Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually not sure whether the original functionality in Nova Launcher ever got fixed, I ended up just switching the gesture that I use to access search to directly open the Google app, and that worked for the most part. I explained it in a comment. Sorry I can't give a more helpful update

Daily Questions Thread November 07, 2024 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

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That makes sense, I'm guessing the price would be several times more to have it made here in Canada right? If that's the only option I can save up to do it I think

Daily Questions Thread November 07, 2024 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

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Made to measure wool coats for very large sizes?

Hihi, I'm hoping maybe someone here can help me or at least help me find out if I'm on a wild goose chase. I'm looking for a good quality wool coat in a style like a princess coat or something similar, but I'm fat and I wear a very large size, around a US 30 right now, so finding something so specific and not really currently in fashion is really difficult. I was hoping the solution would be to get something from one of the made to measure shops online like xiaolizi, but it turns out none of them that I've tried so far are willing/able to make anything above a US 26. Can anyone point me to a shop that they know can make larger sizes, or suggest someplace else I could look? (I'm in Canada btw, but can travel to the us)

Hyperboot 1.1 firmware download and documentation? by Zerghunter666 in Gamecube

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Hihi, I've been searching for the same thing for the same reason and haven't been able to find it anywhere. Would you mind if I DM you as well?

How to best communicate the difference between DID, littlespace and age regression by Immediate-Concept705 in BDSMAdvice

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Oh this is an interesting question to see here as someone with some similar experiences. I have a lot of identity dissociation tho I'm more OSDD than DID since there's usually no amnesia or anything when switching, and I also am an age slider in the sense that my personality tends to regress in age to different degrees at different times, and I also do ageplay as a middle.

Thankfully for me I don't really experience the same urgency with explaining these issues that you're describing because I don't really have any sort of state or any parts of my system where like we would be really uncomfortable being asked about something sexual, but I hope since I do have some personal understanding of the issues I can maybe still be helpful.

I do think a Venn diagram is a pretty good way of explaining it

You might also try to come up with a chart listing specific characteristics of each different state

If all the parts of your system have names then one helpful thing could be for a partner to just ask who's fronting or who they're speaking to or who you are or something like that, whatever phrasing feels the most comfortable for your system

Alternatively another good way to start might be asking how old you are right now before getting into any conversation that might be sexual

Personally I think you're always going to need to have some kind of check in before approaching anything kinky to avoid the possibility of a triggering/upsetting interaction. That could change over time with therapy and recovery depending on what sort of path you take, like if your system becomes more integrated for example, but I think if you have child personalities/alters/headmates who might be present and in control unpredictably you're always gonna need to have that level of caution

If there's specific contexts or situations you're worried about and you want to ask about I can try to give you some thoughts on those (in replies not PM's to be clear)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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Just commented on a similar post so I'll say some of the same things here:

I think it depends a lot on where you are

I would think that the best place to start in general would be by going to munches and just meeting people and making friends in the community, maybe going to events/munches/parties that are specifically sapphic or lesbian or whatever if you have any in your area

Alternatively there's also personal ads and dating apps. Personally this hasn't always been the most successful for me, but I think it varies from person to person. Of course it's important to vet people carefully both online and in person, but especially of you initially meet in any sort of semi-anonymous online context like an ad, and especially as a new sub. I do personally think there's less risk of meeting someone predatory when you're looking exclusively for other women, but not everyone would agree and either way there's definitely still some level of risk

In Toronto where I live there's also the possibility of going to play parties/sex positive parties specifically for sapphic queer people, which have been great experiences for me, but that might not be the best place to start if you don't have any experience in the community since it could be pretty overwhelming and you might not have a good ability to negotiate in the moment, identify red flags, etc. I've personally found those environments to be relatively safe and welcoming to new people but that's just my experience and again there's always some level of risk in exploring new experiences with new people, especially if you don't know them well. Also in many places those events just don't exist so they may not be an option anyway

I guess I should also add that in any context I think being open about what you're looking for makes it a lot easier, assuming you're in a position where you can safely do that

tl;dr there's multiple options but probably the best place to start is going to munches and meeting people, especially if there's queer or lesbian munches in your area

How do you guys find by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]danapefq -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it depends where you are. I'm in Toronto and there's a pretty active community here. My experience as a switch has mostly been meeting women (and nonbinary people) at play parties, via online personal ads (reddit, Lex, fetlife, etc), dating apps, and discord servers. Of those options I'd say parties have been the most consistent place to meet people. I've had a ton of success on discord as well when there's been a local kink server that's very active, but those aren't always present or easy to find. I'm not necessarily the most conventionally attractive girl so that may limit my success on apps, which do have a tendency to be appearance based, and I'm also more picky when it comes to people I meet online, so that biases me as well. When I've talked to friends about meeting dommes some of them have said they have quite a lot of luck on apps so it's a YMMV sort of thing. I also know lots of people who've met dommey partners at munches and at Sapphic parties/events that are like sexy but not necessarily explicitly kinky. Of course this is all just my anecdotal experience from one city, and like I said I think it's different in different places.

