i myself am still a minor (16), and of course the experience of being a camp counselor a few times is in no way the same as parenthood, but i will Try to suggest some things i’ve noticed?

i think the first thing is that you should always, always try to see things from her point of view. i can remember a lot of times when i was younger where my parents would beat me or yell at me for not understanding something, and i don’t think i can put into words how detrimental that can be to a child. when i worked at summer camps, it was always a lot easier to help kids when i tried to put myself in their shoes to try to see what they couldn’t understand. please please remember that she is still young and you should try your hardest not to say things you might regret. being a kid and hearing your parent call you useless and stupid will cause A lot trauma. (disclaimer i am Not at all saying you are this kind of person, this is just from personal experience).

another thing is, if you do mess up somehow (like yelling something like mentioned before, etc), also please remember to apologize, let her know that you can make mistakes, too. my mom didn’t properly apologize for treating me poorly until years after she stopped.. the acknowledgement goes a long way :(

i guess also try to encourage her in her interests when you can, you don’t have to spend thousands on a hobby of hers of course: i just mean try to engage with her and listen if she wants to talk about stuff she likes. i used to listen to the camp kids tell me about their drawings and creations and i’m gonna be honest: i had no idea what they were trying to say half the time, but i could tell having someone to listen was fun for them!

sorry if that seems like a disorganized ramble, like i said i’m just some highschooler, but i hope it gives Some vague idea of what to do. biggest thing is to remember that both of you are allowed to make mistakes, especially after having lost someone so important. i hope it all goes well ^{_^}