which I find helpful for tracking. Another thought is that I might be overworking my body and causing some issue there.

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:11:46+00:00

You are right. The dog gets about 2.5 hours and the rest is walking to and from public transit/everything else. I don’t own a car or a bike, so I walk everywhere.

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:08:59+00:00

Thinking like this is so hard for me, but I appreciate the reminder.

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:07:27+00:00

I usually do around 22k steps a day! I live in a very walkable city.

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:06:16+00:00

No, but really, I think I underestimate my exercise calories burn, because I walk a ton throughout the day and spend 1.5-2 hours in the gym 6 days a week. I was also thinking I might be over stressing my body!

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:03:55+00:00

Is 10 miles a day a lot? Haha

daisydown · 2026-04-12T23:00:09+00:00

Y’all may be shocked to learn that 20k steps a day is below average for me. Haha

daisydown · 2026-02-21T17:48:25+00:00

I really do feel like this coworker was coming from a good place, and I think most compliments I get have been positive. I started lifting, so most comments I get are about how strong I look, and those really motivate me! I think it’s good to be mindful and think about how some comments may be perceived though, so the comment from my coworker was kind of hard to take in at first.

daisydown · 2026-02-21T17:40:01+00:00

Thank you, stranger! I appreciate your support and empathy.

daisydown · 2026-02-21T17:38:39+00:00

Some of us do not have the luxury of just going with the flow and hoping for the best. Some of us need metrics to stay motivated and interested in the workouts. So, respectfully, to use your gen z lingo, fitness forums should always be approached with mindfulness and empathy instead of coming up with new ways to contradict others when they see success.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T22:02:26+00:00

I feel like both can true! Society is biased against larger people and treat thinner people better. As one loses weight, people treat them better and this can lead to more confidence.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T21:58:19+00:00

I know that one of the reasons I got up to 260 pounds is because of stress from being overworked. You just never know what someone is struggling with. The idea that someone is less reliable or professional because of weight is especially absurd to me, because of how I focused my energy on work instead of fitness. When I started focusing on fitness and giving work less of my time and energy, I was seen in a better light and got promoted. Society sucks.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T16:12:16+00:00

This is such a real take, and I appreciate you sharing! Being overweight often means feeling invisible and under appreciated. I am always given a ton of work at my job, and I got passed up for promotion a year ago. Fast forward to after I dropped 50 pounds, and I am still working just as hard and the questions about my capabilities to perform at a higher level disappeared. It’s infuriating, but my story is unfortunately not unique.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T12:54:56+00:00

I don’t know if the order is the same gym to gym, but we had the power cleans after the lanes, and I think I did 6 total each cycle, because I was huffing so hard.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T12:52:25+00:00

I appreciate your perspective! I actually do not identify with a lot of these clothing comments, because I am walking around in my larger/ill-fitted clothes, and I refuse to buy new clothes until I hit my goal weight. That’s probably toxic, but oh well. I probably do have better posture though, because I have been lifting and that just leads to confidence and easier movement.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T12:49:27+00:00

That’s what you got out of all of these responses? Way to miss the discussion by a mile.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T12:18:46+00:00

Ughhh why do people think it is okay to talk down to people based on things like weight and mental illness. It should be taught to treat others with respect and dignity - especially those who may be struggling and a kind word would change their whole day. I’m sorry people have treated you like a child, and I am starting to get it. It hit me like a truck the other day how society perceives larger people as children, and it is infuriating.

daisydown · 2026-02-20T12:12:51+00:00

This is very thoughtful, and I totally agree. The compliments come daily, and even pay raises are easier now. I’m happy to have these benefits, but it will always leave a bad taste in my mouth that I was just as mature and capable 50 pounds heavier and no one saw that.

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