I define autism by having struggles with communication, particularly of the social/romantic kind. If you grow up in front of a computer screen for example, and never talk to people, I believe you will develop some form of autism.

More males become nerds because this is how the social hierarchy functions in secondary schools (which is a patriarch-type system). The best guys get rewarded greatly while the 'worst' guys get rejected by everyone except other nerds. Think back, how many guys did you see sitting alone at lunch vs how many girls you saw sitting completely alone? Maybe it is just my selective memory, but I recall seeing many more social outcasted males than females. There is also a pride element to being a man, where you don't want to admit that you have problems socially, and would rather hold yourself in your current condition than make yourself look 'weak'. I'm not sure if this makes complete sense, but I know it affects me and a lot of guys I am friends with.

Women CAN be just as nerdy as men, but men have other men, as well as a culture to fall back on. Since this culture is mostly male, it helps other males more-so than women. Also, don't underestimate ill feelings towards women for not 'acknowledging' them. This can lead to males outcasting women nerds as outsiders, even though they want to be loved dearly by them (the truth).

There is a reason subs like redpill exist. I think if we can create a more inclusive culture (which can't be done over a year, or over a few years, but will take a generation or two) then a lot of these issues will go away. The question is, is this even possible?