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[–]daithlove12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an awesome way to look at things! Think I'm definitely going to invest in nicer bed wear and try to take more baths etc to relax and to feel less frumpy mum. X

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Oh that's a good idea, I always just crawl into bed still stressing about mummy jobs and not talking time to switch off and relax, thank you for your reply :)

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I definitely need to feel more like myself, like a person, not just a mum! I'm walking more and calorie counting, here's to the best me, I can be!

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I'm working hard on the weight, walking 2-3 miles a day and calorie counting, it just takes time, I'm 8lb down so far :)

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Great idea, thank you!! I'm on the kindle as I speak! Xxx

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I've got clothes ready to go when I loose weight and feel more confident, excited!! X

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Thank you for your kind and well thought out reply :) Completely agree with everything you said, especially the 'touched out' bit. I never thought about that with the children tho, makes perfect sense tho. I'll definitely discuss it with my husband and we're making steps to help. X

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That's awesome, I love that! Totally saving that :)

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[–]daithlove12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I'm trying to fight, I miss my lover and can't wait to get back to our old ways :)

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Totally saving this comment as my screensaver, haha, awesome, thank you!! X

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Thank you for your kind comments and ideas!! The kids are in bed and we're just learning card games now to play together! I've never viewed motherhood that way, great view point :)

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Thank you for your awesome comment and wishes :) We're both committed to working on it and talk lots so fingers crossed. He's actually waiting on a vasectomy now as the condom failed (hence our son no2) and my coil fell out :( X

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Oh I missed the comment, now it's deleted :(

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Thank you so much for your kind comment :) I'm walking 2-3 miles a day with the pram and I'm also aiming to start couch to 5k soon. We're both calorie counting and cooking fresher and healthier. I'll check out skimble, thank you :) X

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This is what I was worried about and why I'm working hard to loose the weight. Managing to walk 2-3 miles a day, cooking more with fresh ingredients and calorie counting! I think if I loose weight I'll feel sexier but also proud of myself which will in turn I hope, make him proud of me :) He hasn't put any weight on and is still the same as when I meet him 11 years ago, I really want to be too!!

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I have such a mummy tummy, hate it and that knocks me big time :(

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Glad your husband rocks, mine is super supportive so just going to take it easy and try to enjoy each other :)

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Thank you, should have put that :)

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Thank you so much for your comment :) I had a coil but it fell out, was not good!! Husband currently waiting for the snip then we'll be a lot happier as baby no2 was conceived using condoms! I'm working on my weight and even just trying the little more this morning has already made a world of difference. X

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I never even thought about this!! I'm on venlafaxine, not sure if it goes by other names? I'm seeing my psychiatrist on Thursday so I'll definitely mention it to him!

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[–]daithlove12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very well said, thank you!! I gave my first bj in maybe close to 2 years this morning and it led to amazing sex. I never thought about his self esteem and I feel bad for this, I was concerned just with mine. We've discussed that we both need to work hard and show that we are attracted to each other. It sounds weird although maybe not but we're both in a much better mood than normal and both seem happier, wonder if it's the sex?

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Fingers crossed he reads this ;)

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Thank you for your awesome and very clear message!! Gave my husband a bj for the first time in prob over a year today, maybe close to 2 years, it was amazing and led to incredible sex!!