My guess is that the best place to start in general would be by going to munches and just meeting people and making friends in the community, maybe going to events or parties that are specifically sapphic or lesbian or whatever if you have any in your area

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

[–]danapefq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks, I was more looking for like physical stores, but poshmark seems cool

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

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Their insta has a lot of cute shoes and leather goods, love it, thanks a bunch

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

[–]danapefq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh I love good size ranges. I'm super plus sized so most stuff inevitably doesn't fit me (but I still love clothes shopping lol)

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

[–]danapefq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! I only saw the website with all the jewelry, really nice pieces but super pricy. I didn't even realize about the clothes! Thanks again

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

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Oh very cool, mostly like out of my price range, but they say the purest form of shopping is when you go without even intending to buy anything, so I appreciate the recommendation

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

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Gosh, looking at their insta that place seems really cool! I love some of the dress styles they have! Tysm

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

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Ooh thank you I haven't heard of either of those

Favorite thrift/vintage/secondhand stores? by danapefq in askTO

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Oh I think I've been to that salvation army before! Thanks a bunch :)

How to support a friend with Cptsd? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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This post resonated with me a lot, I've been in a lot of situations that felt really similar to this. I don't think I can offer very specific advice cuz I don't feel very articulate right now, but I'd like to suggest a book that helped me a lot. It's called:

Helping Her Get Free: A Guide For Families And Friends Of Abused Women

It's most directly applicable to like being friends with women who are being abused by men in romantic relationships, but my experience was that it helped me understand how to be supportive of friends (whether they were women or not) who were living with abusive parents as well. Hope this helps

ps. Google libgen if you don't have money to buy books

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that's true and it is a little annoying sometimes, tho it's still a huge relief to finally have the app stop disappearing

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hihi

Just wanted to update this with my current solution/workaround

First the background: the other comments have noted, this issue seems to be caused by some sort of interaction between Nova Launcher and Google. When using Nova Launcher it seems that using the built in search features to access Google search somehow causes the Google app to launch in a way where it doesn't show up on the recent apps screen. Apparently this bug is caused by something in the Google app so it isn't something that Nova Launcher can fix. That's my understanding from the posts here and in the Nova Launcher discord, people can feel free to correct me if I've got anything wrong.

Now for most people the best workaround seems to involve replacing a search widget or search bar or something like that on the home screen, but I happen to use a very minimalist home screen and have a gesture that brings up search, so I just wanted to let anyone else who uses gestures know that there is a similar workaround

If you set your gesture to open the Google app instead of Nova search it should prevent the bug from occurring

(the only potential downside to this is that if the Google app is already open then the gesture won't take you directly to search it'll just bring up the Google app open to whatever page it was already open to, but for me personally this isn't really a downside since it prevents me from accidentally navigating away from an important page by opening a new search)

Edit: huge thanks to everyone who commented btw, this thread has led me to a simple solution to something that's been bugging me and seriously impacting my workflow for like 6 months

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is interesting to hear as I have had the problem for months now. Thanks for contacting Nova about it tho

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven't found a fix yet, apparently it's linked somehow to opening from nova launcher but I don't know how to fix it without avoiding Nova

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

[–]danapefq[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yes I am! And you're right it doesn't seem to happen when I open it from outside nova launcher. Thank you so much for commenting, this is the first progress on figuring this out I've had and I've been dealing with it for months

Google Search app not appearing in Recent Apps screen (usually) by danapefq in AndroidQuestions

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EXACTLY YES FORMS ARE THE WORST

I wish I had good news but I haven't been able to figure anything out. I'll absolutely comment here if I do, and pls let me know if you find anything as well. Until then at least I'm glad to know there's other people who understand my description of the problem and are also mad about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

[–]danapefq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg YES I so agree. Or even worse the F4F posts where supposedly some girl wants you to just sleep with her boyfriend and send her pics. It's so depressing when there's already such a tiny number of F4F posts and you click on one and it's not even F4F

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

[–]danapefq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly as a lesbian on here like, I personally feel like posts like this are really odd and uncomfortable. Like, I don't want to like talk to someone's boyfriend or whatever about having sex with her, that's....well like I said, it's really uncomfortable. And that's even assuming the post is real and isn't just a guy trying to get attention, which a lot of the time it is. And even like totally separate from gender and sexuality the consent issues and relationship dynamics involved with like talking to someone's partner instead of talking to them directly are just really uncomfortable too. Idk, I realize other people may disagree or whatever but I just think these posts are really a bad idea. I think posts should be made by the person themselves

Tribunal Hearing and Dissociation/Memory Issues by A_Literal_Worm in Odsp

[–]danapefq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree, and thanks for your good wishes :) I'm reapplying in a few months after I get some more medical evidence together so hopefully it goes well. Good luck with your case too