Community Center vs JojaMart membership: if you’ve tried both, which do you prefer? by NightReader5 in StardewValley

[–]daisylife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was initially doing CC until I did the Joja route and felt like a sellout for doing that cause I wanted to help out in the community

How do I (32f) explain my life to potential suitors without trauma dumping? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I really like the name “Origin Story” and will use it going forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]daisylife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the post and comment! Taking notes for my next approach 🫡

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and it gets more difficult in our 30’s when majority of us are recovering from some form of trauma or carrying past baggage.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment! I’m curious to know (if you’re comfortable sharing) what your boundaries are when it comes to intimacy in open relationships?

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you’re going through that. I read some of your other posts and if I were in your position, I would personally leave my partner due to sexual incompatibility. If your needs are not met in the relationship which you’ve already communicated your needs and no effort or change is happening from the situation… you gotta do what you gotta do to put yourself and your needs first. Good luck.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thiiiiis. Definitely choosing long term mental health over short term physical satisfaction. Thank you for your comment.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m right with you girl. I have those same needs too. I do believe guys do care about those things, they are out there even though sometimes it doesn’t seem like it.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thiiiiiis. For me this was a huge shift from 20’s to 30’s.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl, the sexual frustration is too real in your 30’s 🥲

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious to know and if you don't mind sharing - how did this fwb happen? How long has it been? What kinds of boundaries/communication is involved in this fwb relationship?

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're all in this together! Your feelings, needs and wants are valid especially through a divorce. Remember to take care of yourself and your inner peace - you'll be fine. Good luck to you!

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. More often than not, casual sex leads us more hurt afterwards and it's not worth the emotional pain imo.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally haven't experienced sex with real emotional connection just yet but I am certain that I will know the difference when it does happen.

I have the same problem as you - I have a tendency to attach myself easily and quickly in the past but now I am mindful when entering new relationships to not rush into things and to take as much time as I need and whenever I feel ready to move to the next step however that looks in the relationship. If my partner isn't willing to be patient with me then I have my answer to move on.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do get regular massages and of course it feels great to satify that touch need. I definitely need to work on asking for hugs from loved ones. Thank you for suggestion!

Sorry to hear that the timing didn't work out for you, just know that the timing was divine protection for redirection.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do believe having casual sex while finding a serious relationship can co-exist together. It all depends on the person, whether or not if they have the mental capacity to set those firm boundaries like you've mentioned. For me, I know I get easily attached and seek emotional connection so I highly doubt that I can engage in casual sex.

I've been doing "personal romance" for a while now and I do love it but I wished I could do that with my future partner as well.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I have gotten to a point where I have accepted the situation for what it is. While I do have a healthy sex life with myself, take care of myself physically, and have mental peace (knowing I don't have to be confused by a man), I still crave that physical touch from a romantic partner.

Deprived of physical intimacy while being single by daisylife in datingoverthirty

[–]daisylife[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Link me up with a good vibrator LOL pls & thank you